Is it acceptable to cry?

[AnonymousPoster]

Is it forbidden to cry? During the day in the office, I am comfortable and can laugh and hold conversations with people. As soon as I leave the office, I feel horrible and I cry myself home while driving. My evenings are silent. I feel pain under my ribs and all around my ribs just under my arms. I feel like I want to cry, but nothing is happening. Am I beyond messed up? Do I need a brick thrown at my head to snap out of it all? Am I so foolish?

 

[glo]

Why should it be forbidden to cry? Are our emotions not what make us human? And are they not God-given??

Another (and possibly more important) question is why do you feel like crying so much?

Have you gone through much stress and strain lately? Are you under pressure?
Perhaps you should see a doctor to have a general health check. What kind of pain is this you are experiencing?
Or find somebody you can talk any problems over with.

I fear that worryig about whether crying is permitted or not could only add to any already existing feelings of burden/guilt/stress.

God loves you, and you should take care of yourself!
Please seek medical advice.

Peace

 

[Belief_is_Power]

What exactly do you cry about?

 

[Talha777]

Crying softens the heart. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa salaam and many of his companions used to soak the ground with their tears when they went into sajda (prostration) before their Maker.

 

[Kittygyal]

Assalamualikum.

^ True, subhan'Allaah

Cry as much as you want don't worry..

Ma'assalama

 

[glo]

Assalamualikum.

^ True, subhan'Allaah

Cry as much as you want don't worry..

Ma'assalama

I'm afraid I disagree, Kitty.
If there are underlying emotional problems, they need to be explored and solved.
Crying can be beneficial and therapeutic thing, but it can also be the sign of hidden physical problems or unresolved trauma ...

Better to check it out, I think.

peace

 

[Ibn Al Aqwa]

my opinion, not sure where i got it from but,

crying over things related to Dunyah is pointless, and i would say that should be stopped, or rather, be very limited...

crying out of fear/love for Allaah...that is definitely a good sign...and should be increased...

Allaahu'alim

 

[Kittygyal]

I'm afraid I disagree, Kitty.
If there are underlying emotional problems, they need to be explored and solved.
Crying can be beneficial and therapeutic thing, but it can also be the sign of hidden physical problems or unresolved trauma ...

Better to check it out, I think.

peace

Howdy.

Ya i understand, then again crying is good because you'll feel kinda better.. but ya crying often can harm you... Something which is bothering from inside must be heard and let out unless it's something which only Allaah should deal with.. Crying for repentance and for love of Allaah is wonderful..

Then again, speak to someone and seek help

Buh bye..

 

[Hijaabi22]

Is it forbidden to cry? During the day in the office, I am comfortable and can laugh and hold conversations with people. As soon as I leave the office, I feel horrible and I cry myself home while driving. My evenings are silent. I feel pain under my ribs and all around my ribs just under my arms. I feel like I want to cry, but nothing is happening. Am I beyond messed up? Do I need a brick thrown at my head to snap out of it all? Am I so foolish?

whaaaaaaaaa

man me cry like al d tym

if i dont get wat i want then thaaaaaaaaatss itttttt :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

see dats d only way i can get wat i want- AHAHAHAHAAHAHHAAAAAAAAAAAA

Hence why am a spoilt brat

 

[kitten]

I agree it could be down to depression or unresolved past issues . Either way please do get it checked out inshaAllah.

You can also use that time to make dua. The duas where one is shedding tears and pleading to Allah will be one of the duas raised highest and thus accepted.

Talk to Him and ask Him for his help, guidance and protection.

You have my duas! inshaAllah

 

[Pure Imaan]

I also feel like that. I am currently going through a test which requires patience and I am doing the BEST that I can but sometimes it gets abit too much so I cry to myself but then I assure myself the purpose of this world, the trials and tribulations and that the Hereafter is our real home, I think about the Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) and Allah (swt), I feel better knowing that Allah is close to me ALHUMDULLILAH, so I stop.

Sometimes I feel bad to cry because what I am going through it is nothing compared to what my muslims brothers and sisters are experiancing in Iraq, Afghan etc, our family who are being oppressed, children that have lost their parents and so forth, so I force myself not to cry becuase my mind tells me that I shouldn't and that it is weak....am I wrong for thinking like this.

