My catcholic (not strict catholic) Mum is going to kick me out because of Islam...

[Haider_Ali]

Hi brothers and sisters of Islam,

Basically, my mum, a non-strict woman who calls herself catholic as my grandparents were strict catholics, vowed to throw me out of my house if i continue to fast, have any evidence of the Qu'ran in my house, and wont eat haram meat she cooks.

I've tried talking to her, and explaining that Islam is beautiful and clean, and something i embrace and there is no harm in that. However, her view is tainted by the media. She knows my muslim girlfriend, and she likes and respects her but she's made it clear she does not want me to be involved in Islam. It's got to the point where she said get rid of the Qu'ran or i will burn it and throw you out.

I've given my Qu'ran to my girlfriend to look after, and i've had to stop fasting, fo the sake of a roof over my head. If i could afford to move out right now i would and continue to practice Islam, however at the moment that's not an option. Insha'Allah soon.

What do you all think i should do? I wont be strayed from Islam, i believe in it, i believe in Allah and Muhammed (peace be upon him) and i am still learning, but without my Qu'ran my learning will be put on hold. I don't want sin for this, i love my Mum and will continue to do so and do not want to be homeless.

She cooks haram meat for me with her own dinner and expects me to eat it, and it disgusts me.. i dont know what to do? My girlfriend has no say in this before you say get her to talk to my Mum, my Mum is being majorly strict over this and its her house.

 

[Woodrow]

Hi brothers and sisters of Islam,

Basically, my mum, a non-strict woman who calls herself catholic as my grandparents were strict catholics, vowed to throw me out of my house if i continue to fast, have any evidence of the Qu'ran in my house, and wont eat haram meat she cooks.

I've tried talking to her, and explaining that Islam is beautiful and clean, and something i embrace and there is no harm in that. However, her view is tainted by the media. She knows my muslim girlfriend, and she likes and respects her but she's made it clear she does not want me to be involved in Islam. It's got to the point where she said get rid of the Qu'ran or i will burn it and throw you out.

I've given my Qu'ran to my girlfriend to look after, and i've had to stop fasting, fo the sake of a roof over my head. If i could afford to move out right now i would and continue to practice Islam, however at the moment that's not an option. Insha'Allah soon.

What do you all think i should do? I wont be strayed from Islam, i believe in it, i believe in Allah and Muhammed (peace be upon him) and i am still learning, but without my Qu'ran my learning will be put on hold. I don't want sin for this, i love my Mum and will continue to do so and do not want to be homeless.

She cooks haram meat for me with her own dinner and expects me to eat it, and it disgusts me.. i dont know what to do? My girlfriend has no say in this before you say get her to talk to my Mum, my Mum is being majorly strict over this and its her house.

Having come from a strict Catholic background and having once been so my self. I understand where you are coming from. It is very difficult for a Catholic family to have a family member leave Catholicism. While Catholicism is quite tolerant of other religions, it does not accept a Catholic leaving. You will always be considered a Catholic until you get officially excommunicated and get a formal letter of excommunication signed by your Diocese Bishop. Off course the family will get real bent out of shape and see you as condemned to hell. Of course it is considered a big discrace to the family if they can not get you to return to Catholicism before you get excommunicated. People will make your family, especially your mother feel like failures and did not help you with your Catechism lessons.

It is a difficult chore for a Catholic to leave Catholocism. But, you must remain strong and always keep the Love of Allaah(swt) as your goal. Let Allaah(swt) give you the strength through your du'as.

 

[cat eyes]

this is why i kept my conversion a secret from my family and just slowly and gradually spoke to my dad about islam

brother i personally think from my own experience coming from a catholic family it would have been better to keep your fasting a secret from your mum

this seems to be all to ''extreme'' for her now to take it all in and is probably thinking her son has got himself involved in some kind of cult.

telling your family loud and proud im a muslim and making it obvious does not work to good believe me :hmm: you need to treat your parents like kids in this situation and some things just have to be hidden for a while till they actually learn about it gradually.
:wa:

 

[Muslim Woman]

Salaam bro

Welcome to Islam . May Allah makes it easy for you to continue the fasting and Salat and reading Quran.

Can u contact ur local mosque and ask them to arrange something for u ? And bro , you are not allowed to have a girlfriend . Don't spend time with her in private - be careful about it.

 

[manaal]

There many websites which carry the Qura'n and it's translation, which will help you continue with your Islamic education.

 

[peaceandlove]

Hi brothers and sisters of Islam,

Basically, my mum, a non-strict woman who calls herself catholic as my grandparents were strict catholics, vowed to throw me out of my house if i continue to fast, have any evidence of the Qu'ran in my house, and wont eat haram meat she cooks.

I've tried talking to her, and explaining that Islam is beautiful and clean, and something i embrace and there is no harm in that. However, her view is tainted by the media. She knows my muslim girlfriend, and she likes and respects her but she's made it clear she does not want me to be involved in Islam. It's got to the point where she said get rid of the Qu'ran or i will burn it and throw you out.

I've given my Qu'ran to my girlfriend to look after, and i've had to stop fasting, fo the sake of a roof over my head. If i could afford to move out right now i would and continue to practice Islam, however at the moment that's not an option. Insha'Allah soon.

What do you all think i should do? I wont be strayed from Islam, i believe in it, i believe in Allah and Muhammed (peace be upon him) and i am still learning, but without my Qu'ran my learning will be put on hold. I don't want sin for this, i love my Mum and will continue to do so and do not want to be homeless.

She cooks haram meat for me with her own dinner and expects me to eat it, and it disgusts me.. i dont know what to do? My girlfriend has no say in this before you say get her to talk to my Mum, my Mum is being majorly strict over this and its her house.

Quran says in surah 29 verse 8

We have enjoined on man kindness to parents: but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me (in worship)anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not. Ye have (all) toreturn to me, and I will tell you (the truth) of all that ye did.

Brother , you donot have obey your parents for any thing wrong , for wrong thing you have to reply and advise them politely , and as you said you are trying to tell them about Islam but due to media propoganda them might not understanding you.

Brother , is theis possible for you to engage anyone who understand you and whome you mother listien , try to engage that person so the behaviour of you mother change with you.

Pray to Allah to give hidayat to your parents , tell them that the media is just promoting fasle theing , ask them politely what is their mind about Islam and then try to explaint thats not true ,

May Allah solve you problmes.

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[kite runner]

assalamu alaykum,

I am in the EXACT same suituation, it's really hard. My family are making me meet a priest and for him to try and get me back :S I have to proove the bible is wrong but it's going to be hard to "defeat" a priest

 

[aadil77]

assalamu alaykum,

I am in the EXACT same suituation, it's really hard. My family are making me meet a priest and for him to try and get me back :S I have to proove the bible is wrong but it's going to be hard to "defeat" a priest

forget the priest and the bible,

just ask him: how can 3 = 1? how can god die on a cross and be unable to save himself? etc etc

 

[manaal]

^^ I say you should prove the Qura'n is the truth rather than the Bible is wrong. Talk to Bro Woodrow.