Muslimah - Would you marry a Revert?

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Muslimah - Would you marry a Revert?

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Asa,
I would marry a revert because I am a revert myself and frankly it would be easier for my family if I married someone whose own family didn't have a lot of cultural barriers (you can still run into those when marrying a revert however). But apart from the fact that I'm a revert myself, I don't think there is a lot of backing to the thought that reverts are more likely to go back to their old ways. I'm guessing that a lot of more born-Muslims grow up to be non practicing then reverts leaving Islam but I could be wrong.
Allah knows best, and its all in His plan. If He intends for me to marry a revert or born-Muslim, that is how it is going to be.
 
Comparing Khalid bin Waleed with Sulaiman and David? The last two are Prophets, higher in status than Khalid bin Waleed, no matter what angle you look at it from.

Khalid ibn Waleed (ra) was a great personality but had his weaknesses. He helped Muslims in winning many battles (we often forget that victory is from Allah, He chose Khalid (ra) for that). His weaknesses are also obvious in written records, as evident from Umar ibn Khattab's relationship with Khalid (ra).
 
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I would have no problem provided my parents agree. What I feel is that from the place that I come from, most born in Muslim families take Islam for-granted whereas I feel that reverts are much more practicing and have much more knowledge about the Islamic do hows. So, if I were given a choice maybe I'd go for a revert :)



Wa salaam !
 
Assalam walaikum.
Good question! For years, I was looking for someone, with a focus on finding a revert or someone interested in Islam and willing to revert after learning more about it. I would prefer to marry an attractive and well-educated Caucasian white revert as they seem kind and understanding and most compatible with me and my uperclass education and lineage. So yes, I would marry a revert who fits the criteria I am looking for. Alhamdulillah, I found somebody who is interested in me and Islam! I am extremely grateful to Allah Subhan wa tala.
 
Actually, I would not marry a non revert because I have had bad experiences dealing with ethnic people, including relatives who are of an Asian background. I just hate how misunderstanding and misogynist they are! I have been infantalized and abused by a bunch of ethnic psychopaths and their ethnic husbands. I never want to deal with them or their kind again. I don't even look like those people. I am mixed genetically. I don't even find those people physically attractive. I would never marry one of them or other ethnic Muslim male. They are very selfish and clever and cunning. I grew up in America. I don't have time for nonsense and dishonesty. Or, ethnic baggage.
 
I do realize marrying a revert guy often means not having Muslim in-laws. That is something I can do without. I have seen how these "Muslim" in-laws malfunction and cause friction and trouble in their sons' marriages. Monsters-in-laws are a better term for them, especially crazy, ethnic "mothers-in-law."
 
It is better to marry a revert and/or someone from a different background than not to get married because one is not interested in guys from one's or one's parents' country of origin or because one is afraid of them and their crazy, controlling demeanors. I have talked to and heard of women in the West who do not want to marry guys from their ethnic backgrounds and, therefore, they swear off marriage. I think they are limiting themselves. There are so many options nowadays. People can even find spouses online!
 

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