is it wrong to marry someone from another race

[Beardo]

Wow. I may be a bit far out here (just got out of surgery and meds kicking in!) but I don't see any problem marrying someone from another race, as long as he or she is Muslim .. I don't see the big deal.

From some of the comments I have read here, the way they were presented, it seemed as if OP's friend is marrying someone from a different religion! I can't believe how judgmental some people can be.

As an Admin, I can't use the word "judgemental" against anyone, but you are right. Sometimes we are unable to find people amongst our own race, so we go look into other races. And you explained it quite well! It's like they are of another religion.

I remember one social circle we have in my locality (from my personal ethnicity) they restrict themselves to the same race. They consider befriending someone from another race means you are becoming a gangster or going to the "dark side". Really, if they are good people and can have good influence on you, then what's the problem?

But marriage is a different issue. Americans, as you may have noticed, are open in terms of marriage. However, with other races, there are language barriers.

I see this among the first generations in America, mainly. The newer generations are much more open towards other races. But the first generation feel that their children are losing their culture. I personally don't see the problem with that as long as they still have a grasp on their religion... But it's a reasonable concern.

I used to say I was embarassed of my ehtnicity. But I realize now it was very wrong of me to even think that. I am of Bangladeshi decent and I am proud! That is what Allah Ta'ala made me, and I am proud of it.

And I respect all other ethnicities.

...Wow., I feel like an oldie saying "older" and "newer" generations. ;D

 

[CosmicPathos]

As an Admin, I can't use the word "judgemental" against anyone, but you are right. Sometimes we are unable to find people amongst our own race, so we go look into other races. And you explained it quite well! It's like they are of another religion.

I remember one social circle we have in my locality (from my personal ethnicity) they restrict themselves to the same race. They consider befriending someone from another race means you are becoming a gangster or going to the "dark side". Really, if they are good people and can have good influence on you, then what's the problem?

But marriage is a different issue. Americans, as you may have noticed, are open in terms of marriage. However, with other races, there are language barriers.

I see this among the first generations in America, mainly. The newer generations are much more open towards other races. But the first generation feel that their children are losing their culture. I personally don't see the problem with that as long as they still have a grasp on their religion... But it's a reasonable concern.

I used to say I was embarassed of my ehtnicity. But I realize now it was very wrong of me to even think that. I am of Bangladeshi decent and I am proud! That is what Allah Ta'ala made me, and I am proud of it.

And I respect all other ethnicities.

...Wow., I feel like an oldie saying "older" and "newer" generations. ;D

Amazing, you should be proud of your "bengaliness" in a religious way. Bengalis have thousands of years old civilization which has contributed immensely to human knowledge. Again though, religion takes priority.

 

[SweetCherryPie]

funny. .. . just because people disagree or have different opinions they are called judgmental? I think the meds are really kicking in.

I don't see anything funny about that. I can agree to disagree but there were a few who, I am pretty sure, felt the same way but didn't bother to say it

Thanks for your comment though. Appreciate it

As an Admin, I can't use the word "judgemental" against anyone, but you are right. Sometimes we are unable to find people amongst our own race, so we go look into other races. And you explained it quite well! It's like they are of another religion.

I remember one social circle we have in my locality (from my personal ethnicity) they restrict themselves to the same race. They consider befriending someone from another race means you are becoming a gangster or going to the "dark side". Really, if they are good people and can have good influence on you, then what's the problem?

But marriage is a different issue. Americans, as you may have noticed, are open in terms of marriage. However, with other races, there are language barriers.

I see this among the first generations in America, mainly. The newer generations are much more open towards other races. But the first generation feel that their children are losing their culture. I personally don't see the problem with that as long as they still have a grasp on their religion... But it's a reasonable concern.

I used to say I was embarassed of my ehtnicity. But I realize now it was very wrong of me to even think that. I am of Bangladeshi decent and I am proud! That is what Allah Ta'ala made me, and I am proud of it.

And I respect all other ethnicities.

...Wow., I feel like an oldie saying "older" and "newer" generations. ;D

Oh Mr. Rashad! I understand perfectly. I have been there where a few of my friends, didn't want me to hang out with another race, purely for that reason only. What's worst is that, they also wouldn't want to befriend people from another religion.

For me, I believe that if that person - whatever religion/race - has a good heart and respect others as much as others respect him or her, I am fine with it. I also believe, the mentality of a person - it depends on how he or she is brought up.

You should be proud of your race/ethnicity! I am of mixed parentage and I'm proud of who I am.

Thank you for your respond to my post. It was very well thought out

 

[CosmicPathos]

I don't see anything funny about that. I can agree to disagree but there were a few who, I am pretty sure, felt the same way but didn't bother to say it

Thanks for your comment though. Appreciate it



Oh Mr. Rashad! I understand perfectly. I have been there where a few of my friends, didn't want me to hang out with another race, purely for that reason only. What's worst is that, they also wouldn't want to befriend people from another religion.

For me, I believe that if that person - whatever religion/race - has a good heart and respect others as much as others respect him or her, I am fine with it. I also believe, the mentality of a person - it depends on how he or she is brought up.

You should be proud of your race/ethnicity! I am of mixed parentage and I'm proud of who I am.

Thank you for your respond to my post. It was very well thought out

Sure I respect your feelings as I expect my feelings/opinions to be respected.

Regarding hanging out and chilling around with people of other religion as friends, I think Allah's command is pretty clear about that. I dont need to do moral policing here but you can look it up in the Quran. I personally believe if people really had good and sincere hearts as you put it, they would have accepted Islam readily. But this is just my opinion.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i'l tell you whats wrong



falling in love with someone to the extent of "he/she is the only one" BEFORE MARRIAGE



that is PURE WRONG



Assalamu Alaikum

 

[SweetCherryPie]

Sure I respect your feelings as I expect my feelings/opinions to be respected.

Regarding hanging out and chilling around with people of other religion as friends, I think Allah's command is pretty clear about that. I dont need to do moral policing here but you can look it up in the Quran. I personally believe if people really had good and sincere hearts as you put it, they would have accepted Islam readily. But this is just my opinion.

Dude, I don't where you're coming from but I don't think Islam prohibits any Muslim from befriending a non-Muslim.

I know a lot of people from other religion that respect Islam. In fact, I have friends that have converted due to their respect for our religion.

Enough said.

 

[Beardo]

Amazing, you should be proud of your "bengaliness" in a religious way. Bengalis have thousands of years old civilization which has contributed immensely to human knowledge. Again though, religion takes priority.

...Right... :hmm:

Oh Mr. Rashad! I understand perfectly. I have been there where a few of my friends, didn't want me to hang out with another race, purely for that reason only. What's worst is that, they also wouldn't want to befriend people from another religion.

For me, I believe that if that person - whatever religion/race - has a good heart and respect others as much as others respect him or her, I am fine with it. I also believe, the mentality of a person - it depends on how he or she is brought up.

You should be proud of your race/ethnicity! I am of mixed parentage and I'm proud of who I am.

Thank you for your respond to my post. It was very well thought out

Indeed. And thank you, too.

If only people were more open minded. I admire Americans and Brits in that aspect. They are open to anyone and everyone. Race doesn't play a factor. They don't have any negative inner feelings. That is how the countries became so diverse!

i'l tell you whats wrong



falling in love with someone to the extent of "he/she is the only one" BEFORE MARRIAGE



that is PURE WRONG



Assalamu Alaikum

lol. Indeed. Jazakumullah for that simple yet valuable message.