Is there sin in breaking someone's heart?

AnonymousGender said:
Salaam. Breaking someones heart isnt a sin...If one has to part ways then you have to part ways. On the other hand, to lead the person into thinking you like them, use them then shun them after.... this is a sin. Whatever happens after is the consequence of the action
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He sees it that way even though it wasn't, at all. I was actually upset at the time for having to move on from him, but then the fact that his bad side came through, just made it easier for me to move on from him.
 
squiggle said:
"And will he be able to curse my future marriage in any way?" Nah if anything Allah will be pleased that you gave up this haraam relationship for him. You left something haraam for his sake, it's like giving up going to the pub with your friends for the sake of Allah then your friends cursing you for abandoning them.

Do you think Allah's gonna curse this person because he abandoned his friends for the sake of Allah? just like you've abandoned this person for the sake of Allah. Allah won't punish you for obeying him :)

Allah's gonna be happy with the person who leaves something haraam, I used to have female friends but I cut them all off because I realised it was haraam to have friendships with them. They started saying I've become an extremist because of the mosque I go to lool.

Now I have much better male friends :) alhamdulilah

point is don't let this man con you into thinking Allah will be upset with you for leaving something haraam that's absurd. And he can't curse you in any way, why would Allah hurt you for leaving something that he has made forbidden??

Instead my sister he'll reward you with something even better than the haraam thing you left. This man should be carefull who he curses, when you curse some 1 if that person is not deserving of that curse then it comes back upon the person who initiated the curse.

so he's only cursing himself and harming his own future marriage cos obviously your not deserving of the curse because your obeying Allah by leaving him. Allah loves those obey him and sacrifice for him. "every 1 is rewarded according to the amount they sacrificed" you sacrificed a haraam relationship for him so he'll reward you with something better than that :)
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That kind of worries me in a way, if he is wrongly cursing me and is then punished for it then he will continue to blame me for all his troubles for the rest of his life. I am really praying for his hidayat, he prays 5 times a day but i feel his heart hardens so much sometimes that he doesn't care about his actions, and he has so much anger inside, which is the downfall for alot of people. He once text so much swearing and abuse to someone while fasting - maybe they antagonised him, but we all know to never behave like that, especially when fasting.

Thankyou for your reply though, it has made me feel better.
 
AnonymousGender said:
He sees it that way even though it wasn't, at all. I was actually upset at the time for having to move on from him, but then the fact that his bad side came through, just made it easier for me to move on from him.
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Salaam.

Tell him you realized your relationship was haraam and you are now trying to become a better Muslim by following Allah SWT's laws.

Also, Did you both believe this would last and you were going to get married or something? ? If not tell him to go away and get over it. I know how it feels to be heartbroken and i didn't react in such a manner.

If he's threatening you and if its making your life miserable just call the police.
 
AnonymousGender said:
My query is not about how to move on.
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Yes and we all anwsered your query. If you reliesied that you did a major sin then then move on. There is no point complaining over split milk as they say. What HAS HAPPENED has happened for the best. There is nothing much more any of us can do.. Its kinda childish 2think that this man has the power 2 ''Curse'' after you had explained your story 2 us. Change your number change everything and repent for your actions. Tell Allah your worries and surely you will feel better an relaxed.. Itz not good 2tell otherz these big issue's and expect guidence. We can only help on certain limitz 2people!! I hope you take my wise advice! Bye.
 
cat eyes said:
Yes and we all anwsered your query. If you reliesied that you did a major sin then then move on. There is no point complaining over split milk as they say. What HAS HAPPENED has happened for the best. There is nothing much more any of us can do.. Its kinda childish 2think that this man has the power 2 ''Curse'' after you had explained your story 2 us. Change your number change everything and repent for your actions. Tell Allah your worries and surely you will feel better an relaxed.. Itz not good 2tell otherz these big issue's and expect guidence. We can only help on certain limitz 2people!! I hope you take my wise advice! Bye.
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I really don't know how to reply to you, i'm not sure why you actively post in an advice and support section, if you feel people shouldn't post about their worries or problems.
 
