Means of helping oneself to lower one’s gaze

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abu salaahudeen said:
marriage is the safest way to safeguard oneself
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even when your married your still fighting the temptations of the shaytan. woman will be always a trial for a man whether your married or not...you still have to lower your gaze if anything i find that married men have it the hardest.
 
KittenLover said:
it's true, many married men cheat and look at women even though they're married, but if a man has deen in him and everytime he gets tempted he goes running to his wife he will be ok inshallah.
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truesay ......
 
Abdullahii said:
SON! the young girl will ask for a ridiculous amount and by the time you save up all your pocket money the girl now an old lady will walk away with the sum of cash like this :


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As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

lol that was funny... if the girl is religious she wont ask for loads of cash....
and there is a hadith also ...

The best marriage is the one upon which the least trouble and expense has been bestowed...

btw u didnt shed light on the remaining part of my post...regarding the sahaba who gave mahr the quran he knew by heart..

"Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 58:

Narrated Sahl bin Sad:

A woman came to Allah's Apostle and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have come to you to present myself to you (for marriage)." Allah's Apostle glanced at her. He looked at her carefully and fixed his glance on her and then lowered his head. When the lady saw that he did not say anything, she sat down. A man from his companions got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! If you are not in need of her, then marry her to me." The Prophet said, "Have you got anything to offer." The man said, 'No, by Allah, O Allah's Apostle!" The Prophet said (to him), "Go to your family and try to find something." So the man went and returned, saying, "No, by Allah, O Allah's Apostle! I have not found anything." The Prophet said, "Go again and look for something, even if it were an iron ring." He went and returned, saying, "No, by Allah, O Allah's Apostle! I could not find even an iron ring, but this is my Izar (waist sheet).' He had no Rida (upper garment). He added, "I give half of it to her." Allah's Apostle said "What will she do with your Izar? If you wear it, she will have nothing over herself thereof (will be naked); and if she wears it, then you will have nothing over yourself thereof ' So the man sat for a long period and then got up (to leave). When Allah's Apostle saw him leaving, he ordered that he e called back. When he came, the Prophet asked (him), "How much of the Qur'an do you know (by heart)?" The man replied, I know such Sura and such Sura and such Sura," naming the suras. The Prophet said, "Can you recite it by heart?" He said, 'Yes." The Prophet said, "Go I let you marry her for what you know of the Quran (as her Mahr)."
 
zaira said:
I didn't really understand that fatwa. Is there a program in muslim countries that take in reverts and look after them? What muslim country is safe to live in? Who would I live with with no friends or family? I've never left north america and I have no money lol. Would someone pay my way?
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Who told you that the Western country are safe for you to live in? Last time I heard, phone calls are tapped and if you mentioned Jihad on telephone, softwares pick that up and start focussing on your conversation after that topic. My mom was discussing the topic of Jihad with her friend on the phone so I told her to change topic so not to garner unnecessary attention from the leeches monitoring lines.

Do not you think that Muslims DO continue to live in the relatively unsafe lands of Islam?

Just because one is born in one country, it does not mean it is their country. The world would like us to believe so but a believer does not care where he is born. At least that is what I understand from the example of Sulayman al Farsi (ra). He left Faaris for Allah. Persians are proud of their land and Aryan ancestry, more so than Americans, and zoroastrianism yet he left all that for his search of the last Prophet. A reminder to myself to escape away from this country once I am done my education inshALLAH.

Why should someone pay for your migration? It would be good for other Muslims to help you in your migration but its not obligatory upon them especially if you have enough money for yourself to buy a ticket etc. But of course you should feel welcomed when migrating to a Muslim land as Muslims are supposed to like one body.
 
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abrar_ said:
As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

Can mahr be paid by saved pocket money??(I know its stupid to ask...but there is no shyness in seeking knowledge) and regarding being financially stable.... can someone throw some light on the hadith in which prophet(peace and blessings be upon him) married someone and he had just memorized some quran..(didnt even had an iron ring...may Allah be pleased with him).
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abrar:

You are correct. A brother doesn't have to be rich to marry. That is one of the many excuses used not to marry and some live with parents indefinitely.


Narrated Sahl bin Sad:

The Prophet said to a man, "Marry, even with (a Mahr equal to) an iron ring." Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 80:

Narrated Said bin Jubair:

Ibn 'Abbas asked me, "Are you married?" I replied, "No." He said, "Marry, for the best person of this (Muslim) nation (i.e., Muhammad) of all other Muslims, had the largest number of wives."
Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 7:
 
abrar_ said:
As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

Can mahr be paid by saved pocket money??(I know its stupid to ask...but there is no shyness in seeking knowledge)
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u should not say this as shyness is part of faith..rather, you should say, "and Allah is not shy to speak the truth..."
 

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