My physical self struggles to bear calamity after calamity

[Imraan]

Assalam Walaikum

Being met with calamity after calamity, the latest one being last night. I'm finding my physical self struggling to cope with serial and concentrated calamities, one followed by another due to human behaviour of other people.

I read and believe with conviction the following from surah bakarah.

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (02:286)

The nafs or the soul can take anything, I understand that, it's part of being spiritual, we can neither see it or touch it.

But what about our physical self? The stress and worry in our physical mind, the calamities affect way of life, eating and breathing habits and it brings our self esteem, our steadfastness and self esteem down.

Does the passage exclusively refer to the nafs / soul or is it supposed to refer to all entities attached to our existence spiritually and physically.

I am stuck brothers and sisters, it depresses me and makes me regret a lot of things.

I continue prayers, make sincere dua with tears, do istigfar,, losing the will to live, from what was a content and humble life I now face intimidation, deliberate damage, worry for lives I am responsible for and also always trying to do the right thing. Feel whole world is against me.

I appreciate all the prayers, I know they're all being heard but worried what lies ahead in this world.

I have immediate family members, nephews, nieces, got my own child.

How can wicked people get away with all this, I pray for it to all stop but it doesnt stop.

 

[taha_]

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

Remember this is world not Jannah. Prophets peace be upon them faced more difficulties than you. Read prophet ayyub, yusuf and his father Jacob peace be upon them.

Also prophet Muhammad peace be upon him faced so much difficulties yet he thanked his Lord. He lived life of poverty despite having rich companions.

Dont regret. Allah allowed it to happen. You csnt go back to there . When you are depressed, read surah dhuhaa..


Quran is best medicine physically and mentally. Dont doubt it. Put strong hope in Allah. Dont lose that hopes just have some patience.

 

[BeTheChange]

Walaikumasalaam

Yesterday something happened to me and my heart was shaken yet again. I find it hard to carry my heavy heart. Alhamdulilah. I struggled like you to physically get myself to the masjid this morning. I have been going every sunday with Allah's help for over 3 years now. I could not physically face the world. Luckily my mum asked me to get up and go and change my mind. If it was down to me i wouldn't have gone but Allah gave me tawfeeq and i went to masjid. I have come back home smiling and laughing. Why? Because there is another lady who was talking about her worries. I uplifted her and gave her words of comfort. Genuine caring words. i helped an elderly lady to her car. I offered another sister a lift. I gave my islamic book free of charge to another sister. Subhana Allah. You must go out and help people.

The more evil things that happen to me the more inclined i feel to help other people. I need to balance the good versus evil. I need to burn the light of hope in people's hearts and mind. You need to do the same. Islam teaches us to do these things. Smile even though your heart is crying. Smile even if this dunya is breaking you because actually you are stronger than you think.

These bullies feel intimated by you that's why they have attacked you in the first place. You should know you will always always have the upper hand because you are innocent and a patient man. Allah swt and jannah is with the ones who are patient. My brother you have already won if you continue to show patience and gratitude.

One last thing i have learnt. You will lose your family members, you will lose your wealth, your health will go eventually or rapidly, etc. Everything will go but your emaan the most treasured gold for us believers will never leave you. Focus on your emaan. Build your emaan and take Allah swt as your friend. Allah Hu Akbar.

I don't usually share such personal experiences however i feel it may help you insha Allah.

 

[Studentofdeed]

Same as me brother...Allah will save you from them and punish them eventually. It takes time and even as much we want to see then destroyed, Allah is so merciful that he gives even the bad people chances to repent and apologize. When he finishes all the chances he gives then he will destroy them in a such a way they could not even imagine. I was being oppressed like you and it may not have been severe but it was to point where I could not sleep and cried like everyday. I was slandered in the college, and harrassed to the point where I had to quit my job. They would even try to intimidate me in the library to the point where I had to study in the mosque. Only recently I found out they found to the other side of country. Allah saved me and he will save you I promise. Just please stay strong...its okay to feel frustrated as I was. You should need reassurances just like I Do. May Allah bless you with the best in the both worlds

 

[Imraan]

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

Remember this is world not Jannah. Prophets peace be upon them faced more difficulties than you. Read prophet ayyub, yusuf and his father Jacob peace be upon them.

Also prophet Muhammad peace be upon him faced so much difficulties yet he thanked his Lord. He lived life of poverty despite having rich companions.

Dont regret. Allah allowed it to happen. You csnt go back to there . When you are depressed, read surah dhuhaa..


