Losing hope

[Riana17]

Salam Alaikkum to all

Sister/Brother anonymous, I have a story for you. My husband shared it to me days ago.

There is one intelligent Muslim man, infact a Mulla, who has done many things in this Ummah, obviously he loves Allah.

One day he saw a very beautiful woman & immediately she caught his attention.
Ofcourse, being a Muslim, he would like to do the right thing. So he find out about her and he proposed:

She answered: "Sorry I cant accept your proposal for I am a Christian. Unless you convert, i will not accept your proposal."

So he was deeply saddened by this, he prayed & prayed & had patience, and he tried again. Her answer was the same. He was so sad and lost his peace, he cant survive any longer, she is so pretty, he cant focus in praying anymore, she does not leave his heart and mind, he will be crazy. He cant take it any longer

So days passed by and he came up with the decision.

He again knocked her door and said, "I am here again on your door and I accept your condition, I am Christian now"

And she replied, "Oh I am sorry, I just converted to ISLAM yesterday, I dreamt that my feet is being pulled under ground & her stories continued....(the rest of the stories didnt go to his mind)

I am not a good Muslim sister/brother, infact I had a bad past also, sins & all. I am not clean. But Allah knows how thankful I am and I consider ISLAM as the best blessing I had in this LIFE. Without ISLAM i am nothing, and I dont know what's the future but inshallah I can pass all the trials and test I will face before death. Sometimes i feel lazy, so i kept sticking with people who influence me positively, like Nouman ali Khan or this IB forum.

Now i have believe that, I shouldnt at all expect anything bad from our Creator. it's normal to be sad when things go wrong, but the difference of our Allah from other gods is that nothing BAD will come from Him. Nothing at all. Period. Now I put THAT in my heart and mind. May Allah love me and give me sabr and may Allah give you more than what I pray for myself.

Now, I will leave you sister/brother with imagination, please think about how the man feels at the moment and for the rest of his lives.

On top of the above, I personally believe that there is something very very nice in you, exceptional indeed, for Allah choose you to be on the right path. For Allah love you and show you ISLAM, others read and read but nothing goes to their brain. Allah closes their heart & mind for this deen.


salam

 

[Kabeer]

then if praying alone doesnt get me what i want then i really do have no hope

Why do you have no hope?
You say you can only pray hoping Allah puts things in your lap and not make a full effort yourself too?

Peace

 

[anonymous]

Jzk

That is good advice from everyone. You are all right if I put my trust in Allah it will all be ok.

 

[May Ayob]

then if praying alone doesn't get me what i want then i really do have no hope

I think you came to this conclusion from my post, Am I correct? Just to make things clear, I wasn't saying that God will not give you what you want. I was saying that sometimes you get what you want but in a better way; you get what you really need. You will insha'Allah get a job but maybe one that is better than you think, Allah answers paryers by : 1. giving you what you ask. 2. Giving you something better. 3. Delaying it for the Hereafter and also 4. Removing a calamity that was about to fall on you.
Keep praying my brother, you will soon gain the fruits of it.

Don't loose hope, I know it's easier said than done but still don't loose hope grab on to it because when you loose hope in God it is as if you have disbelieved in Him and His ability.

Ramadan Kareem

 

[Muhaba]

join the bandwagon. who can today find a job, marriage, etc. life is more difficult today especially for practicing muslims. most ppl are unmarried. i see them everywhere. if most were married, we could say that things weren't working out for us. Jobs are easily and quickly found in interest banks and bars, etc but halal jobs, especially well paying ones, are difficult to find.

i know it seems that way as we only notice our own problems. i think turning to prayers and duas and worship more at timeslike these is the best. Allah says in the Holy Quran, i think in Aali Imran or Nisa, that do you think you can go to heaven when Allah hasn't tested you to know who is steadfast on faith and who isn't? I don't remember the exact verse, but it means something like this.

This life is a test and the Aakhira is the thing we must think of first, although its easy to forget it and focus on current problems more since we are living them.
May Allah make things easy on the Muslims.

 

[Yanal]

Asalam alaikum,

“How marvelous is the affair of the believer, for all his affairs are good, and that does not apply to anyone except the believer. If something good happens to him he gives thanks for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to*
him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” Narrated by Muslim, 2999.*

“No tiredness, exhaustion, worry, grief, distress or harm befalls a believer in this world, not even a thorn that pricks him, but Allaah expiates some of his sins thereby.”

So insha'Allaah we can take this as an opportunity that has been given to us *to show Allah how patient we can be during his trial and tests and if whatever bad happens is a result of our sins in this world then we can be happy that Allah is getting rid of our sins through the hardships and tests *we now have to face. This life is a life of tests,sent in by Allah. *

Laqad khalaqna al-insana feekabad
We have certainly created man into hardship.
90:4

If you're feeling anxiety or sadness or anything regarding any type of issue then I suggest that you *prepare for bed in the best way. Be in a state of wudhu, make the sunnah adhkar, make nafil prayers before sleeping and such, whatever you can do to remain pure will help,insha'Allaah..A local scholar,told in one of his previous khutbahs that *when you lay down reflect on your day and start thanking Allah for everything,do this everyday witha pure intention in the heart,and insha'Allaah one day you will be soon worshipping Allah like never before,subhan'Allaah. The other thing that helps me if I feel overwhelemed with generally anything from hope or something in life is to read the descriptions of paradise in the Quran for example *like surah al insaan.

**This is Allah's way of testing us, our endurance *and our intentions throughout the tests. Also you must keep in mind that for every trails and test we face in the worldour sins are forgiven because of it,subhan'Allaah.
The main factor in dealing with these hardships is sabr(patience) 'Allahuma'asaabireen' meaning Allah is with the one who is patient,insha'Allaah just remain positive and patient regardless of your situation,put your trust into Allah,as he is the one to be trusted.

With our limited knowledge, we cant *be certain about the particular exact reasoning for which we are made to go through a severe situation. But, if a person has generally tried to submit to Allahs commands and has generally not been a transgressor, he can rest assured that the severe situation he is faced with is not a punishment from Allah but a test that he has sent to ys in the world in which he is provided a great opportunity of success in the life hereafter,insha'Allaah.

Another important aspect that should be kept in mind while faced with a difficult situation as humans is that a person should never be over confident of his conduct in the life of this world. In fact a person should always try to look back on his previous behavior and etiquette and try look *with a critic's eye. Insha'Allaah ee must remember that it is not only our sins that deserve punishment and cleansing but more so our arrogance and lack of humility in todays world, in some*cases.

Hope in the Mercy of Allah should be accompanied by regret and remorse of the heart upon the sins committed, sincerity, hastening in repentance and avoiding sins as is clearly manifest from the following verses of the Qur'aan. Allah says: “And whosoever does evil or wrongs himself but afterwards seeks Allah's forgiveness, he will find Allah Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Soorah an-Nisa (4): 110]

Insha'Allaah the following article will help you:

*At a time in which the Muslims are beset with trials from every periphery, it is a time when Muslims should continue being Muslims, only better Muslims. I would say to my dear brothers and sisters in Islam "don’t be Sad"; if you are on the true religion – believing in One God and all the Messengers sent to mankind, then don’t be sad.*

"...Bear with patience whatever befalls you...." (Qur'an 31:17) and "Be not sad, surely Allah is with us." (Qur'an 9:40)*

Our Prophet (pbuh) said: "Verily, if Allah loves a people, He makes them go through trials. Whoever is satisfied, for him is contentment, and whoever is angry upon him is wrath." [Tirmidhi]*

Being sad is not encouraged in Islam*

"So do not become weak, nor be sad..." (Qur'an 3:139)*
"And grieve not over them, and be not distressed because of what they plot." (Qur'an 16:127)*

Sadness prevents one from action instead of compelling one towards it. The heart does not benefit through grief. The most beloved thing to the devil is to hinder the worshipper in the path of Allah. The Muslim must repel sadness and fight in any way that is permissible in Islam.*

Allah is sufficient for us*

"Allah is sufficient for us, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. So they returned with Grace and Bounty from Allah. No harm touched them; and they followed the good Pleasure of Allah. And Allah is the owner of Great Bounty." (Qur'an 3:173-174)*

"And put your trust in Allah if you are believers indeed..." (Qur'an 5:23)*
"O you who believe! Seek help in patience and the prayer..." (Qur'an 2:153)*

By leaving your affairs to Allah by depending on Him, by trusting in His promise, by being pleased with His decree, by thinking favourably of Him, and by waiting patiently for His help, you reap some of the greater fruits of faith. When you incorporate these qualities, you will be at peace concerning the future, because you will depend on your Lord for everything. As a result, you will find care, help, protection and victory.