Also, can I ask AnonymousGender the reasons behind as to why you cry so much?

 

[chacha_jalebi]

cryin all the time? no reason? sounds like hayfever

lol naa anony, i think you need to like think about what your crying because there has to be a reason. inshallah i hope you get better

 

[Kittygyal]

whaaaaaaaaa

man me cry like al d tym

if i dont get wat i want then thaaaaaaaaatss itttttt :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

see dats d only way i can get wat i want- AHAHAHAHAAHAHHAAAAAAAAAAAA

Hence why am a spoilt brat

Assalamualikum

Tissues

I know what you means, but it's true gyals have senstive heart man.. we cry all the time because we do init it's true... we need to like be hard init :coolalien

Ma'assalama

 

[The Ruler]

I somehow feel that your post is something that's beyond a question as simple as "Is it forbidden to cry?"

Is it forbidden to cry?

No, it is not. No where in the Qur'an or the Sunnah tells us against it. Infact, it encourages us to cry to Allah (swt).

During the day in the office, I am comfortable and can laugh and hold conversations with people. As soon as I leave the office, I feel horrible and I cry myself home while driving. My evenings are silent. I feel pain under my ribs and all around my ribs just under my arms.

Loneliness? Pain under the arms happens to me too. Sometimes when you feel your throat clogged, and you don't cry, it hurts below the arm and your ribs hurt... Possibly due to pressure which isn't released?

I feel like I want to cry, but nothing is happening. Am I beyond messed up?

May I ask you, do you feel that emotions are a sign of weakness, and that crying is bad? And no, you're not messed up nor are you foolish.

Do I need a brick thrown at my head to snap out of it all?

No. You just need time.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

no, is it acceptable to never cry at all is the question...


assalamu alaikum

 

[The Ruler]

no, is it acceptable to never cry at all is the question...


assalamu alaikum

Polite question: I don't see where the sister has clarified that. *Confused*

 

[Re.TiReD]

Is it forbidden to cry?

Can you stop the tears? if you're hurt the tears flow without you waiting for it to happen, its natural.

During the day in the office, I am comfortable and can laugh and hold conversations with people.

Masha'Allah

As soon as I leave the office, I feel horrible and I cry myself home while driving.

Lonliness? Maybe you need somebody to talk to...it seems you're ok when you have people around you...

My evenings are silent.

If only I had silent evenings, i'd be able to concentrate more on prayers, SubhanAllah! Thats the best time to pray to Allah Subhanahu Wata'aala, talk to him and He'll help you through...

May you be filled with Sakeenah bro/sis, Ameen!

I feel pain under my ribs and all around my ribs just under my arms. I feel like I want to cry, but nothing is happening.

People have different ways of dealing with pain and misery...maybe the pain is tension....Insha'Allah try to relax a little when that happens...

Am I beyond messed up?

If that was true I'd be the next prime minister *smile*

Never lose hope...

'Become a person who repels problems with patience because there will not be such a day in which you do not see something undesirable'

Do I need a brick thrown at my head to snap out of it all?

No, it'll just give you a headache and add to your worries, have a nice, hot soak instead....

Am I so foolish?

Nope, you're in pain, you sound confused, I think a good dose of talking therapy should do the trick...

All the best *smile*

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Is it forbidden to cry?

why would it be. im not saying its right or wrong, but i just want to know why you think it may/may not be?

During the day in the office, I am comfortable and can laugh and hold conversations with people.
As soon as I leave the office, I feel horrible and I cry myself home while driving.

maybe you need to hang out with people. it sounds like you feel lonely. :sunny:

Am I beyond messed up?

im not sure, but even if you were, you can always be helped, inshallah
[/QUOTE]Do I need a brick thrown at my head to snap out of it all? Am I so foolish? [/QUOTE]
absolutley not! what kind of question is that?! relax man... :sunny:

 

[true believer]

maybe something happened in ur life before that might be causing u 2 cry so much and so worry its OK to cry. it is betta to let it out then hold the pain in. maybe u feel lonely? watever happens may allah guide and help u through dis.

 

[aminahjaan]

It's not unusual to cry, if you're stressed out and stuff, but if theres something really bad, I would suggest seeing a professional or talking to a friend about how you feel to sort things out. Everyone cries, its a normal emotion, we're only human!