Matrimonial websites

[Innocent Soul]

But when they have meet offline, ........... not only different than the picture, that girl is a male !

I think some sisters should also act like bros .

Why would you want to waste money on something like this?

They demand a lot of money. I don't think it's safe because mostly we have to add photographs in profile.

 

[ardianto]

Salaam



Oh God . What happened then ?

Salaam

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[Who Am I?]

Same like you, I always consider myself as an average-looking guy too, and I made that post only to motivate some brothers here who have low confidence just because they assume women are attracted only to physical attraction.

Actually I had and idea to make that post since last month when I read a thread in another section that made by a brother (you made a post in that thread). I could feel what he felt because I had experience that not so different. In early of my puberty age some girls treated me like a crap, they said "eww !" when I near them, and they always mocked me as "ugly fatty". But it didn't make me hate women because I had many female friends who treated me well, and they told me the truth if actually I am not ugly, just fat. That's why in my previous post I wrote "in my 20's age" because I started my diet in late of my teen age.

But even after I turned into attractive guy I always consider myself as an average-looking guy, and it's made me became special and different than other good-looking guys who considered themselves as handsome people and look-down on girls. That's why girls were trying to approach me because they thought it's easy to get me.

And, like people say, beauty is not something that would exist longer. Now I am not the handsome one anymore but have turn into 44 years old fat daddy. But it's OK, like I said before, I always consider myself as average-looking guy. And the most important thing is, although now I am a fat guy, my beautiful wife still love me.

:wa:

I remember that thread, and I could relate to that guy's experiences. When I was in my teens and even early 20's, women never gave me the time of day. I am sure that there were some girls who liked me back then, but I was too busy feeling miserable to notice them.

My biggest problem has always been a lack of self-confidence. I was a goofy, skinny kid, with glasses and braces, and I got made fun a fair bit. That really made me self-conscious about myself both physically and mentally, to the point where I was an emotional wreck as a teen/20-something. I wouldn't even leave the house for about 15 years except when necessary (work/school)or so because of my social anxiety issues. I didn't go out with friends, and I didn't enjoy life.

It really wasn't until a few years ago that I got enough confidence to make my own way in the world. I finally moved out of my parent's house when I turned 30, and being on my own has given me more confidence to be my own man. I could never have taken the steps I have taken with regards to faith 10 years ago, or even 5 years ago.

Now that being said, I still have some improvements to make. I still have my issues with women, which is why I have decided not to marry at this time. I need to learn to become a better man, and a better leader, since in Islam, men are supposed to be spiritual leaders of their family and community. I don't know the first thing about being a leader. I've always done things by myself, for myself, and I have always valued my independence very highly. I'm not used to setting an example for anyone and I'm not used to having people rely on me for guidance. This is something I will have to get used to, and I admit it might take a while.

So for those reasons, I must remain single for a while. Allah has spoken, and I have heard.