Is this acceptable? Can my repentence be accepted?

[reemacookii]

Okay thank you,
I just want to know, are you guys extremists? Cause I mean you could say I'm religious but I'm not extreme, I don't wear hijab yet or anything but careful compared to friends

 

[Alpha Dude]

I just want to know, are you guys extremists?

Lol. Nope. Just normal like you.

Everyone sins. Nobody is perfect. However, there is a difference between sinning and believing it is okay and sinning and knowing you are doing something wrong. First one is a bigger sin as you are making what's impermissible to be permissible.

For example, you can:

1. continue talking to this boy and be his friend but also know that it is a sin that you need to seek forgiveness for.
or 2. continue talking to this boy but convince yourself that it is not a sin which means you'll never seek forgiveness for it.

 

[hisnameiszzz]

And I just wanted to say thank you again especially greenhill.. you guys don't understand how many people I've asked and how hard I cried.. I haven't been sleeping at all!

Salaams.

*puts on work head as I work with young teenagers anyway*

I think a lot of people have been through that. Either a break up or they have stopped keeping in touch with a loved one and you go through the whole "woe is me" scenario. I've been there. I've done that. I didn't sleep. I cried a lot. I thought my whole world was going to end. I couldn't face another day. I couldn't look people in the eye etc. And then a few weeks later, I got a grip and moved on. It's different for everyone and we all eventually move on. It might seem you like you will forever be happy if you don't speak to this young man again, but you won't. Things change. Life goes on and you will be just fine.

*takes word head off*

Like I said, I work with children, mainly from dysfunctional families (not that I am saying you are from a dysfunctional family at all), but we try and broaden their interests. A lot of the girls we deal with have had relationship problems and they think they won't be able to live another day without their ex, but they all do. Why don't you start studying something different like cooking or baking? It surely will take your mind off things.

Allah knows best.

Good luck.

 

[Hulk]

Please educate yourself on what an extremist is. Someone who adheres to the rules of Islam is not an extremist. A sister who wears a hijab is not an extremist.

Anyway, perhaps when you find some time you can actually address the valid reasons that has been brought up instead of asking if we are "extremists".

As it stands, I think it has been shown that being in this relationship is a bad idea. And so far your only argument against that is that it'll be ok because "he says so".

So unless you can actually give valid reasons in favour of your stance, you will have to acknowledge that despite knowing which is the better choice, you are still in favour of the bad one.

 

[Muhammad]

Assalaamu Alaykum,

Sister reema, a lot of good advice has been given in this thread. To prevent us going in circles, I'll close this thread now to give you a chance to reflect on what's been said. In Islam, we need to put what Allaah :swt: wants before our personal desires and opinions. So :ia: the right and wrong options will be clear to you now. It is time for you to choose the right path and Allaah :swt: will be pleased with that and make things easy :ia:.

Thread closed.