Marriage help...

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Yousaf11 said:
Bro have you ever thot of this that okay u didnt get married to the girl may be best for u
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It's okay that I did not get married with the first girl who I wanted to marry. I had burried my love to that girl when I made a promise with my ex-classmate, and start a new love that only for her. I have ability to not fall in love to someone who is not mine, and ability to build a love only to someone who belong to me.

Alhamdulillah, these abilities make me never attracted to another woman. :)
 
ardianto said:
It's okay that I did not get married with the first girl who I wanted to marry. I had burried my love to that girl when I made a promise with my ex-classmate, and start a new love that only for her. I have ability to not fall in love to someone who is not mine, and ability to build a love only to someone who belong to me.

Alhamdulillah, these abilities make me never attracted to another woman. :)
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Alright brother, i HAVE some kind of news that i would like to share with u..in last week friday, i explained my situation to a religious scholar, and i asked him about that whether he please make istikhara and also do dua for me...so that more entries of duas can be registered in Allah register. The scholar warned me that if istikhara comes bad, then i will have to leave the girl, and i would be heart broken..i will have to stop pursuing her..He asked me that i contact him again on monday..Now I became really tense, becuz i didnt want to leave the girl...so again my session of fervent duas started and i added in my dua that let there be a good istikhara, Allah I dont want to lose her, plz change taqdir ..Those were agonising 3 days..

On monday, I finally called him again..About the istikhara, he said that about the girl, istikhara has been good..She is a nice girl and u can try to pursue her..But when i asked him about the proposal, he said that it was vague..becuz i would have to do something practical..i would have to initiate talk with her, get to know her, also becuz she may not like me, or she may not like my rishta if i go to her house, or she may already be engaged to some boy..So he asked that you have to talk to her...Now this is a huge mountainous task..Again, i have asked him that he makes dua for me for 2 things, 1. that Allah saves that girl for me so that we be wedded together and 2...That Allah gives us oppurtunities that we talk to each other and get to know each other..May Allah help me becuz without his help I am doomed to failure...but if Allah is on my side, I will able to do anything..Plz make dua for me
 
If you want to get something, you cannot only make du'a and expecting miracle, but you need to work too.

The first thing that you should do now is try to make that girl does not hate you again.

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Please people...I really need your advice of how to make my dua stronger..I really want her as my wife..please tell me of what more to please Allah more so that he rewards me..Your help will be appreciated..There is still some years left before my marriage..bt i want her..please help
 
Thankyou so much guys for really boosting my faith in Allah again.I posted this same message on some other forum and they were all hating me and saying i was sinning for thinking about a girl and i should ask for forgivness, when infact i want to marry her which even the Prophet Mohammad encouraged.

I so all love you very much guys for your kind and helping advices. I only know Allah can help me. You see recently my mom has promised that she would go to her house to ask for her hand, but [COLOR=#009900 !important]after graduation[/COLOR]..Its still 2.5 years..and my father has also got to know about my sincere love for her, and he may also be compelled to go to her house. Who knows may be Allah is doing this.

But the problem my dear [COLOR=#009900 !important]friends[/COLOR] is that i have this hidden fear, that even if [COLOR=#009900 !important]my parents[/COLOR] accept to go, i fear they will reject because of the scenario i descibed above. Since she studies in my uni, i occassionaly get to meet her mother and i go and meet her happily by saying salam, she just gives a slight nod or salams back in a low tone and doesnt even lowers her window of car. i also fear that the girl is also difficult for me, since we both very rarely talk ,once in a year and that just some words. Becuz even if she had liked me, she would have compelled her mother to let her marry me, which in this case in not the case.

I also fear that she may get wedded quickly becuz her father is dead and her bro is paralysed. I really like her, i dont want to lose her without her. I wake everyday thinking about her.I go to night asking Allah for help .Whenever I pray, i ask Allah for help.If i get in car, i ask Allah for help becuz this dua is really tough and complex.My love for her is so deep that when i leave my uni, i want to get a last peek of her and if her car is infront of my car, i race to her...or if her car is behind me, i slow down literally to 10 km/h so that i let her pass..Allah please let me get her.Please brother, what more can i do to make my case stronger to Allah. I know everything doesnt work by dua, unless one put in ones effort but i cant talk to her, its impossible, i feel intimidated by her and her mom..I try to message her if she want some important notes for exams, she doesnt reply back. Oh God, will Allah respond positively!!!
 

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