is it wrong to marry someone from another race

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Re: is it wrong to merry someone from another race

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But if the father said
and he also said to his daugher that she is alone allowe to bring people of thier own country....
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He is giving her permission to bring a guy that is the same race as her so it appears that in his opinion her falling in love with a stranger is not an issue and race is the issue.

the race issue only makes it worse.
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I may be misunderstanding you here but are you saying that race is an issue?
 
Re: is it wrong to merry someone from another race

Surah 49 Ayah13

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).
 
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kidcanman said:
the OPster wrote that the girl "took him to her family". and a mahram is a member of the family. and so she "fell in love" with a stranger, and then afterwords she took him to her family. the guy didnt do the right thing and she expects her dad to want to meet him? absurdity. the boy's behavior is unacceptable. the race issue only makes it worse.
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The OPster wrote "i have a friend of mine who wants to merry a good muslim brother who practice the deen and has good manners and everything she took him to her family and Alhamdulillah"...

Concluding from that of course she is gonna take him to her family, nothing suspicious in that.

What if the girl fell in love with him because of his taqwaa?

And I undrestand brother why you wrote what you wrote :) I just mean that I don't see myself anything indicating to something :)
 
Re: is it wrong to merry someone from another race

i did not really think about that sentence muslimah; it appears as though my conclusions are miscalculated.

muslim i think you are correct as well. my thinking is influenced by my personal experiences.
 
Re: is it wrong to merry someone from another race

Kidcanman: Too many assumptions.

To the OP, there is nothing at all wrong in wanting to marry somebody of another culture/race etc. The parents who would have no problem with it at all are very few and far between, but by talking to them with a little hikmaa I'm sure they would warm to the idea.

Tell the sis to make Istikharah and if she is sure that this person is the one she feels will be best for her in the dunya wal akhirah then she should approach her parents again and try to pursuade them.

If need be, she should try several more times...It is important to know when to accept the choice and decision of ur parents too though...

Wassalam
 
Islamically, it is Halal to marry someone from another race as long as they are Muslim. However, if you cannot find anyone who is a Muslim, it is permissible to marry a Jew or Christian.

Culturally, it is usually frowned upon to marry out of your "kind" as relatives and the person you marry may feel awkward around eachother due to cultural differences/practices.

Personally, I feel, that you should marry someone who is a good Muslim, and according to your parents wishes.
 
OurIslamic said:
if you cannot find anyone who is a Muslim, it is permissible to marry a Jew or Christian.
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Brother/sis, u can't do that...unless ur a male..but even then, i thought ur supposed to marry a girl because of her religion only?
 
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Abdul Qadir said:
Brother/sis, u can't do that...unless ur a male..but even then, i thought ur supposed to marry a girl because of her religion only?
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Sorry, I forgot to add "if you are male". Muslim women/girls are not allowed to marry non-Muslims.
 
islamluv said:
:sl: brothers and sisters

i have a friend of mine who wants to merry a good muslim brother who practice the deen and has good manners and everything she took him to her family and Alhamdulillah her mother is a very understanding person and everybody of approve of the brother except for her father who don't even want to give the guy a chance to meet him.. the father is the judgeing the guy just beaucse of his race... and he also said to his daugher that she is alone allowe to bring people of thier own country.... Is it fair that she should be limit to that... also what should she do while she does not want to disobey her father yet she does not want to merry someone else just to please her father plz help imsad
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wa alaykum us-Salaam
get someone to talk to the dad to try soften his heart. someone his looks up to/listens to. keep trying but in the end, do what pleases your parents :)
 
Good evening every one...

I am a new here...

Brother, kidcanman our sis has posted a question

'' is it wrong to marry someone from another race?"

I noticed that u r Judging about someone u don't see, talk with or KNOW...
The guy, as she said is a good Muslim but the problem here is his race. She needs our help and we have to help her as she asked...

sorry for saying that but accept my words and consider me as your little sisimsad

cool?


"is it wrong to marry someone from another race?"

Of course it is not, but it depends on the parents' view.

