assalm alaikum brothers and sisters!!!
I have been married for 3 years now. the first year of my marriage went ok, i didnt hav any issues with my inlaws cuz i didnt know at dat time what kind of people and family they were. From these past two years I am constantly having issues with them. It's complicated to describe everything here, the thing is that my inlaws n especially my motherinlaw is kind of controlling my home n my husband( i.e. her son) and so are her siblings. My husband is very close to his mom's family n doesnt like his dad's family much cuz he says dat his dad's family isnt nice to them but i dont think he's right, his mother brainwashed him n that's why he thinks dat way.
we donot live vid our inlaws, we live in US and our inlaws r in Pakistan but still my motherinlaw is controlling everything in my house. My fatherinlaw is very rich but he earns Haram money and he' s fooling his kids by saying dat he's an honest officer. My husband has 2 other brothers, his brothers arent as successful as my husband in terms of professional life and they know their father is very rich but my husband constantly denies it and says dat his father is very honest he doesnt have so much money. My motherinlaw is very controlling, she controls her husband too. My motherinlaw has this problem dat she wants dat her siblings and parents get everything in this world n for this she takes money from her husband and her son (my husband) n spends it on her family by lying and making fake excuses. Even my fatherinlaw takes money from my husband. He takes it in a way dats hard to explain. He knows very well how his son is so what he does is dat he tells my husband his problem n complains of spendings, he knows dat his son(i.e. my husband) would offer him money and this is exactly what happens. when my husband offers him money he never says NO he always takes it. I just dont understand he's earning so much what would he do vid all this money and he isnt ashamed of even taking money from his son when he knows very well dat hes earning way more than his son and his son isnt as rich as him.
My husband earns enough to fulfill my basic needs alhamdulillah but we don't live a very luxurious life. My husband constanly complains of spendings and tells me to save money and so I do as he says. I always look for ways of saving money but when it comes to his parents n his mother's family he acts as if he's a millionaire. His mother n his younger brother always demand money n say they need it n my husband even doesn't asks them for what do they need that money and sends money to them every now and then and so does my motheinlaws sisters. they also demand money and my husband without asking sends them dat money. I have spent 1 year vid them n i have seen dat dey use all that money on buying expensive clothes and stuff. I have tried explaining this to my husband but he just gets mad at me when i say something like this. He always thinks his family is right n em wrong. I am afraid dat one day he'll sell all his properties and everything cuz of his family. My inlwas r smooth talkers, they would taunt me, harm me in a way dat i cant complain of.
If theres any shortcoming of money in my motherinlaws family my husband takes care of it by taking it out from his savings. I understand its good to help your family but my motherinlaw's family always keep their living standards high then their earnings and to keep up their living standards high my motherinlaws tricks my fatherinlaw and my husband n takes money from them. My motherinlaws siblings earn enough to fulfill their basic needs but for keeping up vid their luxurious life they always take money from us. My husband is not aware of all this stuff cuz he hasnt spend time in Pakistan with them.
My husband has a very soft corner for his family which is a good thing but his family is very selfish, they take unfair advantage of his kindness, they emotionally blackmail him for fulfilling their own unnecessary desires. I would be more than happy if my husband instead of sending this money to pakistan to fulfill his family luxuries would have given it to a poor needy muslim. I am 6 months pregnant now n em even more worried now cuz if this thing continues me n my children are gonna suffer in the long run only because of my husband's ignorance n my inlaws selfishness.
tell me is this fair that on one side my husband tells me to save money all the time and gives me very limited money even for grocery and on the other hand he's given his family an open hand? I always make dua n read 4 qul but nothing is helping me out.
Tell me brothers and sisters em I over reacting or is this a valid reason to be depressed. could it be that me n my husband are under a spell of blackmagic?? because my husband is very smart for me and da rest of the world, noone could ever fool him but when it comes to his family he's totally changed, his brain stops working and he even doesnt realize how unfair and unreasonable his family is being. He always finds them right.
Please brothers and sisters help me out!!! this thing is killing me. Tell me what to do? tell me what my husband is doin is right or wrong? em always stressed out due to these issues. how can i get peace of mind and heart? please tell me some special duas to fight this thing.
I dont want to doubt anyone but cud it be black magic? if yes what is the cure, i read 4 qul daily but it isnt helping. are there any special duas and surahs?
I dont want my husband to be against his family, i want him to love and respect them but i also want him to differentiate between fair n unfair when it comes to his family. I want him to be strong and have the guts to not let his family ruin our house and take unfair advantage of us.
BROTHERS AND SISTERS WHAT DUAS OR SURAHS CAN I RECITE TO FIGHT THIS PROBLEM AND HAVE PEACE OF MIND. WHAT STEP SHOULD I TAKE?
