Is it permissible to get married secretly if the girl's parents are racist?

[SintoDinto]

Many ahiska turks never marry outside their ethnic group as a rule, and i heard one story of a turk and an ahiska getting married in secret. if someone wanted to marry a girl with racist parents, can they marry in secret since the parents are sinful?

 

[فصيح الياسين]

Many ahiska turks never marry outside their ethnic group as a rule, and i heard one story of a turk and an ahiska getting married in secret. if someone wanted to marry a girl with racist parents, can they marry in secret since the parents are sinful?

What does secret means first kindly elaborate. Second if it means without parents permission then it will be valid marriage but she must not do it. Cuz marriage is not a child play but serious affairs and bear hardships etc.

 

[BeTheChange]

And do you intend to do the impossible and hide your pregnant wife as well? Because after marriage comes babies insha Allah.

Marriage is an open act of worship and should be a celebration.

If the parents are racist approach the parents, speak to them gently and with compassion, give it time, make dua etc. eventually they will agree. If they don't then speak to your imam to see what the best resolution is.

Mixing amongst different races isn't always about racism. Us humans are programmed to be amongst people of similar values and culture etc. Have an open mind.

 

[MazharShafiq]

Marriage is an open act of worship and should be a celebration.

If the parents are racist approach the parents, speak to them gently and with compassion, give it time, make dua etc. eventually they will agree. If they don't then speak to your imam to see what the best resolution is.

 

[SintoDinto]

Marriage is an open act of worship and should be a celebration.

If the parents are racist approach the parents, speak to them gently and with compassion, give it time, make dua etc. eventually they will agree. If they don't then speak to your imam to see what the best resolution is.

quit plagiarizing (stealing) people's posts. your not adding anything original to the conversation. youre just taking other peoples answers and rewording them. it's annoying.

 

[azc]

quit plagiarizing (stealing) people's posts. your not adding anything original to the conversation. youre just taking other peoples answers and rewording them. it's annoying.

It means he is agree with her 100%

 

[فصيح الياسين]

quit plagiarizing (stealing) people's posts. your not adding anything original to the conversation. youre just taking other peoples answers and rewording them. it's annoying.

Dear zinto if two people answer are the same then i guess its not problem and niether good manners too . As it revokes anger and after war in teror another war starts . WAR IN POSTS

 

[ardianto]

When I was young some people in family of a girl ever offered idea to me to get married secretly. I and the girl from that family loved each other. But there was a problem regarding to custom and tradition. Age of marriage in their community was younger than in my community. That's why they wanted me marry that girl immediately. But my mother very against it since I was still study in university. So they offered idea to marry that girl secretly, and telling my mother later after I finished my study and have a job.

Did I accept this idea?. I could not disrecpect my mother like that. If I got married secretly, soon or later my mothe would know and would feel very disrespected.

Getting married secretly is action of disrespecting parents. So I really do not suggest it. And I very suggest the brothers here to not make a girl disrespecting her parents through secret marriage.

 

[فصيح الياسين]

When I was young some people in family of a girl ever offered idea to me to get married secretly. I and the girl from that family loved each other. But there was a problem regarding to custom and tradition. Age of marriage in their community was younger than in my community. That's why they wanted me marry that girl immediately. But my mother very against it since I was still study in university. So they offered idea to marry that girl secretly, and telling my mother later after I finished my study and have a job.

Did I accept this idea?. I could not disrecpect my mother like that. If I got married secretly, soon or later my mothe would know and would feel very disrespected.

Getting married secretly is action of disrespecting parents. So I really do not suggest it. And I very suggest the brothers here to not make a girl disrespecting her parents through secret marriage.

Everyone is not same as you dear bro.. u really respected ur mother's words..
Time changed alot. U see alot of differences. Mostly people not respects elders but the this thing occured from elders not to teach them good manners and respect thus as u sow so shall u reap...
By the way thats off topic

 

[SintoDinto]

Everyone is not same as you dear bro.. u really respected ur mother's words..
Time changed alot. U see alot of differences. Mostly people not respects elders but the this thing occured from elders not to teach them good manners and respect thus as u sow so shall u reap...
By the way thats off topic

I keep having dreams that dream interpretations (including some of my own) indicate I will marry a girl without her parent's consent, at least initially. I interpreted one together with other interpretations as meaning I would wait patiently to legalize a union, but Allahu alem. I fear falling into sin. I also saw a dream whichan interpretation by the diyanet (religious directory of turkey) interpreted as meaning who it would be in particular. but let's not discuss the dreams in particular, as that is banned. EDIT: meaning that I would see a girl and then get married when her parents allow, i presume

 

[SintoDinto]

When I was young some people in family of a girl ever offered idea to me to get married secretly. I and the girl from that family loved each other. But there was a problem regarding to custom and tradition. Age of marriage in their community was younger than in my community. That's why they wanted me marry that girl immediately. But my mother very against it since I was still study in university. So they offered idea to marry that girl secretly, and telling my mother later after I finished my study and have a job.

Did I accept this idea?. I could not disrecpect my mother like that. If I got married secretly, soon or later my mothe would know and would feel very disrespected.

Getting married secretly is action of disrespecting parents. So I really do not suggest it. And I very suggest the brothers here to not make a girl disrespecting her parents through secret marriage.

Did you end up marrying the girl after college? And is she the same girl as that village girl?

 

[ardianto]

Did you end up marrying the girl after college? And is she the same girl as that village girl?

The girl who I mentioned above was that village girl. She came from traditionalist family in traditionalist community. In that community, if a girl had left her teen age, then her value would be reduced. So a girl must get married at least in age 20/21 before her value reduced and reduced, and make her hard to get husband. That girl mother actually had planned to marry off her daughter with another guy. That’s why she rejected me in the beginning. But after long and intense approach, she allowed me to marry her daughter although her daughter must wait until I finished my study.

Did I end up marrying that village girl?. No. Later I married another girl who I knew earlier.

I managed to convince that girl mother to accept me (her father considered outsider since had divorced and remarried). But I failed to get approval from my mother. In my culture the guy mothers have big power. If a mother does not approve the girl who chosen by her son, it will make this girl afraid to marry her son. And if a mother like a girl, then she will force her son to choose this girl. That’s what happened. So that village girl decide d to not marry me, and I married another girl who be liked my mother.

 

[CuriousonTruth]

The girl who I mentioned above was that village girl. She came from traditionalist family in traditionalist community. In that community, if a girl had left her teen age, then her value would be reduced. So a girl must get married at least in age 20/21 before her value reduced and reduced, and make her hard to get husband. That girl mother actually had planned to marry off her daughter with another guy. That’s why she rejected me in the beginning. But after long and intense approach, she allowed me to marry her daughter although her daughter must wait until I finished my study.

Did I end up marrying that village girl?. No. Later I married another girl who I knew earlier.

I managed to convince that girl mother to accept me (her father considered outsider since had divorced and remarried). But I failed to get approval from my mother. In my culture the guy mothers have big power. If a mother does not approve the girl who chosen by her son, it will make this girl afraid to marry her son. And if a mother like a girl, then she will force her son to choose this girl. That’s what happened. So that village girl decide d to not marry me, and I married another girl who be liked my mother.

Sounds a lot like arab family, where the mother has a lot of power in such decision making. In the subcontinent, it's the father.

And in terms of marrying secretly and eloping, it's overwhelmingly done by girls, not by guys in the indian subcontinent.