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Peace buddy1,
In spite of Eric's words, I doubt if I have any words of wisdom to offer. But I can share personal experience from a child's view. I was 7 when I lost my father. My sister was 4 same age as your Jayda. Like Jayda she was a Daddy's girl and like Jayda she did much of the same. Being the "Big Boy" in the house I acted indifferent.
My mother simply acted as if all was normal and my sister soon was ready to move back into her on room and by the time she was 10 she had little memory of our Father.
I myself who showed no external grieve. was torn to pieces and every night I looked for him, every night and always expected to see the door open and he would walk in. Because I never let my grief out I spent my years until I was 45 years old looking for my Father. I never had closer until I accidentally found his grave and finally cried the tears I should have cried 38 years earlier.
I feel the best you can do is try to live your life as close to normal as possible. Allow the children to express their feelings in their own way. Do not act surprised, angry or shocked if at some point out of anger either or both say "They wish they were with Daddy instead of you." Keep calm. allow yourself to show sorrow, but do not talk bad about the Children's father. Encourage both to speak about their father. On occasion say things like "I miss Daddy, don't you wish he was still here."
Always be ready to hug either child if they look withdrawn or sad.
In spite of Eric's words, I doubt if I have any words of wisdom to offer. But I can share personal experience from a child's view. I was 7 when I lost my father. My sister was 4 same age as your Jayda. Like Jayda she was a Daddy's girl and like Jayda she did much of the same. Being the "Big Boy" in the house I acted indifferent.
My mother simply acted as if all was normal and my sister soon was ready to move back into her on room and by the time she was 10 she had little memory of our Father.
I myself who showed no external grieve. was torn to pieces and every night I looked for him, every night and always expected to see the door open and he would walk in. Because I never let my grief out I spent my years until I was 45 years old looking for my Father. I never had closer until I accidentally found his grave and finally cried the tears I should have cried 38 years earlier.
I feel the best you can do is try to live your life as close to normal as possible. Allow the children to express their feelings in their own way. Do not act surprised, angry or shocked if at some point out of anger either or both say "They wish they were with Daddy instead of you." Keep calm. allow yourself to show sorrow, but do not talk bad about the Children's father. Encourage both to speak about their father. On occasion say things like "I miss Daddy, don't you wish he was still here."
Always be ready to hug either child if they look withdrawn or sad.
buddy i am sorry to hear of your troubles you are facing. You seem like a really nice woman. I don't know how any man could walk out on his own kids :'( btw i think its really cool to have kids at a young Age, u can grow with them.
) and things are brilliant. they talk to him about there dad alot to him aswell, alot of what kamran does for the kids is usually replied to with "my daddy used too like this" and my dad has these shoes" kamran takes it very much on the chin and carrys on, with either, yeah but i bet ur dads was better, or your dad was probably better at it than me though! i couldnt have it much better at the moment! life is good at last!