Muslim Women changing surname after marriage

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Yeh that might be okay.. The main thing is people can recognise that you are your dads daughter.
 
Salahudeen said:
It seems that what is meant in the question is a woman changing her family name to that of her husband after she gets married. This is haraam and is not allowed in sharee’ah, because it is not permissible for anyone to claim to belong to anyone other than his or her father.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah…” [al-Ahzaab 33:5]. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has cursed the one who claims to belong to someone other than his father.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad and others). And Allaah knows best.
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No no no no no, I think there's misunderstanding on this. What is haraam :
1. A woman had adultery with a man, get pregnant from him, but then admitting that her baby is her husband's child. And hence the child is named after her husband's family name.
2. A family adopted a child, and then naming the child with their family name.

The hadiths refering to these two, NOT woman's surname after marriage.

Qur;an or hadith, as far as I know, never discussed whether woman should change her surname to her husband's. It's common in Islamic world that a muslim woman keeps her maiden name even when she's married.
 
Does lying about your background/ethnicity to people when you were in your early-ish teens because you had been critisized or told racist things because people didnt know what your background was or because you were lonely and wanted to be accepted by someone count as denying your lineage because In the past I have done this and I always avoid explaining my background because I am mixed and was critisized by other kids when they first met me when I was younger - as early as the age of like 2/3 in pre school - there were a lot of levels in my school before pre-school (5yrs old) level so I was very self concious and really felt that i did not fit in wherever I went. I also faced a lot of hate and rude first meetings from a lot of people in that age of my life (13/14/15) who met me and immediately judged me.... I might have done the same at times but It was because that was the only kind of people I was around that I has to sit in class with everyday so being in that environment all of the time really upset me deep down silently and my anger and rudeness seemed to creep out sporadically. So please tell me if lying about your ethnicity counts and if so how is the best way to seek forgiveness because I feel really bad about it even to this day i catch myself lying sometimes so i still avoid telling people. I know what my bad habbits are currently, Im working on that - bout about the lying - any advice would help - I have like 90% or 95 or 99 % stopped lying all together completely.
 
women are not property of their husbands, in Islam. They must retain the name they got by being daughters of their fathers.
 
arachnide said:
No no no no no, I think there's misunderstanding on this. What is haraam :
1. A woman had adultery with a man, get pregnant from him, but then admitting that her baby is her husband's child. And hence the child is named after her husband's family name.
2. A family adopted a child, and then naming the child with their family name.

The hadiths refering to these two, NOT woman's surname after marriage.

Qur;an or hadith, as far as I know, never discussed whether woman should change her surname to her husband's. It's common in Islamic world that a muslim woman keeps her maiden name even when she's married.
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do you know more than scholars? Where is Prophet pbuh talking about adultery in that hadith? Nowhere.
 
CosmicPathos said:
do you know more than scholars? Where is Prophet pbuh talking about adultery in that hadith? Nowhere.
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That hadith indeed doesn't talk about adultery, but a nasab falsification. I just give 2 examples of nasab falsification to explain this. Changing a wife's surname after marriage cannot never be equalized with nasab falsification. Here's another hadith explained this :

A marfu hadith from Sa'ad from Abu Ba'ar, the Prophet pbuh stated :

Whoever claims to descent (claim a father's name) to which is not his/her father, while s/he herself knows, then heaven for him/her is illegitimate '. (Narrated by Al-Bukhaari and Muslim)

and another one :

"Any woman who entered the descendants of people who were not in group a people into it, she's not going to get something else from God Almighty, and God Almighty will not let her enter into His heaven. And anyone who denied his/her own child (descendant) while s/he consciously knows it (that the child belongs to him/her), then Allah will open his secrets and reveal his scandals to all people who live earlier and latter" (narrated by [FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Abu Daud dan Ad-Darimi)[/FONT]
 
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this is largely a western practice. There's no need to do this as there is no legal requirement todo so under marriage laws, so why bother?

Even from a non-Islamic point of view, you had your name all your life. Why change it to something different?
 

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