Is my life over??

[Pk_#2]

yes yes

but i mean seriously never want to move from this area. If you lived here for all your life you would love it

Drink some Ribena and chillax bro, don't aim to become a sheikh by tomorrow

All the best.

 

[qassy!]

doesnt that normally make you more hyper?! lol


bro did you know that its physically impossible to love music and Quran at the same time... and i mean love, as have a yearning for it... its a saying of one of the companions of our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam.

trust me, music is sikness, its one of the reasons your finding it so hard to understand all these things about islaam, and plus music breeds hippocrisy in the heart... subhanAllah !




you dont hav to get away, i know mates who were like you aswell, they just joined the masjid scene... why dont you try that?! that might help a lot inshaAllah.


Assalamu Alaikum

I drink red bull on a regural bassics helps me concertaete on my work

brother

I know exactly how you feel. I am a revert and did all the things you are doing now before I came to Islam. You can do it just take it easy. Don't change everything at once. One thing at a time and pray pray pray to Allah to forgive you and for his help. Allah is Ever Forgiving and Most Merciful.
He will help you to get away from all these things if you repent from the bottom of your heart.
You don't need music to be happy-listen to Q'ran it will ease your heart and will help you to calm down.
You don't need a girlfriend. Try to bring your life in order and then look for the right girl to marry.
Go to the msjid and try to find practicing brothers to hang out with.
But most importantly have faith in Allah to help you.

i think i am going to take it step by step

just paid a vist 2 kuri didn't, didn't let her down

im gonna start namaz

and then on a weekly basis ill stop something

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ i'll keep making dua 4 u bro, hope u succeed inshaAllaah !!!!!

 

[aadil77]

bro im suspecting ur from somewhere around bolton(paki lands, chill i'm paki too), tell me if i'm wrong.
Yh u gotta change man, do it for the sake of Allah, theres enough benefits to it aswell, you gotta fight the shaytan that whispers bull into your ears, any way good luck:thumbs_up

 

[qassy!]

bro im suspecting ur from somewhere around bolton(paki lands, chill i'm paki too), tell me if i'm wrong.
Yh u gotta change man, do it for the sake of Allah, theres enough benefits to it aswell, you gotta fight the shaytan that whispers bull into your ears, any way good luck:thumbs_up

not bolton
london essex!!!!

i know i am going 2 try but its gonna ba hard!

 

[The Ruler]

You are indeed in a crisis. And I'm quite sure you don't want me to remind you of that.

But as many suggested, take a step at a time. A friend of mine took three steps on our school stairs and called herself a superman. We don't believe in superman right? There's a point in what I've just said.

I'd suggest not to have the following outlook on life:

Coz this life is nothing... absolutely nothing. It's not even worth a mosquitos wing....

I am aware that the following is entirely my opinion as I am aware of what the Qur'an and Sunnah teaches us. But one must understand the extent to which the statement 'this life is nothing' goes to. Yes ofcourse, when compared to the hereafter, this dunya indeed is not as worth as a mosquito wing. But you must understand the context at which the word 'dunya' is spoken at. If it means the worldly pleasures and riches which are means of fitnah, then, by all means on this dunya, stay away from them. But if by dunya you mean the planet earth, I quite believe that it means a heck of a lot to us humans since it is the only planet capable of supporting human species (and ofcourse, not forgetting, the only planet with Ferrero Rocher).

This world was created for us humans in which we can live and cultivate for our life in the hereafter.

This cultivation is not a matter of days. It's a matter of a lifetime. Take your time. Relax. Focus on your goal. Be determined and you'll get there insha'Allah.

My du'as are with you.

 

[AhlaamBella]

I just want to say brother: Well done.

I've been reading your other threads and Im really suprised to hear your only 17. Not many guys feel this way at this age.

It may be difficult at firs but inshAllah you'll be fine

 

[aadil77]

not bolton
london essex!!!!

i know i am going 2 try but its gonna ba hard!

bro nothing is easy, we're not living in an islamic country so theres plenty of temptations, this world is a test for us, if you wanna achive something in the next life then you've gotta work for it! simple as that

Instead of moaning about it, start off slow, then slowly inshallah Allah will guide you

Also since your pakistani, I'd have thought your parents would have you on lockdown

 

[Fishman]

A barbed wire fence is only harsh to the skin if you come near to it. If you stay well inside the fence you will not feel it and you will be safe from all who come in from the outside to get you.
Likewise, the rules of Islam only seem harsh and strict when you come near to breaking them. Stay well inside the Law of Islam and you will not even know it is there, yet it will protect you from all of Shaytan's temptations...

 

[tigersabre]

hello

I am very upset with my self I am thinking how stupid I have been all my life will Allah forgive me?


I go out with girls all the time n do alot of other stupid stuff

And I'm ashamed

Will Allah forgive me? I want to turn my life around.


