is it ok lying in this situation?

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:sl: brothers and sisters, may Allah reward for your hard works for this deen.

sometimes you have random people ask you questions that you might otherwise not answer. lets say you are in a shopping place, and then someone or shopkeeper asks you question like 'where are you from?' or 'how old are you?' is it ok to just make up the age or country, because if you dont want to tell strangers these kind of information but you also dont want to be rude to them. i dont know why should we just give out some information to random people, so is it ok to lie, but also you will feel guilty.
 
"Where are you from?" and "How old are you?" does not tell much about a person. They can't do anything with this kind of information. However, If they ask you your address or more personal information then just say why are you asking, i am not supposed to say or my mum said not to give personal info out to strangers.

Why lie when you can settle this small situation by telling the truth? :hmm:

Honesty is the best policy.
 
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anonymous said:
:sl: brothers and sisters, may Allah reward for your hard works for this deen.

sometimes you have random people ask you questions that you might otherwise not answer. lets say you are in a shopping place, and then someone or shopkeeper asks you question like 'where are you from?' or 'how old are you?' is it ok to just make up the age or country, because if you dont want to tell strangers these kind of information but you also dont want to be rude to them. i dont know why should we just give out some information to random people, so is it ok to lie, but also you will feel guilty.
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just dont worry about it. trust on Allah. i have a feeling what u are afraid about but nothing can harm u only by the permission of Allah :) and only lie about ur age when u get old;D
 
cat eyes said:
just dont worry about it. trust on Allah. i have a feeling what u are afraid about but nothing can harm u only by the permission of Allah :) and only lie about ur age when u get old;D
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Us old timers are too proud of our age to lie about it. There are real advantages to get past the age of 65, not only the nice discounts in restaurants. Although sometimes when people ask me my age I am very tempted to say 15 just to see the look on their face.
 
Life_Is_Short said:
"Where are you from?" and "How old are you?" does not tell much about a person. They can't do anything with this kind of information. However, If they ask you your address or more personal information then just say why are you asking, i am not supposed to say or my mum said not to give personal info out to strangers.

Why lie when you can settle this small situation by telling the truth? :hmm:

Honesty is the best policy.
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Not to mention that you also let them know that not all people accept being asked personal questions, which is something that they should learn if they go as far as address or personal details. Age and country of origin are just small talk and they may just be trying to be friendly. Lying however is a major thing and the prophet -s.a.a.w.- demanded we don't lie even in jest.
 
I understand u feel a bit uncomfortable to answer a complete stranger that way, just step away no need to lie.

Tha malls not so bad, imagine sitting nxt to someone on the train, plane, or bus, n they just keep diggin 4 ur personal info..now thats borderline annoying, not to mention plain creepy. Even wen a woman does it still gives me the creeps...
 
there is only 3 situations where u are permissible to lie and ur situation is not one of it.
 
Safiya 1 said:
Assalamualaikum


Please specify them...
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From "Ehiaa Oloum al-Din," by the famous Islamic scholar al-Ghazali, Vol. 3: PP.284-287:

One of Mohammed's daughters, Umm Kalthoum, testified that she had never heard the Apostle of Allah condone lying, except in these three situations:

For reconciliation among people.
In war.
Amongst spouses, to keep peace in the family.
 
why do strangers have to ask then? so the best thing to do is to ignore them or change the subject or something. im not a kid, so cant say my mum dont allow me to say these kind of things. it is annoying though there might not be any harm, but why in the world would i tell strangers any info, like what in the world for?? so you see... i sometimes dont like to tell, and when people ask, i say another country or another age close to mine, or the country close to mine. its not that i like to lie, i really dont.
 
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why do strangers have to ask then? so the best thing to do is to ignore them or change the subject or something. im not a kid, so cant say my mum dont allow me to say these kind of things. it is annoying though there might not be any harm, but why in the world would i tell strangers any info, like what in the world for?? so you see... i sometimes dont like to tell, and when people ask, i say another country or another age close to mine, or the country close to mine. its not that i like to lie, i really dont.
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:sl: it is best just to say in a normal and gentle tone, "I'm sorry i would rather not reveal that but thank you anyway" and simply walk away normally.

That is not being rude at all for it is being polite in saying that you would rather not reveal anything about yourself. If you don't want to reveal anything about yourself then don't feel compelled to have to lie just tell them you would rather not in the polite manner mentioned.

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^thank you all for your answers, may Allah bless you all dear brothers and sisters. i will try to do what is mentioned, maybe slowly by slowly then inshAllah it will be fine. i shouldnt lie even small like this, sometimes the lying just happens in this kind of situation, then i feel guilty, but next time if this happens again, i will tell them i dont like to say this information, or maybe i can change subject, and if i can get away with just ignoring, then maybe that inshAllah.

may Allah bless you all dear brothers and sisters for being service to the deen, really it is very great mashAllah.
 

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