Quran is best medicine physically and mentally. Dont doubt it. Put strong hope in Allah. Dont lose that hopes just have some patience.

The prophets had a special connection with Allah swt, subhanAllah, they had a exclusive communication channel with him, how can you not have strong taqwa after that... what a privilege that was.

there will always be regret, i did not take my precautions to how a god fearing muslim is supposed to nor did i base my judgements intellectually. I was blindly focused on getting married and having a child, i say to myself the intention was always good, why did it then go downhill after that... the stuff i see now from my decision making makes me think how unfortunate I am, yes it could have been worse, but this is a bad scenario itself, just when you think it was going to get better it got way worse...

 

[Imraan]

Walaikumasalaam

Yesterday something happened to me and my heart was shaken yet again. I find it hard to carry my heavy heart. Alhamdulilah. I struggled like you to physically get myself to the masjid this morning. I have been going every sunday with Allah's help for over 3 years now. I could not physically face the world. Luckily my mum asked me to get up and go and change my mind. If it was down to me i wouldn't have gone but Allah gave me tawfeeq and i went to masjid. I have come back home smiling and laughing. Why? Because there is another lady who was talking about her worries. I uplifted her and gave her words of comfort. Genuine caring words. i helped an elderly lady to her car. I offered another sister a lift. I gave my islamic book free of charge to another sister. Subhana Allah. You must go out and help people.

The more evil things that happen to me the more inclined i feel to help other people. I need to balance the good versus evil. I need to burn the light of hope in people's hearts and mind. You need to do the same. Islam teaches us to do these things. Smile even though your heart is crying. Smile even if this dunya is breaking you because actually you are stronger than you think.

These bullies feel intimated by you that's why they have attacked you in the first place. You should know you will always always have the upper hand because you are innocent and a patient man. Allah swt and jannah is with the ones who are patient. My brother you have already won if you continue to show patience and gratitude.

One last thing i have learnt. You will lose your family members, you will lose your wealth, your health will go eventually or rapidly, etc. Everything will go but your emaan the most treasured gold for us believers will never leave you. Focus on your emaan. Build your emaan and take Allah swt as your friend. Allah Hu Akbar.

I don't usually share such personal experiences however i feel it may help you insha Allah.

No one from the mother's side seems to be happy I've got a court order giving me access to my daughter, are people that bad? To force me to give a talaaq amongst other rumours they resort to self justified criminal damage over and over again. I just can't stand bein a sitting duck while people time and time again oppress me. Yes [MENTION=35816]BeTheChange[/MENTION] we will lose all family members, but not at this moment in time when they're right in front of me, I see them suffering along side me.

Thank you for sharing your personal experience, keep up the good work, i used to have the same mentality, help others, lighten up someone else's day, surprise them, put a smile on their face, smile at the them. Right now Im worried whats next and fed up of having to deal with the recurring damage to my home.

 

[Imraan]

Same as me brother...Allah will save you from them and punish them eventually. It takes time and even as much we want to see then destroyed, Allah is so merciful that he gives even the bad people chances to repent and apologize. When he finishes all the chances he gives then he will destroy them in a such a way they could not even imagine. I was being oppressed like you and it may not have been severe but it was to point where I could not sleep and cried like everyday. I was slandered in the college, and harrassed to the point where I had to quit my job. They would even try to intimidate me in the library to the point where I had to study in the mosque. Only recently I found out they found to the other side of country. Allah saved me and he will save you I promise. Just please stay strong...its okay to feel frustrated as I was. You should need reassurances just like I Do. May Allah bless you with the best in the both worlds

Good to hear your calamity was overcome and that you are in a better place. Praise Allah swt daily and never forget.
I always say if i ever come out of my situation, i would never go astray ever again insh Allah.
When will that day come?

 

[BeTheChange]

Aslamualylum

Your experience is not unique. I know other brothers who have also suffered and they were also innocent. You are lucky you are not physically in a prison. Yes you are mentally but you have the power and the onus to change your mindset. This is in your hands.

The pressure to get married and the worry one is getting old and has no children is a normal fear. This is exactly the same vulnerability these other brothers showed that's why they have fallen victim. Mostly it is always about getting pregnant and then rinsing the brother dry financially. It is a real shame you learnt the hard way but at least next time when you feel pressue you will dismiss this emotion and think with your brain.