Pre-ordainment*

"No calamity befalls on earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees – before We bring it into existence." (Qur'an 57:22)*

The pen has dried, and the pages have been lifted: all events shall come to pass have already been written. Whatever has befallen you was not meant to escape you, and whatever has escaped you was not meant to befall you: if this belief were to be firmly ingrained in your heart, then all hardships and difficulty would become ease and comfort.*

The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Whoever Allah wishes good for, He inflicts him (with hardship)." [Bukhari]*

For those who are afflicted with disaster, glad tidings await them: so remain patient and happy with your Lord. "He cannot be questioned as to what He does, while they will be questioned." (Qur'an 21:23)*

Verily, with hardship, there is relief*

"Verily, with hardship there is relief" (Qur'an 94:6)*
"Perhaps Allah may bring victory or a decision according to His Will." (Qur'an 5:52)*

Prophet Ibrahim ('alayhissalam) did not feel its heat because of the help he received from Allah. "We (Allah) said : O' fire! Be you coolness and safety for Ibrahim." (Qur'an 21:69)*

The sea would not drown Prophet Moses ('alayhissalaam) because he uttered in confident, strong and truthful manner: "Nay verily! With me is my Lord, He will guide me." (Qur'an 26:62)*
And the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said to 'Abdullah bin 'Abbas (radiyallahu 'anhu): "..Be mindful of Allah, you will find Him before you. Get to know Allah in prosperity and He will know you in adversity... And know that victory comes with patience, relief with affliction, and ease with hardship." [Tirmidhi]*

Accept life as it is*

If you read the Qur'an you will see that all the Prophets went through trials and tribulations. Life is a test so let us learn from the best examples of our Prophets. "Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty, ailments and were shaken." (Qur'an 2:214)*

We should know that if we are pleased with our Lord, He will be pleased with us. And if you are pleased with your Lord no matter what the situation is, then you will find that you have earned your Lord's pleasure. On the other hand, there are hypocrites whom Allah rejects their deeds. They are displeased with what Allah sends down and they hate seeking His pleasure; thus their deeds are performed in vain.*


Your recompense is with Allah*

When Allah, the Exalted takes something away from you, He compensates it with something better, but only if you are patient and seek His reward.*
Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said, "Whoever loses a loved one from the people of this world and then seeks recompense with his Lord, will be compensated with Paradise."*

Those who are in this world and are close to Allah will be raised in the highest of heaven: "Peace be upon you, because you peresevered in patience! Excellent indeed is the final home!" (Qur'an 13:24)*

Truly, the life of this world is short and its treasures are few. O' afflicted ones, if you are patient you lose nothing; and though you may not perceive it, you are profiting.*
Extract honey but do not break the hive*

"Repel (the evil) with one which is better, then verily! He, between whom and you there was enmity (will become) as though he was a close friend." (Qur'an 41:34)*
"….and harm them not. And put your trust in Allah." (Qur'an 33:48)*

Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said, "Verily, Allah ordered me to keep relations with those that cut off, forgive the ones who does an injustice with me, and to give to those who withhold from me."*

"Those who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves the good-doers." (Qur'an 3-134)*

Remembrance of Allah*

"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest." (Qur'an 13:28)*
"Therefore remember Me and I will remember you…" (Qur'an 2:152)*

We should not be surprised when we hear that people who remember Allah are at peace. What is truly surprising is how the negligent and unmindful survive without remembering Him. Allah says in the Qur'an, "They are dead, lifeless and they know not when they will be raised up." (Qur'an 16: 21)*

Truly, He is near when supplicated: He hears when he is called and He answers when He is invoked, so humble yourself before Him and ask of Him sincerely. Repeat His beautiful names, and mention Him alone as worthy of worship. Mention His praises, supplicate to Him: you will find then – by the will of Allah – happiness, peace and illumination. “So Allah gave them the reward of this world and the excellent reward of the Hereafter.” (Qur’an 3:148)*

