Is Wearing Chastity Ring Haram?

[ardianto]

Assalamu Alaikum

Jazak allahu khair for sharing brother. I can't say I know much about the statistics in Indonesia and I should have clarified that when I spoke i was talking about the US since that's where I was raised. There are areas in the world where there are a lot of nonmuslims who do not indulge in premarital sex. I think India is one of them too. There are also a lot of nonMuslim Arabs who are the same way. I think it has to do with the culture itself. If there's a lot of muslims in the culture and they are living peacefully with the nonMuslims, then they both kind of stick to their belief systems, wa allahu a'lem. And you're right about catholics, they are more serious about maintaining their chastity, I've known a few. I've also met christians who are more religious in their faith than muslims are in their own faith. However like I said, in America, it's not really common to meet these people. Sex is a part of American culture and it's accepted.

With the issue of the chastity ring, it was created as a motivation for people to keep their promise to God to not have sex. If it were not a common thing, then would they have had to come up with a form of chaste symbolism?

May Allah guide us all and prevent us from falling into error ameen.

fi aman Allah
w'salaam

Wa'alaikum salam

In Indonesia we do not regard extramarital sex as non-Muslim behavior, but as behavior of Western people that have left religious value.

Indonesia is not an Islamic country, but a "nation of believers" which atheism is against the law and religion is obligated to taught to school students in accordance with their religion. Every student, whatever his/her religion, must be has been taught to not do sexual relationship before getting married.

But, yaaah, there's always people who forget about it, although in percentage is very low compared with Western youth.

 

[Iceee]

I don't think he thinks the ring protects him from anything?

Salaam.

I talked my friend today. Of course he was still wearing the ring. I talked to him kindly and told him that the ring which he got from a Christian Church isn't allowed to be worn if he has converted to another religion like Islam. He asked what made this ring different from a wedding ring or a normal ring some Muslim men wear. I told him it's because he got it from a Christian Church and it symbolizes another religion other than Islam.

He said he will talk to his Mol-e-sab (The Imam of masjid) tonight inshallah.

 

[Iceee]

To be honest, whether they get mad or not, I don't care, what I've said weren't lies nor did I say them harshly. Go on a christian forum and see how they act there. MOST christians and nonmuslims do have premarital sex, if it's more than 50% then it's most. This isn't an English class. They know they have these problems as well. In every health class that I've taken in high school and uni, we've had to discuss all the issues of premarital sex, young teenage pregnancies, STD's, rape, etc. Some lose it as early as middle-school age, but most before they leave high school. I have Christians in my family, most of them lost their virginity before marriage, the ones that didn't are closer to their muslim side of the family and refrain from having relationships all together. I've met a few virgins of other faiths, but it wasn't by choice..they just couldn't get in a relationship, so if that opportunity came to them, they admit they'd go for it. I also have many revert friends who have had premarital sex before they became muslim. Are there Christians who follow their religion and abstain from the same things Muslims do? Yes, but they are RARE.

To be honest, I'll agree to most you say. When I took Gym in Grades 9, 10, 11, we also had to take health class and we had to pass health class in order to pass Gym Class. They forced information about Birth Control Pills, Ovulation, Period, Condoms etc. in out heads and continued to put these on tests to avoid teen pregnancies. The students, staff, school board, and the Canadian Government knows that students are sexually active in sex during their high school years. I agree with that.

I'll also agree with the fact that some men if they weren't shy, scared of STD's, etc. they would go for a girl right away. It's just the way men are, control is necessary.

What I'm trying to say is, don't say, "Most" because not all Christians are like that. Look at nuns, priests, and people who refrain from pre-marital sex.

Pure, untouched.
It can also mean not having any sex.

Define: Pure.
Would a rape victim be considered untouched?

I'd teach her what my mother taught me at a young age. If you have a good open relationship with your kids and teach them the correct ways of the deen, they won't be sleeping around or trying to be in a relationship. There's more to life than trying to fulfill a sexual desire, and it's really not that difficult. I grew up and was raised in America, all of my female cousins got married and never had premarital sex or previous relationships. Like I said, a girl with a conscience would really have to be crossing some boundaries before she gets to a point where she sleeps with a guy, and it's not an easy thing to do. We learn from the mistakes of the people around us, we shouldn't be so stubborn to ignore them and make the examples of ourselves in such a terrible way.

Don't you think a lot of Muslims teach their son/daughter in this way? But society will eventually get to them. Are you married? Have children? Parents of high school kids may know what I am talking about.

 

[Iceee]

Salaam.

Just returned from school. Have to go work now

Came on to tell you great news. I signed out at school to go to second jumah prayers at local masjid. Not many people were there for second namaaz so I saw my converted friend there as well who wore the chastity ring. BUT when I saw him just now, I didn't see the ring on his finger!

He said he talked to the his mol-e-sab last night (The Imam of Masjid) and the Imam explained to him about rings and about shirk just like previous posters have stated. He said he took the ring off and gave it to his mol-e-sab. I smiled and told him he is one more step closer to junnat. He agreed and the Imam of the masjid said the same to him.

Please close this thread.
Ja'Zakullah for everyone's help.

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