Even though this is hard for you....do this... Number 1 you must pray 5 times a day. Perform your obligatory dutiess. Number 2 take as much action as you possibly can. Number 3 Spread happiness and love amongst family members. Don't talk about painful subjects. Talk about happy memories insha Allah. Number 4 continue to make dua. Your duas are being answered. You just can't see it yet.

 

[Ahmed.]

:wa:

That elder was right. We fear Allah from the heart and the fear that people might cause harm is natural and this is an outer fear (not from heart but just a worry).

In Quran it says Musa (as) ran after killing one of pharoan's men, out of fear.... And exegettes have explained this was an 'outer fear'.

 

[Mahir Adnan]

La tahzan,brother. don't be sad. have sabr(patience). try to hear some words from mufti menk, at least, those may console your heart
https://download-islamic-book.blogspot.com/2014/02/dont-be-sad-al-qarni.html

 

[Ahmed.]

Yeah don't go down the path of retaliation brother as them youths are ready to stone for ages, are you ready to do the same?

And its stones now, what if they decide to chuck something far worse, like a petrol bomb?

So escalating it is not wise at all

Opps sorry wrong thread!

 

[Imraan]

Assalam Walaikum

Being met with calamity after calamity, the latest one being last night. I'm finding my physical self struggling to cope with serial and concentrated calamities, one followed by another due to human behaviour of other people.

I read and believe with conviction the following from surah bakarah.

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (02:286)

The nafs or the soul can take anything, I understand that, it's part of being spiritual, we can neither see it or touch it.

But what about our physical self? The stress and worry in our physical mind, the calamities affect way of life, eating and breathing habits and it brings our self esteem, our steadfastness and self esteem down.

Does the passage exclusively refer to the nafs / soul or is it supposed to refer to all entities attached to our existence spiritually and physically.

I am stuck brothers and sisters, it depresses me and makes me regret a lot of things.

I continue prayers, make sincere dua with tears, do istigfar,, losing the will to live, from what was a content and humble life I now face intimidation, deliberate damage, worry for lives I am responsible for and also always trying to do the right thing. Feel whole world is against me.

I appreciate all the prayers, I know they're all being heard but worried what lies ahead in this world.

I have immediate family members, nephews, nieces, got my own child.

How can wicked people get away with all this, I pray for it to all stop but it doesnt stop.

Correction I was referring to the 'ruh' /soul, not the nafs (translated as ego / psyche)

 

[bint e aisha]

I feel sad after reading this, I wish I could do something for you. But I can make du'a. May Allah ta’ala make everything easy for you.

 

[Imraan]

I feel sad after reading this, I wish I could do something for you. But I can make du'a. May Allah ta’ala make everything easy for you.

Sister that's all that you can do, put in the effort in your prayers.. Leave the rest to Allah swt.

We know these circumstances are going to stick around for a while, I mean what a life, just have to live with it and take the hits.

If Allah swt makes the journey easier....... Alhamdulillah

If by miracle these circumstances of oppression are completely removed.... Alhamdulillah to that too... Though that is one in a million chance... But never lose faith... As we never know what the future holds....

May Allah swt avert other pitfalls and calamities that were destined.. Insh Allah.

The physical self / body will suffer only what Allah swt has permitted... The soul is the spectator / the traveller in this temporary world....

 

[Islami.Mu'mina]

You know, this dunya can get very hard. I've only read some of your posts and so much has happened to you. I could imagine how lonely you can feel inside sometimes. Even though Allah is with us, we do have those days, and it is hard. Just keep in mind that this is a test, the greater the test, the more you are loved. Soon ease will come, and you may be tested with something else.

I get anxiety towards the future about this problem too. I'm giving you this advice, yet I can't even follow it myself. So you aren't alone. You are very strong!


When our attachment is strong to those we love to the point where we forget that this is just the dunya, it'll end up with us being heart broken. That's because reality hits. This is the dunya. Keep that in mind.

I myself am struggling so much, and I haven't even gotten to your level as in what you have dealt with! I really mean it! I'm pretty weak.. I couldn't imagine what I would do if I had to experience what you did. I started off so well when I started practicing Islam like I should and I did so well with my previous problems until a new problem hit me.. I just couldn't correctly deal with it. I'm falling as a muslim since I am forgetting that life is a test. I let my problem get to me to the point where I became too depressed, wasting every day a lot of the time laying in bed and moping around, started suddenly losing much hair too now. I get scared for the future, for what'll happen to me next... Am i going to lose everything I love? What else could I be tested with... How much worse could it get? These thoughts fill my mind. And I lose motivation to continue.. But there are sometimes.. Some rare moments. Where I wake up. I get a hold of myself, I realize who I am..

