Marring a relative in western culture

[AnonymousPoster]

In Islam it is acceptable to marry a relative such as a first cousing but this is prohibited in many western cultures. How do muslims living in a western country deal with this situation? If you are married to a relative do you keep it secret from none muslim friends? Who do you tell? And how do you deal with the reaction?

This has always interested me.

 

[Vito]

Its nothing to be ashamed about really. Its up to you if you want to spread the word out, or keep it to yourself but, I wouldn't hold back based on what other people might think. If people react negatively about it, thats their problem. Besides, you'd be surprised at how many non-Muslims are married to their cousins in the west. Some people even keep it in the family if you know what I mean..

 

[Snowflake]

I've never really thought about this. But Ive also never come across a muslim who is married to their cousin and feels awkward about it around non muslim friends. I can confidently say that this is sometimes due to the fact that we know most non muslims have relationships outside of marriage and that makes us think well if they are ok with that (which is probably forbidden to them) then why wouldn't they be ok with first-cousin marriages. Do you understand what I'm saying?

However first-cousin marriages are legal in Britain and for a non-muslim to find that 'unacceptable' for themselves or others suggests to me they think there is something wrong with the law of their own land.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i never saw it as a big deal

my secondary school friends never saw it as a big deal (non muslim ones)

the college people i knew never saw it as a big deal.

wen i went to work , a few acted a bit weird




^ there u hav it, the west slowly desensitises, and we shouldnt really care bout it


if islam allows it, thats that right?

Assalamu Alaikum