Jealousy

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IbnAbdulHakim said:
it is disgusting to jump to conclusions i agree


but we shouldnt judge the sister either :)
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its not called judging its called warning for the sake of a more peaceful ummah with no backbiting or suspicion. suspicion is the very route cause of most of the evil that happens and we don't want to be eating the dead meat of our brothers and sisters do we so we should control our thoughts and think up a million good excuses for why our sisters and brothers are looking at us in a funny way.
 
cat eyes said:
its not called judging its called warning for the sake of a more peaceful ummah with no backbiting or suspicion. suspicion is the very route cause of most of the evil that happens and we don't want to be eating the dead meat of our brothers and sisters do we so we should control our thoughts and think up a million good excuses for why our sisters and brothers are looking at us in a funny way.
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your right


its good to warn with hikmah in a way which doesnt cause offence or embarassment
 
SweetCherryPie said:
I didn't know sharing an experience is wrong on this website.

I think I'll leave it be.
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Sister we should always try our best to use wisdom and tact whenever were posting especially when a person is asking for advice. Where is the wisdom in posting that 'girls are jealous of me' when the original poster needs advice on how to tackle the very problem of jealousy? You did'nt provide any advice but you came across like you boasted.

I hope i did'nt want to offend you in anyway sister but it needed to be said so that you can make the necessary changes to your approach. Otherwise your posts will do more harm than good and you may even hurt peoples feelings in the process.

We hope that you can be an active and beneficial member of the forum. Our intentions for being on here should be to please Allah so let us think before we write. Only giving advice because i care otherswise i would'nt have bothered. Jazakallahu Khayran.
 
Hamza81 said:
Sister we should always try our best to use wisdom and tact whenever were posting especially when a person is asking for advice. Where is the wisdom in posting that 'girls are jealous of me' when the original poster needs advice on how to tackle the very problem of jealousy? You did'nt provide any advice but you came across like you boasted.
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If you read properly, I did give advice. Maybe not up to your standards.

Again, my apologies if everyone is offended. I do not like to boast, it was never my intentions and honestly, I think some other people's responds are far more offensive than mine but I don't see anyone saying anything about it.

Says a lot about how some treat newbies.
 
SweetCherryPie said:
If you read properly, I did give advice. Maybe not up to your standards.

Again, my apologies if everyone is offended. I do not like to boast, it was never my intentions and honestly, I think some other people's responds are far more offensive than mine but I don't see anyone saying anything about it.

Says a lot about how some treat newbies.
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Sister you should'nt assume. Many of us have had other brothers and sisters in here giving us advice in how we can improve our approach or if our approach was not right at any particular point.

There is nothing wrong with a brother or sister out of good intention giving us advice on how we can improve our approach towards others. Otherwise how would we learn in order to better ourselves? I hope you do not take anything said in the wrong way and accept it as honest advice.
 
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i think you should think about what you have and not compare your life to theirs this works for me most of the time! :)
 
Lonely Gal said:
jealous of the happiness people have, esp my friend.. the good lives they read..
I mean i try to stay on the right path as much as possible with prayer etc and i seem to still have lots of heartache and pain in my life. whereas others that don't go along with Islam are getting everything frm life and living happily..
i know it sounds really messed up.. im jus being honest how i feel
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Allah, Glory be to Him, says in the Quran: "Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, 'We believe,' and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false" (Quran, 29: 2-3).

He also says: “Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives and the fruits (of your toil) but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who, when misfortune strikes them, say: ‘Indeed we belong to Allah and to Him is our return. Those are the ones upon whom are blessings and mercy from their Lord and it is those who are rightly guided.” [Sûrah al-Baqarah: 155]

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him said, when he was asked which people suffer the most. He said, “The Prophets, then righteous people, then the next best and the next best. A man will suffer according to his level of faith. If his faith is solid, he will suffer more, but if his faith is shaky, he will suffer less. The believer will keep on suffering until he walks on the earth with no sin.” (reported by al-Tirmidhi and others).

The Prophet (peace be upon him)said: "No fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts any Muslim, even to the extent of a thorn pricking him, without Allah wiping out his sins by it." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim]

In another narration, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “No Muslim is afflicted by harm, whether it is but the prick of a thorn or something worse, without Allah expiating his evil deeds on account of it and his sins falling away from him like leaves off a tree.'" [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]


The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "When Allah desires good for someone, He tries him with hardships." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]

Therefore if a person experiences hardship, calamities,trials and is tested by Allah then that is a sign that Almighty Allah is wanting good for that person and wants them closer to him!

So never think "Why" am i experiencing this trial or hardship. Without trials and hardships how will we get closer to Allah?

Surely Allah is with those who are patient and the reward for patience is Jannah!
 
Alright ease up people, inshaAllaah.

It's easy to take things the wrong way on a forum.

It doesn't seem like anyone was intending to be boastful and Allaah Knows best.

Sometimes it is better to give naseeha in private where possible, as that way you're not embarrassing anyone inshaAllaah.
 
Cultivate a skill--something where you seem to have a natural ability (but no romantic self-deception allowed as to what it is), or at least no evidence of a particular disability.

You will become truly excellent at it over a period of years, and all jealousy will melt away.
 

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