Loving Allah, knowing Him, remembering Him, seeking peace in Him, singling Him out for complete love, fear, hope and dependence – these qualities when combined in a person, constitute a sort of heaven on earth.*

These are qualities that bring peace to those who love Allah, a sort of peace that has no comparison in this world.It is important that a special relationship exists in the heart between the slave and his Lord, a relationship that allows the slave to feel so close to his Lord that he requires no other.*

Thus, he finds company when he is alone, and he tastes the sweetness of remembering Him and supplicating to Him. Allah's slave will continually face hardship and difficulty until he dies, but if he has a special relationship with his Lord, all of the hardships of life will become easy for him.*

The prayer….the prayer – we must return to our mosques*

"O' you who believe! Seek help in patience and the Prayer." (Qur'an 2:153)*

By earnestly performing the five daily prayers, we achieve the greatest of blessings: cleared off our sins and increase in rank with our Lord. Prayer is a potent remedy for our sickness, for it instills our faith in our souls.*

As for those that keep away from the mosque and away from prayer, for them is unhappiness, wretchedness and an embittered life.*

"For them is destruction and Allah will make their deeds vain." (Qur'an 47:8)*

Take a moment to reflect*

O whose mind has wandered in grief, O' you whose eyes are loaded with tears; relax and know that your Creator aids, and that His mercy will bring you peace. And know that your reward is secure with He Who doesn’t disappoint the one who seeks to please Him. Be at peace, for after poverty comes joyous meeting, and after sleeplessness comes sound rest. O you who are oppressed in the lands, who suffer from hunger, pain, sickness and poverty, rejoice in the knowledge that you will soon be satisfied with food and that you will be happy and in good health.*

Let us make these supplications, their purpose being to eliminate hardship, anxiety and grief:*

"There is no worthy of worship except Allah, the Ever Forbearing, the Most Great. There is none worthy of worship except Allah, the Lord of the Tremendous Throne. There is none worthy of worship One Who sustains and protects all that exists, there is none worthy of worship except You, and by Your Mercy do we seek Your aid."*
"So be patient, with a good patience..." (Qur'an 70:5)
Source: http://mudassirsworld.blogspot.com/2009/07/verily-after-hardship-comes-ease.html

Keep that in mind,insha'Allaah,verily after hardship comes ease.**Losing My Religion: A Call For Help
I highly suggest *this book for you to read,insha'Allaah . http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/159...lance&n=283155

Here are some youtube links online regarding this book:**
From Atheism to Belief: A Journey to Islam in North America by Dr. Jeffrey Lang (Part 1-17)

Part 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qVQ1B...eature=related
Part 2 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pliSa...eature=related
Part 3 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KMvO...eature=related
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Part 16 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFUqK...eature=related
Part 17 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LtuJB...eature=related

Dr. Jeffrey Lang- Losing my Religion: A Cry for Help (Part 1-10):

Part 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMANK...eature=related
Part 2 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YgivQ...eature=related
Part 3 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ga2rI...eature=related
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Part 7 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WD-Ye...eature=related
Part 8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2eVO...eature=related
Part 9 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBQp7...eature=related
Part 10 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4_xx...eature=related

Insha'Allaah you are in my duas,I hope I'm in yours.*
*
Allah knows the best in all regards of aspects.*

 

[Riana17]

Salam Alaikkum to all,

I am too confused now, isnt it Brother anonymous who post this thread "Losing hope" and sister anonymous who posted this marriage difficulties and other thread SAME person?

Salam

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Salam Alaikkum to all,

I am too confused now, isnt it Brother anonymous who post this thread "Losing hope" and sister anonymous who posted this marriage difficulties and other thread SAME person?

Salam

Asalaamu Alaikum, no sister the anonymous account can be used by anyone in the advice section who does not want to reveal their identity and would rather remain anonymous especially if they want to discuss or share sensative issues.

 

[Riana17]

Asalaamu Alaikum, no sister the anonymous account can be used by anyone in the advice section who does not want to reveal their identity and would rather remain anonymous especially if they want to discuss or share sensative issues.

Salam Alaikkum,

Thank you for clarification, that is nice to have such account. Sorry I didnt knew and really confusing coz I know he is a man then later i'll remember: wait he is a wife? Now it is clear

Salam