In a Dilemma..

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Al-bint said:


Peace brother!

When you think of your bond to be so strong, why do you think it'll be destroyed by your becoming a muslim? your becoming a muslim does not mean that you are going to abandon them, are you? See now that you have realized as to what is the truth do you not want save yourself and you family from the torment of Hell fire? or is it that you are afraid of what people are going to say?

Allah knows your difficulties more than I do. So I can only pray that Allah makes it easier for you.

wasalaam!
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Just through how they have reacted to other people reverting reassures me that they will not be pleases to the slightest if I revert. And as wrong as this sounds, yes I am afraid of what people are going to say..


Scimitar said:
Can you be honest and tell me why you want to revert? Because if it for the love of a girl - you will fear your parents... but if it is for the love of Allah - you're parents will take that back seat in your mind and heart.

Scimi
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The love of how the Muslim community stick together? The love of Allah (SWT)? The love of the teachings of the Prophets? And yes to an extent the love of a girl :?
 
Just want to update you all, kept my first fast this week and WOW it was so hard! But Alhamdulillah I did it :)

Allah (SWT) knows all and knows whats best, privately I am a muslim even though publicly I am not.. Allh (SWT) will guide me all the way..
 
Masha'Allaah that is good to hear. If you are privately already a Muslim, and belief is already in your heart, why not go ahead and declare the shahadah? It seems it won't be much different afterwards to what you are already doing now.
 
Dimension said:
The love of how the Muslim community stick together? The love of Allah (SWT)? The love of the teachings of the Prophets? And yes to an extent the love of a girl :?
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I applaud your honesty :) :D :) I hope it works out for you.... Bro, your first reasons were better than the last reason. If you stated your reasons in order of importance, then don't wait any longer - just take shahadah bro.

What is stopping you? but yourself? what is there to fear? but fear itself? :hmm:

Scimi
 
Scimitar said:
I applaud your honesty :) :D :) I hope it works out for you.... Bro, your first reasons were better than thelast reason. If you stated your reasons in order of importance, then don't wait any longer - just take shahadah bro.

What is stopping you? but yourself? what is there to fear? but fear itself? :hmm:

Scimi
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If I am lieing, I am only lieing to myself. That means their is no point lieing haha!!

And I do not know what I am fearing, fearing the unknown? I keep telling myself to keep doing what I am doing until I feel absolute certatin that this what I want to do, but when will this happen?
 
bro i understand hw u feel,my family dont really get islam they believe wot the media tells them..so when i was researching bout islam i too was afraid wot they would say and i even thought they would disown me but i had to do wot my heart felt and i knew islam was the truth..and couple months later i converted as for my parents the saw me in my hijaab so thats hw the found out but they arent happy but they havent cut me off so maybe your reading too much into it like me..who knows maybe they will be fine..but if u feel hw i felt then you shoukd do it..who knows wots gonna happen...but my brother please dont do this for the wrong reasons..
 
salamz brother, nice to c ur heart seeks the truth,
would you please watch this?


i'm pretty sure much will become clear once you have done so,
hint: think about the part where hind finds out about her brother's acceptance of the truth, and also on the final outcome.
for surely Allah brought about His decision.

"Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you delight are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger, and striving hard in His Cause; then wait until Allah brings about His Decision.
And Allah guides not the rebellious folk." [At-Tawbah:24]

i ended up leaving my house due to continuous fights with a kafir brother i have,
and now i've left the uk - Alhamdulillah, please pray that Allah brings the kids up as upright believers where they are, even though the governments are wicked, there's less lewdness.
a small sacrifice to make in light of paradise and hell.
peace :)
ur brother Abz
 
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Dimension said:
If I am lieing, I am only lieing to myself. That means their is no point lieing haha!!

And I do not know what I am fearing, fearing the unknown? I keep telling myself to keep doing what I am doing until I feel absolute certatin that this what I want to do, but when will this happen?
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I think you are in your late teens or early twenties bro. It is an age where we feel like we know what we want - but we are never certain of it. And the reason beingf is because, the world and all it's opportunities are screaming for your attention. No matter that you think you are away from all that - you was born into the dunya, and therefore it will always be a part of your focus.

In order to get that certainty which dispels fear bro, you must first understand that there really is nothing to fear, but fear. And if anything, it is Allah that one must fear - that is all. Easier said than done, right?

Wrong. Courage bro... stand up and be counted, take your shahadah, say "In the name of Allah" and just go for it. The older I get, the less I see "gray areas" if you know what I mean :)

Scimi
 
Scimitar said:
I think you are in your late teens or early twenties bro. It is an age where we feel like we know what we want - but we are never certain of it. And the reason beingf is because, the world and all it's opportunities are screaming for your attention. No matter that you think you are away from all that - you was born into the dunya, and therefore it will always be a part of your focus.

In order to get that certainty which dispels fear bro, you must first understand that there really is nothing to fear, but fear. And if anything, it is Allah that one must fear - that is all. Easier said than done, right?

Wrong. Courage bro... stand up and be counted, take your shahadah, say "In the name of Allah" and just go for it. The older I get, the less I see "gray areas" if you know what I mean :)

Scimi
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You are correct, I am turning 18 very soon Alhamdulilah!

I am very close to taking my Shahadah, and I believe that if all doesn't work out. I CAN live my life in secret as only Allah (SWT) knows who is Muslim and who is not and it is only Allah (SWT) who know what is in peoples hearts.