And i am not chewing over and over this problem as you seem to make out. I asked a serious question and was required to elaborate so that others could provide the correct answer. At times you seem to be quite harsh and judgemental upon the people who post here for help, even stating people shouldn't post problems, which noone else has an issue with and is the reason this section exists. I don't believe calling someone childish because they asked a question about a problem is of any help here. It would be a shame if some people with problems, much greater than mine, would be driven away in their time of need because they felt judged, were made to feel their problem is childish or that they shouldn't post here at all. I believe you do post helpfull things aswell and i hope you take my post in good spirit.
 
AnonymousGender said:
And i am not chewing over and over this problem as you seem to make out. I asked a serious question and was required to elaborate so that others could provide the correct answer. At times you seem to be quite harsh and judgemental upon the people who post here for help, even stating people shouldn't post problems, which noone else has an issue with and is the reason this section exists. I don't believe calling someone childish because they asked a question about a problem is of any help here. It would be a shame if some people with problems, much greater than mine, would be driven away in their time of need because they felt judged, were made to feel their problem is childish or that they shouldn't post here at all. I believe you do post helpfull things aswell and i hope you take my post in good spirit.
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sister i didn't say you could not post here :giggling:this is not my forum..
i am just saying the brother and the sisters had already gave you very good answers and you should now take it from us and move on..

if those answers are not good enough sister there is nothing left we can say... only forget him and carry on making du'aa for him and repent.. this is the month of ramadan do you know Allah will help you:statisfie
 
I have no idea why you say i thought the replies were not good enough, i said nothing of the sort, other people were/are still replying to my query which i really appreciate. I sense you feel my matter is trivial and childish, so it is probably best you don't join in this thread anymore.
 
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AnonymousGender said:
I am being "cursed" by someone
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Cursing is not encouraged in Islam. I read that if one curses someone and s/he does not deserve that ; then curse will return on that person who uttered that.

Anyway sis , don't worry. Repent sincerely for all your mistakes , ask Allah for forgiveness and ask His protection .InshaAllah u will be ok :statisfie
 
You said he was forceful and abusive? Was this during the relationship or after you broke up? Did you try to giving him chances or warnings? Or was it abrupt and sudden? Please clarify? Im in a similar problem.
 
Salahudeen said:
"And will he be able to curse my future marriage in any way?" Nah if anything Allah will be pleased that you gave up this haraam relationship for him. You left something haraam for his sake, it's like giving up going to the pub with your friends for the sake of Allah then your friends cursing you for abandoning them.

Do you think Allah's gonna curse this person because he abandoned his friends for the sake of Allah? just like you've abandoned this person for the sake of Allah. Allah won't punish you for obeying him :)

Allah's gonna be happy with the person who leaves something haraam, I used to have female friends but I cut them all off because I realised it was haraam to have friendships with them. They started saying I've become an extremist because of the mosque I go to lool.

Now I have much better male friends :) alhamdulilah
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I am so jealous! imsadimsad I want male friends and I cannot find them imsadimsadimsad!! I wish at work there are no female workers either...can't help but socialize with them, talk and all that stuff. I would love it if there is a company where it is all male so I can strengthen my imaan and void all zina that is piling up against me as I keep talking with female workers and watching their body as I have no choice! This is the Western world where women and men are equal and feminist at the highest peek and where women are taking over roles that are designed for men. This is the outcome..you get so used to it...a man no longer find shame, becomes a cuckold and just look at women naked and shrug it off. This is it in a nutshell.
 
There are some instances we should be very careful of cursing others, as we do not know the complete reality. It is better to ask Allah to deal with others in a manner which is best/justly.

Retaliation through cursing another believer or even disbeliever should be a last resort (i.e that person refuses to stop harming you/the oppressed etc).

Seeking protection with Allah from various evils:
Surah Ikhlas, Surah An Naas, Surah Al Falaq, Ayatul Kursi, Surah Yaseen.

Especially, mention has been made for parents to avoid cursing their children, as their status is raised highly in the sight of Allah and acceptance of duas are made. Additionally, none can harm another except by Allah's will.
 
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Sister, can you please reply to my questions? Im in need of your help so i can understand and assess my own situation as well. thank you
 

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