I can't stand it when my dad yells at me and mostly its towards my mom. He would yell at her if "I" was late to his store, or just anything I did wrong. He would yell at her for doing something wrong, even just little things for ex. when we just purchased new dining table sets and the people dropped it off at our house and my om was the only one there and she wasn't supposed to sign the paper until they fixed in the chairs and table but she just got confused and signed it before they fixed anything and they just left w/o fixing them in so my dad yelled at her for that and my mom was crying. I have seen her cry quite a bit and i start crying when i see her cry or being sad. My dad would also yell at us, esp. my mom if I or she did not go to church (which is everyday) I just hate and want to move out so badly!!
I have confronted him about all this before and it was just bad , it turned into crying and what not and he promised (which he has done maybe 2-3 already) to not ever yell at us , esp. my mom. BUT guess what, he still does it. I have even told me that you mostly yell at something i;ve done wrong, or any mistake i did , just yelll at me and not my mom (I WOULD EVEN BE READY TO JUST ;'ME' BEING YELLED AT RATHER THAN MY MOM) This may not be everyday but when it is, it just sets this bad mood in the house and I cry and have become to blame myself at times for many things my dad yelling at mom for. For example today, it was my fault that i didnt wake up in time and get everything done in time because we were gonna go to my relatives house at a certain time if possible and he yelled at her for that too!! (he's too much about his relatives: sister, mother, etc; if they say anything then that just has to happen no matter what my mom might say, he would just ignore her ) and she yelled at me of course and then I felt like crying and what not.
He would sometimes also put her down by comparing her to lets say her own sister or other women!
And I always think i will just not talk to him but i just then think like w/e maybe its okay, itll get better in the future but inside i just cry about it a lot. I may not show it to my parents all the time but when in bed, i think of that i just cry and pray for my family ;(
would you guys think this is verbal abuse?
* 17 minutes ago
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like i do love my dad but when he yells at my mom or myself, i just hate him and wished that my parents would separate
I am of a muslim family so doing something like that people find it disgraceful so my mom probably would never do so!
I just want to get out of my own house, move out! I am in college right now but being a girl its hard for my dad to allow me to do many things such as just hanging out so sometimes i just have to lie
The main reasons i am trying to transfer to a college thats far is because i want to stay away.
13 minutes ago
we're from Pakistan, and I don't know much about his growing up as in if his family was like that but this is stressing me out at times ...
Its like im just trying to convince myself one way or another that this is not verbal abuse but even though i want them to separate at times. i love my parents but separately!
He's also very into religion and since in muslims(there are 2 types: shia and sunni) my moms side converted to sunni and my dads are still shia, the other side, and he just gets crazy about that sort of stuff if we dont go to church ! personally i don't follow his 'religion and follow the one that i find right which is of my mom's side, just believing in allah and only allah.. but just hiding it from him..
*if that helped any*
what should i do?
I have confronted him about all this before and it was just bad , it turned into crying and what not and he promised (which he has done maybe 2-3 already) to not ever yell at us , esp. my mom. BUT guess what, he still does it. I have even told me that you mostly yell at something i;ve done wrong, or any mistake i did , just yelll at me and not my mom (I WOULD EVEN BE READY TO JUST ;'ME' BEING YELLED AT RATHER THAN MY MOM) This may not be everyday but when it is, it just sets this bad mood in the house and I cry and have become to blame myself at times for many things my dad yelling at mom for. For example today, it was my fault that i didnt wake up in time and get everything done in time because we were gonna go to my relatives house at a certain time if possible and he yelled at her for that too!! (he's too much about his relatives: sister, mother, etc; if they say anything then that just has to happen no matter what my mom might say, he would just ignore her ) and she yelled at me of course and then I felt like crying and what not.
He would sometimes also put her down by comparing her to lets say her own sister or other women!
And I always think i will just not talk to him but i just then think like w/e maybe its okay, itll get better in the future but inside i just cry about it a lot. I may not show it to my parents all the time but when in bed, i think of that i just cry and pray for my family ;(
would you guys think this is verbal abuse?
* 17 minutes ago
* - 4 days left to answer.
Additional Details
like i do love my dad but when he yells at my mom or myself, i just hate him and wished that my parents would separate
I am of a muslim family so doing something like that people find it disgraceful so my mom probably would never do so!
I just want to get out of my own house, move out! I am in college right now but being a girl its hard for my dad to allow me to do many things such as just hanging out so sometimes i just have to lie
The main reasons i am trying to transfer to a college thats far is because i want to stay away.
13 minutes ago
we're from Pakistan, and I don't know much about his growing up as in if his family was like that but this is stressing me out at times ...
Its like im just trying to convince myself one way or another that this is not verbal abuse but even though i want them to separate at times. i love my parents but separately!
He's also very into religion and since in muslims(there are 2 types: shia and sunni) my moms side converted to sunni and my dads are still shia, the other side, and he just gets crazy about that sort of stuff if we dont go to church ! personally i don't follow his 'religion and follow the one that i find right which is of my mom's side, just believing in allah and only allah.. but just hiding it from him..
*if that helped any*
what should i do?