I ask you all to keep me in your Dua so that my path can become clearer.
Please also pray for me so that Haraam things such as Alcohol and any other sinful acts are clear for me, so that I do not need to Sin intentionally just to keep people doubts away. Please.
 
Ameen, will keep you in my dua. Bro... stick around :) we like your sincere nature :)

Scimi
 
Yeah I like this forum, alot more welcoming then other forums..

Im just worried that If I covert, I will feel like death if I sin. E.g. In Indian culture drink alcohol is a norm and everyone will expect me to follow the norm (even though I have expressed my feelings tht I HATE it) however somepeople will go out their way just for me to follw them. (Avoided them 100/100 so far haha)
 
Dimension said:
You are correct, I am turning 18 very soon Alhamdulilah!

I am very close to taking my Shahadah, and I believe that if all doesn't work out. I CAN live my life in secret as only Allah (SWT) knows who is Muslim and who is not and it is only Allah (SWT) who know what is in peoples hearts.

I ask you all to keep me in your Dua so that my path can become clearer.
Please also pray for me so that Haraam things such as Alcohol and any other sinful acts are clear for me, so that I do not need to Sin intentionally just to keep people doubts away. Please.
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InshaAllah I'll remember you in my Du'as! May Allah make your every step towards Islam easy for you...

Masha Allah you are very young and taking a life changing step at this age! May Allah protect you always and keep you away from sins and may your final abode be Jannah Insha Allah

Ameen!!


Fee amanillah
 
Assalamu aleikum brother Dimension...
I have been reading all posts in this thread and I just want to start with saying I absolutely know what you are feeling, at this point in time tough i have converted four months ago but have not told my parents. (I am 13 years old) I am so scared to tell them, and I have to live many more years with them.

Your situation is unique, but remember that there have been many Sikhs and Indians before you who converted to Islam.

Honestly, converting was the best thing that I have ever done. And I have had many troubles after that and will not guarantee that you will not either, but it feels very great afterwards.

I do not have that great of a relationship with my parents as you do, but what I will normally do in a situation is just refuse to do something without telling the real reason, such as saying I will not eat meat because I am a vegetarian (no halal meat or kosher in my house), ect. With Alcohol they will not pour wine down your throat correct? Tell them you are on a diet maybe or have decided to not drink anymore?? I have had to refuse to put on a bathing suit many times to keep my modesty, and it has been rare, but I have not let up.

Many people will tell you different things, but what you should do is listen to Allah SWT, what He tells you to do, not what other people do.

May Allah make it easy for you Ameen!!
 
Sumaiya54 said:
Assalamu aleikum brother Dimension...
I have been reading all posts in this thread and I just want to start with saying I absolutely know what you are feeling, at this point in time tough i have converted four months ago but have not told my parents. (I am 13 years old) I am so scared to tell them, and I have to live many more years with them.

Your situation is unique, but remember that there have been many Sikhs and Indians before you who converted to Islam.

Honestly, converting was the best thing that I have ever done. And I have had many troubles after that and will not guarantee that you will not either, but it feels very great afterwards.

I do not have that great of a relationship with my parents as you do, but what I will normally do in a situation is just refuse to do something without telling the real reason, such as saying I will not eat meat because I am a vegetarian (no halal meat or kosher in my house), ect. With Alcohol they will not pour wine down your throat correct? Tell them you are on a diet maybe or have decided to not drink anymore?? I have had to refuse to put on a bathing suit many times to keep my modesty, and it has been rare, but I have not let up.

Many people will tell you different things, but what you should do is listen to Allah SWT, what He tells you to do, not what other people do.

May Allah make it easy for you Ameen!!
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My dear sister,

You are an inspiration to us all!

May Allah (subhanawataála) reward you abundantly from the depths of His unlimited treasures.
And may He keep your heart firm on this deen.
Ameen.

Imaan is THE greatest blessing upon us.
Insha Allah, we always remember this.


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Sumaiya54 said:
Assalamu aleikum brother Dimension...
I have been reading all posts in this thread and I just want to start with saying I absolutely know what you are feeling, at this point in time tough i have converted four months ago but have not told my parents. (I am 13 years old) I am so scared to tell them, and I have to live many more years with them.

Your situation is unique, but remember that there have been many Sikhs and Indians before you who converted to Islam.

Honestly, converting was the best thing that I have ever done. And I have had many troubles after that and will not guarantee that you will not either, but it feels very great afterwards.

I do not have that great of a relationship with my parents as you do, but what I will normally do in a situation is just refuse to do something without telling the real reason, such as saying I will not eat meat because I am a vegetarian (no halal meat or kosher in my house), ect. With Alcohol they will not pour wine down your throat correct? Tell them you are on a diet maybe or have decided to not drink anymore?? I have had to refuse to put on a bathing suit many times to keep my modesty, and it has been rare, but I have not let up.

Many people will tell you different things, but what you should do is listen to Allah SWT, what He tells you to do, not what other people do.

May Allah make it easy for you Ameen!!
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Alhamdulilah! At such a young age you seem to be so mature and it is great that you have reverted.

I keep talking/listening to people who have reverted and it seems that their path has been so easy. Whereas whenever I put myself in their situation it seems to be some kind of fairytale. I cannot see my path to revert as easy as yours. I cannot make such big changes without my family or friends becoming suspicious.

Inshallah, everything will become clear..
 

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