bro dzul...please help me.
i'm trying to give da'wah...
the malaysian teenagers now...are so involve in pre-marriage relationship. they think is good and making them happy.
you have to teach...
i told them...'bercinta' hanya menghabiskan masa, wang dan tenaga.
what points should i give.
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trying to give naseehah....but i'm not good on explaination at all)
I can't offer a quick solution but let's discuss the problem.
I think I know the problem partly because I'm of the same age group you're talking about. We have analyze the scenario that is happening in Malaysia. However Muslim the TV shows might be, we are still flooded with entertainment, in fact lots of them, from outside the country, and our own people have cleverly managed to pick up the growing trend from immoral and decadent behavior from what is essentially godless secular societies (I'm afraid to say, from the western world).
How can we solve the problem if we don't look at the root of it? We are constantly exposed to so much entertainment. Our young people are treating as part and parcel of life. There's little religious value to be garnered from TV shows. Sex and violence are fast becoming a norm. Today we have criminal cases of such nature that leave even some CSI directors baffled (READ: Altantuya case).
Pre-marital relationship is bad, yes I agree, but instead of blaming on teenagers and saying that they're looking for so much fun, we never investigate where does all this come from. I mentioned in my earlier posts and I put the blame on the TV. Where else could have they learned to hold hands, kiss and everything else? It is impossible to have picked up pre-marital relationship behaviors from the libraries,
Marriage has become increasingly difficult subject to tackle, we as young adults. As young people, we are expected to excel in our studies, get a good job and then spend years more trying to make fortune so that we can later have a lavish weddings. We have mountains of debts resulting from our education loans and a mountain more for the car. Yes, that is our culture today. I am experiencing this even now (yes, with graduation a year away I have to hold off any thoughts of getting married). Our society has made it difficult because without RM30,000 cash in hand, let's just forget anything about marriage.
Because of TV, our young people have become sexually starved and depraved. Yet we deny them rights to marry and channel their natural desire through the halal way. It's like inviting someone to eat, shoveling up tons of food up his/her throats and when it's time to visit the toilet to clear things up, we deny him/her the basic human right to relieve himself/herself. When that person throws up or defecate all over the place, who else can we blame but ourselves?
Forgive me for being blunt but I seriously think something must be done. There's no use blaming the youngsters. They know nothing, you old people always say.
Phew! There... you have it. Feel free to deconstruct my ideas. Have your say.