Marrying your own cousin?!!!!

[Faraola]

mg:I just want to ask you brothers and sisters if you are suppose to marry your own cousin (FIRST COUSIN) how and what do you feel about it?

 

[Selising]

As I know, cousin is halal in Islam. You can marry your own cousin, why not? But some says it is not good to marry a cousin whereby both side's father are brothers.

But in some cases a cousin can become a wali. A cousin from mother's side (if I'm not mistaken) can become a wali.

What will I feel? The relatioship between girls and boys has been watched closely by our parents. We were not supposed to mix freely. So, if there is a marriage been arranged, the feeling towards the cousin is just like other guy. I don't think any of us will feel guilty or feel like marrying your own brother

If you mix freely with your own cousin, like eat together, play together, kids quarrel.... you will feel as if he is your own brother and not suppose to marry him. but if the relationship is under control, you can see halal is halal and haram is haram. Your cousin is halal for you but your own siblings are haram for you to marry

 

[m102313]

I don't get the reason behind posting that picture.

 

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:salamext:

As long as the other gender is not your mahram, you are allowed to marry them.

And I wouldn't mind.

 

[S_87]

do you mean if your family are expecting you to marry a certain person?

 

[Silver]

It happens a lot in arabic countries...here in Lebanon, it was common in the old days for related people to get married.
My grandparents are related but they are not 1st cousins. It still exists but it is not common and it happens mostly in villages.
In Lebanon, cousins are very very close, as close as brothers and sisters so no, I would never get married to a cousin, it'll be like marrying my own brother so NO WAY!!!!! But it is allowed of course.
I am also against it for health reasons...because they are members of the same family, cousins have a higher chance (1/8 i think) of carrying the same recessive variant gene, if the child inherits both of the recessive variant genes he will be ill.

 

[Güven]

My parents are cousins and NO problems here Iam even healthier than other people Alhamdullah :statisfie

 

[Silver]

My parents are cousins and NO problems here Iam even healthier than other people Alhamdullah :statisfie

Al7amdulillah...I'm not saying that all children whose parents are cousins will be ill, no...but if the recessive gene of a certain disease is carried by one of the cousins chances are higher for the 2nd cousin to have that gene because they come from the same family so they have more genes in common, there is a higher risk of having a child who is ill. It's all a matter of probability and if the parents are cousins the probability is higher.

 

[Güven]

Yes I know what you mean, I'ts better not to take that risk.

 

[truemuslim]

Nothing is wrong with it.
Wasalaam

 

[teen-omar]

sallam
actually it is stated in one lecture called "Fiqh of Love" by Yaser Birjas that the risks of getting a certain disease is very similar to either getting married to a cousin or somebody else
there is only a small chance of it happening and the difference is very minor
however getting married to a cousin depends all on preferences
the prophet sallahu 3allleihy wassalam got married to his cousin so it's all clear
it's halal as most of the people already posted before, but it's just a preference for everyone
wallahu a3lam
wassalam

 

[Whatsthepoint]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/newsnight/4442010.stm

British Pakistanis are 13 times more likely to have children with genetic disorders than the general population - they account for just over 3% of all births but have just under a third of all British children with such illnesses.

Indeed, Birmingham Primary Care Trust estimates that one in ten of all children born to first cousins in the city either dies in infancy or goes on to develop serious disability as a result of a recessive genetic disorder.

 

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:salamext:

For heavens sake. So ur saying that if u love ur first cuzzin, dont get married to them because there is that risk of ur child being born with disease?!

Wot utter nonsense...

 

[Silver]

:salamext:

For heavens sake. So ur saying that if u love ur first cuzzin, dont get married to them because there is that risk of ur child being born with disease?!

Wot utter nonsense...

Few marriages between cousins are the result of love, usually they are arranged marriages or at least that is what i see around me.
If the 2 cousins love eachother, i don't think that the risk will stop them from getting married but if they don't then why take the risk?

 

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:salamext:

^ Why not? Marry within the family - better than getting played around by someone else.

 

[Silver]

:salamext:

^ Why not? Marry within the family - better than getting played around by someone else.

Marrying someone who is not from ur family is not getting played around!!!!!

 

[Cabdullahi]

It is better to marry someone within the family,tribe or someon from close family friends because the man or the women are both familiar which means their background history is known,what their personality is like ,are they good muslims? these things are already known which makes it easier and much safer than to go for someone who is a stranger but can put on a great act of being nice and everything and then turn ugly and evil..which is better? i dont know

 

[جوري]

I have to disagree with the above from both a religious and scientific aspect!

 

[Al-Zaara]

I believe the Islamic view is that marriage between cousins is permissible, but it is preferable to choose a partner from outside one’s family, to form new social ties and bonds. There is an hadith on this, but I couldn't find it, so it would be appreciated if someone found it.

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

^^ I agree. If it has been made permissible for us, I don't see the problem. And everything is in the hands of Allah Ta'ala. If He wishes, there won't be problems...so I don't see the point of arguing over it. There are loads of people who don't marry in the family and still have kids with problems, so why the issue? Just because it happens within the family doesn't mean it doesn't happen without it. Duh.