Marrying Reverts

[Dark Side]

Assalaamu Alaykum wr wb

Ya Akhti first i agree with you that mainly sister want to marry reverts....secondly let me correct you. I don't believe that these sister want to marry these reverts beacause of dealing with less family "responsibilities".

Sister tend to want to marry these reverts cuz they take Islam seriously. And this the case with MOST reverts. Allah Knows Best. They take Islam as their way of life. Comapre most reverts to born muslim's. I'm not saying the "we" born muslims and brought up as muslims don't practise islam. Of cuz there are born muslim we are masha Allah practising Alhmdulilaah.

Ok I'm just going on.....

Wa Salaamu Alaykum

I've heard that argument as well but I don't buy it. Reverts tend to be very focused on learning Islam the first few months/years that they become a Muslim. But after a while of being a Muslim most reverts tend to act like the majority of those who are born Muslim. Although some continue on being very religious. Plus, in most cases reverts take a long while to learn how to pray, read quran, and learn their duas and it is very difficult for them for a while before they get used to it. So I don't Muslim women should marry a man who just reverted because she will end up having to teach him many things and will serve as a model for him. Rather it should be the husband who is teaching the wife and being an example for her, because that is one of the rights that women have over men. I know of many cases where women marry a revert man and after they get married he will stop praying and go back to his sinful ways. So I suggest that women marry men who have been Muslims for many years and are very knowledgeable about Islam and have memorized a good portion of the Quran so that it can be easier for them and their children once they get married. For a Muslim woman to marry a revert because she thinks that it will help her to be more religious is not smart in my idea. It will be more like a burden on her to teach her husband until he knows as much as she does, and then who will teach her? See where I'm getting.

I'm a firm believer that people should work on their character and their deen before getting married, and not afterwards. Many people say that once they get married they will change. For instance some women say that once they get married they will start wearing the hijab, or some men say that once they get married they will start to pray more and grow a beard and memorize the Quran. The truth is that if we don't work on those things now instead of putting them off into the future, we will never get them done. It's always, "I'll do it tomorrow". Well guess what? Tomorrows dreams will never become a reality unless you start to fulfill them today.

 

[Serenity]

Bismilah

My husband is a revert to Islam. He reverted to islam when he was 17 and he did his haj that same year. There is so much he teaches me about my Islam .

About the niqaab & Hijab, There is an outer hijab and an inner hijab. No matter how covered you are if you don't have the inner hijab your covering is without a purpose and meaningless. I think it's really important that we first perfect our inner hijab. And Make our intentions serene and pure and for Allahs sake only. When that is achieved thats when your outer hijab becomes a reflection of our inner muslim. Thats when Your Imaan and akhlaq shine through the way you walk, talk, and in every slightest move you make mashaAllah.

I don't want to complain about anyone else's bad manner because subhanaAllah I should worry about my own. But I think a lot of the times many people wear the hijab just for the sake of wearing it. It is better to not wear it than to wear it for any other reason or purpose except to please Allah.

The last paragraph is my opinion and May Allah forgive us, ameen.

 

[hrm]

Bismilah

My husband is a revert to Islam. He reverted to islam when he was 17 and he did his haj that same year. There is so much he teaches me about my Islam .

About the niqaab & Hijab, There is an outer hijab and an inner hijab. No matter how covered you are if you don't have the inner hijab your covering is without a purpose and meaningless. I think it's really important that we first perfect our inner hijab. And Make our intentions serene and pure and for Allahs sake only. When that is achieved thats when your outer hijab becomes a reflection of our inner muslim. Thats when Your Imaan and akhlaq shine through the way you walk, talk, and in every slightest move you make mashaAllah.

I don't want to complain about anyone else's bad manner because subhanaAllah I should worry about my own. But I think a lot of the times many people wear the hijab just for the sake of wearing it. It is better to not wear it than to wear it for any other reason or purpose except to please Allah.

The last paragraph is my opinion and May Allah forgive us, ameen.

Serenity :statisfie
SubhanAllah WahumduAllah for your beautiful definition of wearing and not wearing Hijab. If only other women who wear hijab for outer purpose could read this.
May Allah's peace and blessings be upon Hafizeena Faroja hum wal Hafizaat. Aameen:wa:

 

[cat eyes]

not everyone thinks like you. I went to the mosque "this lady was telling other lady that "these days guys want someone who is not niqaabi/hijabi" I was wearing niqaab right I felt soo bad. she continued saying "usually people with niqaab/hijab are bad girls..they try to look nice in front of people but inside they are bad...and the guys side wants someone who are not hijabi/niqabi.

I was just staring at her blankly...then salah started...I was gonna give her lecture on that...then I told myself "forget it...its no use."

Not all hijabis/niqaabis are bad...yeah, they might be few...but really nobody can judge them...Allah knows best about their intentions.

gtg college....lates.

walaikum salaaam wr wb.

hate those people who judge others, i would have spoken up about the womans comment and have had a heated argument with her so she can know sister what she saying is a major sin..because my blood boils when a human thinks they are god and knows peoples hearts...
im sure she has met some bad eggs who wear the niqab but she can't judge everybody,thats just sick and disgusting commenting on her sisters like that

 

[cat eyes]

btw i believe that the only reason why some sisters want to marry reverts is because they want that security, hes a new believer mashallah.. he left all the bad worldly things to come to islam..

he knows what benfits him and what harms him as some men before finding islam were taking drugs, drinking alcohol sleeping around with girls.. and born muslims today have all the pressures of that, (not all of them)some of them so from my own opinion is from me being a girl myself girls want that security brother

i have spoken with many sisters myself and they want to marry reverts and thats the reason right there.

but i prefer born muslim myself..

 

[hrm]

but i prefer born muslim myself..

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