Maybe at this point they seem like a hassle to you, but in reality if one is physically fit enough, they should have children, as soon as they can, because of sooo many reasons, recuperating fast as a mother( healthwise) being one of them. I think having children can teach you so much about Allah swt, marvelously increases your patience, makes you a better person. Besides who would want to miss out on having jannah at their feet by being a mother 
. I guess one may need to make their mind up about them, it is also the sunnah of the prophet to have children.
There is a hadith that goes something like " dont stop having children, or kill them for the fear of not being able to provide for them, for it is Allah who feeds all his creations and every time you have a child, your sustenance will increase. Every child brings his own fate to this world."
I find this to be really true, no doubt. Parents sometimes just over worry about sustenance , where-as Allah swt says that "I have promised you your Rizk ( sustenance, what you eat, live by) and I have not promised you jannah, why is it then you worry so much about where the next meal is going to come from, and little about whether you will go to jannah?
There was a re-search sometime ago comparing the immunity systems of children of poverty stricken areas( dirt infested) and those of very clean areas, ( urban class, privileged) and the astounding result was that children from poor areas had much better, healthier, stronger immune systems than those of urban areas. So, one must have faith in Allah swt, our Prophet was orphaned around the age of 6, was he( nauzubillah) any less of a proper human being? No he had a good upbringing, and had good sustenance SubhanAllah.
I know people who have waited too long to build their careers in order to increase their income, and then when they wanted children, they could not have them despite trying so hard.
Only Allah swt knows best though. Pray for Him to make your heart like children more and not fear them so much, well I say that because of experience , i didn't like children so much either but when my own sister had them, I could not believe what it makes you feel to have been blessed with a child in your family, it is a very blissful feeling subhanAllah, it just changes you. I loved taking care of them, and I was able to learn so much around them, since you have to watch your actions all the time infront of kids hehe so it was a really good experience Alhamdulilah. ( esp when a lil boy of 3 tells you innocently but resolutely, (insert name) " you cant do this khala you know Allah swt does not like it, He will be angry with you and punish you! ( i wasn't giving him the cookies : p ) "
Coming from a kids mouth, they are very powerful words, definitely work for me!
Peace and blessings upon you sister, may you be blessed in what ever is the best for you. If incase one prays for the children, one must never forget to pray with the qualities they desire in their children ( i want obedient, pious ,healthy , normal cute kids lol (the cute was optional )and lastly we would lovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvve to see such a beautiful person's kids
. I guess one may need to make their mind up about them, it is also the sunnah of the prophet to have children. There is a hadith that goes something like " dont stop having children, or kill them for the fear of not being able to provide for them, for it is Allah who feeds all his creations and every time you have a child, your sustenance will increase. Every child brings his own fate to this world."
I find this to be really true, no doubt. Parents sometimes just over worry about sustenance , where-as Allah swt says that "I have promised you your Rizk ( sustenance, what you eat, live by) and I have not promised you jannah, why is it then you worry so much about where the next meal is going to come from, and little about whether you will go to jannah?
There was a re-search sometime ago comparing the immunity systems of children of poverty stricken areas( dirt infested) and those of very clean areas, ( urban class, privileged) and the astounding result was that children from poor areas had much better, healthier, stronger immune systems than those of urban areas. So, one must have faith in Allah swt, our Prophet was orphaned around the age of 6, was he( nauzubillah) any less of a proper human being? No he had a good upbringing, and had good sustenance SubhanAllah.
I know people who have waited too long to build their careers in order to increase their income, and then when they wanted children, they could not have them despite trying so hard.
Only Allah swt knows best though. Pray for Him to make your heart like children more and not fear them so much, well I say that because of experience , i didn't like children so much either but when my own sister had them, I could not believe what it makes you feel to have been blessed with a child in your family, it is a very blissful feeling subhanAllah, it just changes you. I loved taking care of them, and I was able to learn so much around them, since you have to watch your actions all the time infront of kids hehe so it was a really good experience Alhamdulilah. ( esp when a lil boy of 3 tells you innocently but resolutely, (insert name) " you cant do this khala you know Allah swt does not like it, He will be angry with you and punish you! ( i wasn't giving him the cookies : p ) "
Coming from a kids mouth, they are very powerful words, definitely work for me!
Peace and blessings upon you sister, may you be blessed in what ever is the best for you. If incase one prays for the children, one must never forget to pray with the qualities they desire in their children ( i want obedient, pious ,healthy , normal cute kids lol (the cute was optional )and lastly we would lovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvve to see such a beautiful person's kids