Thanks for ur help

All sins are forgivable, so long as you're alive and ask Allah sincerely to forgive you.

Sincere repentance includes:

1. Deep regret
2. Asking for forgiveness
3. Doing your best not to return to that sin.

If it happens again, go through the process again. The size of Allah's Mercy is incomprehensible.

 

[Kittygyal]

Salamualikum.

May Allaah guide you. Amin

Ma'assalama

 

[gladTidings]

bro,

Alhamdullilah it is brilliant that you have firstly recognised your wrong doings, and secondly you are willing to improve yourself. Allah swt is all merciful and most forgiving and tells us His mercy overcomes His wrath. Allah swt will not turn away from one who is seeking his guidance but will inshAllah help him in his journey:

"As for those who strive hard in Our cause, We will surely guide them to Our
Paths (Allah's religion).” [Surah Al-‘Ankabut (29), Ayah 69.]

and subhanAllah, a beautiful hadith:

Allah the Almighty says: ‘I am as My servant expects Me to be. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it. And if he draws near to Me a hand's span, I draw near to him arm’s length; and if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.’

[Muslim]

Also it is most important that you are sincere in your decision and are seeking the pleasure of Allah swt alone and He will help you in your direction.

Like the brothers and sisters have said... you cant change over night. Improving your character is a long and difficult journey but inshAllah the more you struggle in the path of Allah, you will be rewarded for it. Nobody is perfect and we all give in to our ego now and then, but this gives us no reason to lose hope in Allah swts mercy.

Practically, I agree you should give up maybe one habit at a time, try to understand why Allah swt has made these laws and why he has forbidden for example music and intermingling. InshAllah this should make it easy for you as you recognise the benefits of Allah swts laws.

It also helps to realise that this life is only temporary and the hereafter is the reason we are here, where we will be able to see the fruit of our deeds.

“So whosoever does good equal to an atom’s weight will see it then;
and whosoever does evil equal to an atom’s weight will see it then.” [Surah
Az-Zalzalah (98), Ayat 7-8.]

Like sis mujahida said:

Originally Posted by Muj4h1d4
Coz this life is nothing... absolutely nothing. It's not even worth a mosquitos wing....

“And the life of this world in nothing but play and amusement. But far
better is the abode of the hereafter for those who keep their duty (to Allah). Will you not then understand?” [Surah Al-An’am (6), Ayah 32.]

Dont stress yourself, remember we are all on the same journey so make friends with those who will strive to do good and abandon evil inshAllah, maybe at the masjid? May Allah accept our repentence and make us firm on the path of righteousness. Aameen.

Ws.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

well, its great you recognize your own shortcmings. evreryone here has already summarized what i wanted to say anyways. but about the music thingee, just find yourself a recitor that 'moves you,' and listen to him. i personally like sh shuraim----nothing short of brillant, check this[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uxjh1Phzl8U&feature=related[/media] and [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDU1Ht_Cb6s&feature=related]this[/media](others like sudais, al-luhaidaan, minshawy, al-efaasy-just google their names and inshallah you'll come up with something or even check out the mulimedia section here.)

 

[NYCmuslim]

Brother qassy, have you read the Quran?

I suggest you get an english translation (arabic if you can read arabic that is better) and start reading it slowly. Open your mind and absorb and understand every word that you read. Read the words of the very Creator who created you and this universe.

Read the Quran and you will understand the purpose of life.

May Allah guide you.

 

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:salamext:

Always remember one thing - take one day at a time, and don't rush yourself into things...

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

BIG TIME!!!

 

[AhlaamBella]

:salamext:

Always remember one thing - take one day at a time, and don't rush yourself into things...

The best advice!!

 

[Sahabiyaat]

MashaAllah brother
we are SO proud of you
Allah has indeed blessed you by showing you that the life your leading is worthless and that pleasures like listening to music and having a girlfriend are very short lived.

These things dont satisfy your soul.Only constant remembrance of Allah and complete submission to him will bring you peace.youve taken the first step :bravo: and may Allah help your imaan to increase even more ia.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

MashaAllah brother
we are SO proud of you
Allah has indeed blessed you by showing you that the life your leading is worthless and that pleasures like listening to music and having a girlfriend are very short lived.

These things dont satisfy your soul.Only constant remembrance of Allah and complete submission to him will bring you peace.youve taken the first step :bravo: and may Allah help your imaan to increase even more ia.

that pretty much sums up how i feel, i really wanna see bro Qassy! come back and tell us that his turned it all around (in a few months) inshaAllaah

Assalamu Alaikum

 

[qassy!]

brothers & sisters

I did not make a good start today. I never look @ girls all day or chat 2 them @ college. Then @ the end of the day I sold somthing 2 a girl

im trying my best and I will change my life inshallah

i been thinking about how im going to change my life on the bus as well
Inshallah it will happen

Inshallah

edit: im so ashamed of my self!!!!!!!