I'm not a failure. I am not weak. Its not over for me yet. I wont give up just yet...

I am Muslim. I'm strengthening my character, my perseverance to move on. I am the one who is carrying the burdens Allah placed specifically on me because I am the one who can handle this. These burdens are going to gradually take the bad out of me and reform me into something better. That is if, I put my trust in Allah.

This is who you are. Keep it strong in your heart because.. You are Muslim. You are enduring through your difficulties that Allah specifically placed on YOU because YOU are the one who can handle this deep down. It isn't gonna be easy. But nothing good comes easy. So don't you dare lose hope.

I heard this reference before.

You can clean the minor impurities on silver/gold on the outside by easily wiping it and doing some maintenance. But what its really all about, is those major impurities on the inside. Those that lie deep within. In order to purify what is on inside, you have to put it through extreme heat to melt it and take those impurities out.

nothing good comes easy... But know that soon.. It'll all pay off.

 

[Imraan]

You know, this dunya can get very hard. I've only read some of your posts and so much has happened to you. I could imagine how lonely you can feel inside sometimes. Even though Allah is with us, we do have those days, and it is hard. Just keep in mind that this is a test, the greater the test, the more you are loved. Soon ease will come, and you may be tested with something else.

I get anxiety towards the future about this problem too. I'm giving you this advice, yet I can't even follow it myself. So you aren't alone. You are very strong!


When our attachment is strong to those we love to the point where we forget that this is just the dunya, it'll end up with us being heart broken. That's because reality hits. This is the dunya. Keep that in mind.

I myself am struggling so much, and I haven't even gotten to your level as in what you have dealt with! I really mean it! I'm pretty weak.. I couldn't imagine what I would do if I had to experience what you did. I started off so well when I started practicing Islam like I should and I did so well with my previous problems until a new problem hit me.. I just couldn't correctly deal with it. I'm falling as a muslim since I am forgetting that life is a test. I let my problem get to me to the point where I became too depressed, wasting every day a lot of the time laying in bed and moping around, started suddenly losing much hair too now. I get scared for the future, for what'll happen to me next... Am i going to lose everything I love? What else could I be tested with... How much worse could it get? These thoughts fill my mind. And I lose motivation to continue.. But there are sometimes.. Some rare moments. Where I wake up. I get a hold of myself, I realize who I am..

I'm not a failure. I am not weak. Its not over for me yet. I wont give up just yet...

I am Muslim. I'm strengthening my character, my perseverance to move on. I am the one who is carrying the burdens Allah placed specifically on me because I am the one who can handle this. These burdens are going to gradually take the bad out of me and reform me into something better. That is if, I put my trust in Allah.

This is who you are. Keep it strong in your heart because.. You are Muslim. You are enduring through your difficulties that Allah specifically placed on YOU because YOU are the one who can handle this deep down. It isn't gonna be easy. But nothing good comes easy. So don't you dare lose hope.

I heard this reference before.

You can clean the minor impurities on silver/gold on the outside by easily wiping it and doing some maintenance. But what its really all about, is those major impurities on the inside. Those that lie deep within. In order to purify what is on inside, you have to put it through extreme heat to melt it and take those impurities out.

nothing good comes easy... But know that soon.. It'll all pay off.

What can I say sister. Its a struggle.

Carrying the burden of being tested, striving to withstand persecution and affliction, while all this is going on its hard progressing with life.

On one hand I'm on the defense and striving for justice, on the other hand I'm contemplating how to progress with life. Progression in terms of raising a family unit, raising righteous pious kind hearted children, I want to raise children how I was raised but with added wisdoms gained from my life experiences ... Career wise It affects my performance, productivity, skill and progression at times...

Right now I count my blessings and try to apply it where needed to help me fulfill my purpose in this life based on my circumstances and priorities.

Hard to focus on both.

After every salaah, my duas are long. Repeatedly asking for the same things, it's good that I'm persevering, it gives me hope.

My age is a big factor in my thought process, nearly 40, I always tell myself "tomorrow is never guaranteed", live for the moment, don't make any plans anymore just have desires. Insh Allah they'll be fulfilled....

Maintaining and improving health is also a priority, just can't let the evils of this world break me down... Psychologically or physiologically..

