Is it okay to say NO to marriage in Islam?

[جوري]

don't delay it until menopause hits you!
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my friend was hit by menopause in her early twenties a rare condition.. how do you answer that?
When folks desire to get married they should make their intention so insha'Allah, Allah swt fulfills three sincere intents
1- Getting out of debt
2- making pilgrimage
3- getting married

but It is never OK to coerce folks into a marriage because they are 'behind schedule' or for some other obscene reason.. being single is better than being in a bad marriage in my humble opinion


and Allah swt knows best

 

['Abd Al-Maajid]

...Allah swt fulfills three sincere intents
1- Getting out of debt
2- making pilgrimage
3- getting married...

Subhan Allah...:statisfie

 

[islamirama]

im not sure what the status of marriage is in the Sunnah (i.e whether its obligatory or not), but what i i do know is that force marriages are a no-no...i dont know if thats of help.

Marriage in Islam is a recommended as a religious requirement.

"Marry those among you who are single and (marry) your slaves, male and female, that are righteous" (Quran 24:32)

Prophet Muhammad (S) declared:

"When the servant of Allah marries, he has fulfilled half the (responsibilities laid on him by the) faith; so let him be God conscious with respect to the other half". (Mishkat)

Marriage has also been commended as the way of the prophets.

"We indeed sent messengers before you (O Muhammad), and We assigned them wives and children" (Quran 13:38)

Marriage, in fact, is specifically considered the tradition (sunnah) of Prophet Muhammad (S) when he declared:

"Marriage is my Sunnah, whoever disregards my (sunnah) path is not from among us". (ibn Majah)

Islam discourages celibacy and encourages marriage, as Prophet Muhammad (S) recommended:

"Whoever is able to marry, should marry". (Bukhari)

http://www.soundvision.com/info/Islam/marriage.purpose.asp

 

[HanaDeyl]

but It is never OK to coerce folks into a marriage because they are 'behind schedule' or for some other obscene reason.. being single is better than being in a bad marriage in my humble opinion

and Allah swt knows best

I couldn't agree more. But it's sad though, that we women have a biological watch that we need to take into consideration. I love kids, and I wish I could wait to get married till I was 40, but that's not realistic when you know you want children.

 

[جوري]

I couldn't agree more. But it's sad though, that we women have a biological watch that we need to take into consideration. I love kids, and I wish I could wait to get married till I was 40, but that's not realistic when you know you want children.

There is indeed an optimum time to have kids, but more folks are having children today in their thirties and forties than ever before

there is an increasing trend towards women having their babies in their thirties, whereas previously the dominant trend was to have babies in their twenties. Generally women in their thirties and forties have the fastest rising birth rates. In the USA last year over 9% of births were to women over 40 years of age.

http://www.bhia.org/womanagematter.htm

There are lots more problems all around for older mothers and believe me I wish everyone an optimal marriage and children at the best age, but everything is changing unfortunately in society that many people are simply not able to get married before they can at least have some financial stability.. but I think people should have children at whatever age so long as they are biologically capable of it.


and Allah swt knows best