I KNOW THIS POST IS LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT N HELP ME OUT!!! I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP
jAZAKALLAH
I have been married for 3 years now. the first year of my marriage went ok, i didnt hav any issues with my inlaws cuz i didnt know at dat time what kind of people and family they were. From these past two years I am constantly having issues with them. It's complicated to describe everything here, the thing is that my inlaws n especially my motherinlaw is kind of controlling my home n my husband( i.e. her son) and so are her siblings. My husband is very close to his mom's family n doesnt like his dad's family much cuz he says dat his dad's family isnt nice to them but i dont think he's right, his mother brainwashed him n that's why he thinks dat way.
we donot live vid our inlaws, we live in US and our inlaws r in Pakistan but still my motherinlaw is controlling everything in my house. My fatherinlaw is very rich but he earns Haram money and he' s fooling his kids by saying dat he's an honest officer. My husband has 2 other brothers, his brothers arent as successful as my husband in terms of professional life and they know their father is very rich but my husband constantly denies it and says dat his father is very honest he doesnt have so much money. My motherinlaw is very controlling, she controls her husband too. My motherinlaw has this problem dat she wants dat her siblings and parents get everything in this world n for this she takes money from her husband and her son (my husband) n spends it on her family by lying and making fake excuses. Even my fatherinlaw takes money from my husband. He takes it in a way dats hard to explain. He knows very well how his son is so what he does is dat he tells my husband his problem n complains of spendings, he knows dat his son(i.e. my husband) would offer him money and this is exactly what happens. when my husband offers him money he never says NO he always takes it. I just dont understand he's earning so much what would he do vid all this money and he isnt ashamed of even taking money from his son when he knows very well dat hes earning way more than his son and his son isnt as rich as him.
My husband earns enough to fulfill my basic needs alhamdulillah but we don't live a very luxurious life. My husband constanly complains of spendings and tells me to save money and so I do as he says. I always look for ways of saving money but when it comes to his parents n his mother's family he acts as if he's a millionaire. His mother n his younger brother always demand money n say they need it n my husband even doesn't asks them for what do they need that money and sends money to them every now and then and so does my motheinlaws sisters. they also demand money and my husband without asking sends them dat money. I have spent 1 year vid them n i have seen dat dey use all that money on buying expensive clothes and stuff. I have tried explaining this to my husband but he just gets mad at me when i say something like this. He always thinks his family is right n em wrong. I am afraid dat one day he'll sell all his properties and everything cuz of his family. My inlwas r smooth talkers, they would taunt me, harm me in a way dat i cant complain of.
If theres any shortcoming of money in my motherinlaws family my husband takes care of it by taking it out from his savings. I understand its good to help your family but my motherinlaw's family always keep their living standards high then their earnings and to keep up their living standards high my motherinlaws tricks my fatherinlaw and my husband n takes money from them. My motherinlaws siblings earn enough to fulfill their basic needs but for keeping up vid their luxurious life they always take money from us. My husband is not aware of all this stuff cuz he hasnt spend time in Pakistan with them.
My husband has a very soft corner for his family which is a good thing but his family is very selfish, they take unfair advantage of his kindness, they emotionally blackmail him for fulfilling their own unnecessary desires. I would be more than happy if my husband instead of sending this money to pakistan to fulfill his family luxuries would have given it to a poor needy muslim. I am 6 months pregnant now n em even more worried now cuz if this thing continues me n my children are gonna suffer in the long run only because of my husband's ignorance n my inlaws selfishness.
tell me is this fair that on one side my husband tells me to save money all the time and gives me very limited money even for grocery and on the other hand he's given his family an open hand? I always make dua n read 4 qul but nothing is helping me out.
Tell me brothers and sisters em I over reacting or is this a valid reason to be depressed. could it be that me n my husband are under a spell of blackmagic?? because my husband is very smart for me and da rest of the world, noone could ever fool him but when it comes to his family he's totally changed, his brain stops working and he even doesnt realize how unfair and unreasonable his family is being. He always finds them right.
Please brothers and sisters help me out!!! this thing is killing me. Tell me what to do? tell me what my husband is doin is right or wrong? em always stressed out due to these issues. how can i get peace of mind and heart? please tell me some special duas to fight this thing.
I dont want to doubt anyone but cud it be black magic? if yes what is the cure, i read 4 qul daily but it isnt helping. are there any special duas and surahs?
I dont want my husband to be against his family, i want him to love and respect them but i also want him to differentiate between fair n unfair when it comes to his family. I want him to be strong and have the guts to not let his family ruin our house and take unfair advantage of us.
BROTHERS AND SISTERS WHAT DUAS OR SURAHS CAN I RECITE TO FIGHT THIS PROBLEM AND HAVE PEACE OF MIND. WHAT STEP SHOULD I TAKE?
I KNOW THIS POST IS LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT N HELP ME OUT!!! I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP
jAZAKALLAH