For example, here in the Gulf Countries, it is so difficult to marry someone from another race. To be honest, people will look at you as you did something really bad.
Here, you HAVE TO marry some one your family knows his/her race PERFECTLY.

I can tell that this marriage may destroy your relationship with others.

I know someone who married a black woman and his family disagreed strongly, at the first. Now they have a pretty girl and the guy's family is so happy but the problem is the COMMUNITY! His brother wants to marry a girl but her family refused because of the guy's wife.

It is so hard to marry a girl/man from a diffrent race in our region and that is because of the traditions and our parents recpect that with their inner hearts.


However, it depends on the person's way of thinking.


Anyway, if your friend wants to marry that man, she needs to pray Alestekhara prayer and Allah will guide her. She, also, should talk to her father in a convincing way (let anyone help her) believe me SHE can because Allah is in everywhere and will help her. Just try and you will see:statisfie

Whatever your parents say, obey them and Allah will guide you...


والسلام عليكم
 
Hi there,

I am new here and i can't understand from this from another race.....
what does it mean....?

Many Thanks;
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i condone marrying someone from a different background there is nothing wrong with it as long as they are muslims strong in their deen

there is no obidience to the creation where there's disobidience to the Creator
 
Islam is very much against any kind of racism

When we stand for congregational prayers ,we stand shoulder to shoulder with no gap so that devil of racism or casteism doesnt come in between
 
People are assuming that prohibiting one's daughter from marrying a man from another race is racism? How intellectually sound! I would not want my daughter to lets say marry a person from another race just like that. This is not racism. Racism is DISCRIMINATION based on race. I am not discriminating the potential man just because I am rejecting his proposal based on race. Same with the OP's father. If I rejected a potential black employee even though he had more merit than a white employee then surely that is racism. But here, its a matter of personal decision! OP's father is not racist because he is not discriminating and taking away the rights of that white man, is it his right to get married to the OP? I dont think so! Because there are no absolute sense of what is considered high "merit." Maybe this guy has high merit but there might be another black man who has higher qualifications than him. Maybe then marry him. But the OP wont cuz she "loves" this white guy despite the fact that he might not be as qualified as someone else. That alone shows that you cannot apply principles of racism from practical life (employment, education) to marriage. Its based on one's or one's fathers opinion.

Although Islam allows interracial marriages and there is NOTHING wrong with interracial marriages as long as they result in religious prosperity just like intraracial marriages should. Mostly Ive found from personal experience though that interracial marriages all sound romantic and dandy but it is just not practical. If it works out, then allhamdulillah but not everyone is flexible enough to make it work out over the years. So OP's dad has real concerns. he does not want his daughter to get divorced just cuz they could not understand each other in the long run due to racial differences and mode of thinking. Just my 2 cents. Stop assuming that since the OP's father disagrees with her, he is not "understanding" while her mother agrees with her hence she is "understanding." Seems like a selfish thing, when someone agrees with you he becomes all cool and laid back but when someone disagrees with you you call them "not understanding."

Your father has the right to reject this guy based on his opinions about inter racial marriages. If, however, he thinks that whites are devil or some non-sense than that is indeed racism. However I do not think that your dad is thinking in those terms.

I meant OP's friend and not OP.
 
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Its not wrong but you should try to take into consideration the difference in the culture and tradtions etc if that will impact on your marriage.

Cross ethnicity marriages work best when there is something common- eg. born bred in hte Uk or even Islam.
 
Wow. I may be a bit far out here (just got out of surgery and meds kicking in!) but I don't see any problem marrying someone from another race, as long as he or she is Muslim .. I don't see the big deal.

From some of the comments I have read here, the way they were presented, it seemed as if OP's friend is marrying someone from a different religion! I can't believe how judgmental some people can be.
 
SweetCherryPie said:
Wow. I may be a bit far out here (just got out of surgery and meds kicking in!) but I don't see any problem marrying someone from another race, as long as he or she is Muslim .. I don't see the big deal.

From some of the comments I have read here, the way they were presented, it seemed as if OP's friend is marrying someone from a different religion! I can't believe how judgmental some people can be.
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funny. .. . just because people disagree or have different opinions they are called judgmental? I think the meds are really kicking in.
 

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