Continuous duas to Allah swt are made not to test us physically or spiritually, to make it easy for all those suffering...

I know even miracles can't make us superhuman, we are mere mortals and ageing, death and illnesses are inevitable...

May he guide us and protect us all In sha Allah..

 

[MazharShafiq]

In sha Allah..

What can I say sister. Its a struggle.

Carrying the burden of being tested, striving to withstand persecution and affliction, while all this is going on its hard progressing with life.

On one hand I'm on the defense and striving for justice, on the other hand I'm contemplating how to progress with life. Progression in terms of raising a family unit, raising righteous pious kind hearted children, I want to raise children how I was raised but with added wisdoms gained from my life experiences ... Career wise It affects my performance, productivity, skill and progression at times...

Right now I count my blessings and try to apply it where needed to help me fulfill my purpose in this life based on my circumstances and priorities.

Hard to focus on both.

After every salaah, my duas are long. Repeatedly asking for the same things, it's good that I'm persevering, it gives me hope.

My age is a big factor in my thought process, nearly 40, I always tell myself "tomorrow is never guaranteed", live for the moment, don't make any plans anymore just have desires. Insh Allah they'll be fulfilled....

Maintaining and improving health is also a priority, just can't let the evils of this world break me down... Psychologically or physiologically..

Continuous duas to Allah swt are made not to test us physically or spiritually, to make it easy for all those suffering...

I know even miracles can't make us superhuman, we are mere mortals and ageing, death and illnesses are inevitable...

May he guide us and protect us all In sha Allah..

 

[Imraan]

Assalam Walaikum

been a while i know.

came across a scholar today who expands on this ayah from his learned perspective.

"Dr Shadee ElMasry Al Maliki"

he says the ayah is referring to sharia law being imposed upon 'man' / humans, nothing more, nothing less. He says that Allah swt is saying the following : shariah law is reasonable and can be imposed on us and that every human being can bear it.

this coming from a learned scholar does confuse me.

for a while I thought it meant lifes challenges and difficulties but now I am confused.

I want to believe that Allah swt does not burden a soul with challenges and tests in life that it cannot bear...... because it makes sense from my perspective... I could be wrong.

hope everyone and their family is in good health and imaan..
please remember me and my family in your prayers. Jazak Allah Khair.

 

[Labayk]

Assalaam 'Alaykum

Ibn Kathir stated about the Ayah:

"Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. "Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Mawla (Patron, Supporter and Protector) and give us victory over the disbelieving people." (al-Baqarah: 286)

"Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope) means, Allah does not ask a soul what is beyond its ability. This only demonstrates Allah's kindness, compassion and generosity towards His creation...This indicates that although Allah will question His servants and judge them, He will only punish for what one is able to protect himself from. As for what one cannot protect himself from, such as what one says to himself - or passing thoughts - they will not be punished for that. We should state here that to dislike the evil thoughts that cross one's mind is a part of faith."

Ease comes in many different ways. When the Prophet (Salalahu 'Alaihi wa Salaam) said: 'Hasbunullah wa Naima wakil ALLah protected him from all harm from the Quraish and other than them. When Ibrahim said the same, Allah allowed him to be captured by his enemies and thrown into the fire, however, Allah made the fire cool for Ibrahim 'Alaihis Salaam. Many times Allah will ward off difficulties for us by simply not allowing them to reach us and sometimes Allah makes it easy by allowing the hardship to come but giving us the ability to endure it and make it easy.

 

[Eusra Fhaad inshaAllah]

Yes:
Intimidation
Extreme paranormal inside&outside life
Physically & mentally exhausted
A trouble for my loving & beautiful mommy(I hurt her so much & she loves me so much MashaAllah- This does trigger me about why Allah doesn't likes me? My daddy was always loving too while he was alive! & here I witness,after all the attempts little,big- I'm in extreme flaring punishments & 24/7 tortures)
After around 2 decades,in troubles & punishments for which I was trying to da
save myself, i landed on the curse- done with more exhausting myself with more ibadah & doing other secret deeds

I got dreams upon dreams but when will they come true?Always the same pattern & fears of hellfire.Only big dreams --& mom seen too for me,but when!?

We are told,we are not held accountable for speaking words in torture,if its beyond burden,no oppression on us if we take simple revenge in our thoughts even.(for enemies)

What's going on!?! Where is all this coming from?

[MENTION=46337]Labayk[/MENTION] please talk of something that can be a Ray of hope,if only a minute...