My Dream or My Love?

[youngsister]

Not that I am here to bash brothers honestly but one should question the intent of one who doesn't wish to allow another to seek a higher education especially in this day and age or worst yet, seek it and cut it in its prime (which seems almost vengeful to me personally)
One of my eldest aunts, who was tortured really about her education/marriage woes, up to and including being taken out of college by force (this was way back when) but still, she enrolled to classes from home, eventually became a teacher, her husband died while her youngest was only 7 were it not for her degree to go back to teaching she would have been living on handouts for the rest of her life.. one really must consider the situation from all angels ..
Honey moons don't last forever
death comes to young and old, man and woman
husbands can lose their jobs too
and this might not be a biggie on many people's lists but working always equals to the ability of being able to give to charity

One day Allah's Messenger (pbuh) noticed a Bedouin leaving his camel without tying it. He asked the Bedouin, "Why don't you tie down your camel?" The Bedouin answered, "I placed my trust in Allah." At that, the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Tie your camel and place your trust in Allah" - Tirmidhi [Lessons from this hadith] Placing trust in Allah means doing everything that is necessary for success!

Still I say the final decision should lie with the OP

and Allah swt knows best

Mmm I agree many just feel intimidated while others know that they not entitle to her money so they prefer her to be at home. (From what I have seen).

Anyways to the sister who made the topic, you know the answer you need to seriously ask yourself if you are going to regret this later..and if you do it can cause troubles in the marriage.

Also whats his reason, being a doctor is not a haram job..i mean he would have a point if you were working in a office full of men (i worked in an office not the best enviroment) but you be doing a job in which you would gain a lot of good deeds, subxanallah.

To me there is no point going to Uni doing a medicine degree and then not work, 6 years of stress for what?
And plus its easy to find a practising brother this days trust me just make dua.
Think about it sis.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

The Ruler - He doesnt want me working when im getting to the afe of 35/36 simply because he thinks i wont have any time for him or the kids (inshallah) and he wants me to look after the home and another reason he said is because he wants me to be there when he comes home from work and he realises that being a doctor will be a tough job so he thinks when he comes home from work i'll be tired as well as him so we won't really have time for each other. and thats the causes of all marriage breakdowns, when partners dont have time for each other. do u understand? and islamically, it kind of is my duty to look after the home etc.

pearl - no my heart hasnt. its like a 50/50 thing and im just so confused..

Skye Ephémérine - hes not telling me to not go onto further education. he just wants me to work for like 6/7 years and then stop or something but he wants to open a medical practice for me when im around that age, inshallah, if Allah wills.

and also, he said his mother wont be very happy with me working till im like 45/50 :X:hmm: