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Hello to you all.

I have a problem that is causing me distress.

In the uk work is none existant. most of the british population are not in work but on job seekers alowance, I tiny amount of money given to buy food with.

But the goverment is now forcing people onto courses to help find work that does not exist.

I have been placed on a 6 monthe course to help find work(not that there is any).

And the rules are simple, if you do not dance to our tune we will cut your only income off. In other words i get no money to live on if i refuse to go.

My problem is, It is a man running the course and the course has a 50% male population. I will be forced to interact witht these men to keep my money. And i am also very scared of men from past abuse.

I am dreading this and cannot find a solution. I dont want to interact with them in any way whatsoever. Or the girls as they are.............well i think thats better left un said to be honest.

But help! I dont no what to do!

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work is non existant? lol its only around 6-7% of the population that isn't working, we have some of the lowest unemployment rates around

Is there any girls islamic shool/academy around you? I don't what sort of work you would be interested in, but there must be some kind of work that is suitable for you,

keep doing Du'a, InshAllah you will find something
 
I live in spalding and work is drying up in spalding esp but lincolnshire in general.

A factory is closing, 400 jobs, And woolworthes is closed now, all little companys like sandwich bars, nail bars, they all closing down.

I look on job center website. You used to go on there and there used to be 400 jobs on there weekly.

Now its 5 a week. And thats the whole of lincolnshire. I was made redundant from my last job. and that was as a cleaner.

I wouldnt mind doing cleaning work, or working with animals, or if i have to factory work. Most is solitary work which i prefer
 
سلثتحعرين!;1077646 said:
I live in spalding and work is drying up in spalding esp but lincolnshire in general.

A factory is closing, 400 jobs, And woolworthes is closed now, all little companys like sandwich bars, nail bars, they all closing down.

I look on job center website. You used to go on there and there used to be 400 jobs on there weekly.

Now its 5 a week. And thats the whole of lincolnshire. I was made redundant from my last job. and that was as a cleaner.

I wouldnt mind doing cleaning work, or working with animals, or if i have to factory work. Most is solitary work which i prefer
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Sorry to hear about that, wasn't aware it was that bad in some areas, check your local council's website they should have some jobs. About the course - see if another course is running with a female teacher, if not just try to stick with the ladies in your classes and just try to ask them for help if you don't want to speak to the teacher
 
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/...notices-waiting-when-they-return-to-work.html

And its going to get worse. There are around 50 courses going in spalding, trying to force people to work for free or get money cut off. Even the corses are closing down because it cant afford to stay open.

I hate this country with a vengeance. We are paying the price for that "brown turds" meddling in other countrys, namely irag and afghanistan.
 
سلثتحعرين!;1077491 said:
Hello to you all.

I have a problem that is causing me distress.

In the uk work is none existent. most of the british population are not in work but on job seekers allowance, I tiny amount of money given to buy food with.

But the government is now forcing people onto courses to help find work that does not exist.

I have been placed on a 6 monthe course to help find work(not that there is any).

And the rules are simple, if you do not dance to our tune we will cut your only income off. In other words i get no money to live on if i refuse to go.

My problem is, It is a man running the course and the course has a 50% male population. I will be forced to interact witht these men to keep my money. And i am also very scared of men from past abuse.

I am dreading this and cannot find a solution. I dont want to interact with them in any way whatsoever. Or the girls as they are.............well i think thats better left un said to be honest.

But help! I dont no what to do!

:w:
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What are you courses about? Are their educating you or you seriously have to dance?

I live in the UK and stay up with politics and I seriously doubt their "forcing" you to dance with men. If you know the UK well you will know the complaints procedure.

At the end of the day, the government are trying to educate people who are on Job seekers, and make them do courses that will help them find other jobs which are not nesserally their profession.

You cannot blame the UK government!
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IN regards to your post stating the goverment are trying you to work for free, the one above. Oh common their right, they dont want to pay you to sit on your back side all day do they?
 
By interaction with men that is idle unnecessary contact or lewd, flirtatious or nonessential contact business.

I can not find any find any hadith or ayyat that prohibits necessary, professional or business interactions among genders. But, the restrictions about body and eye contact would apply.
 
Have you simply tried asking if there are any courses run by women? I doubt you will find any run for women exclusively, but a female leader might help to reassure you?
 
Maybe look into this?

http://www.thisislincolnshire.co.uk/news/Bid-help-jobless-work/article-584291-detail/article.html

Jobless benefit claimants in Lincolnshire – including the long-term sick and single parents – will get extra support and training thanks to a £1.4m cash boost.

The European Union grant will pay for education, one-to-one mentoring and business start-up support for key groups of unemployed people in the county. And even more cash could follow.

The money will pay for a range of schemes targeting vulnerable groups including the over-50s, young people, the disabled and ethnic minorities.
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And while I know things are tough, I cannot blame the government for pushing these retraining courses. While jobseekers allowance may be small, it doesn't come from nowhere.
 
Hello, these courses are here to "help" people back into work, updatng cvs, looking fo jobs in local areas, and going on work trials i e working for free.

BUT there is no work in the area so a course is useless. If you dont attend they cut your money off.

I recently did a 2 week one and i spent most of my time doodling on scraps of paper or having the tutor lure me into a childs game because there was no work to look for.

i now am looking forward to 26 weeks of class A bordem of doing nothing.

The gorvenment is not trying to help us into work, as there is none to take. That is just a cover for what he is realy up to.

Alot of people refuse to go on the courses, so there money gets cut off n thats less money to pay, Its a provocation.

AND it takes you off the official unemployement register that they release to the public.
you are classed as working when you are on a course even though you are not. just because you dont have to go job centre ever two weeks.

There is around 3 times the amount of unemployed people then everyone thinks because they are on these courses.

The gorvenment is trying to hide the state of this country from everyone and i have even had it confermed from INSIDE the job centre itself.

IF this country is seen as weak it is open to more attacks.

The "brown turd" is doing everything but helping you!
 
After all the only reason there is a job seekers alowance is so they can threaten you with it and keep control of this country.

Can you imagine wat people would do to each other if there was not that money to by the essentials like food
 
I think most of us living in the west, if we have to work, do interact with the opposite gender. Just make sure you have the proper conduct, and you should be a-ok. The Qur'an tells us to lower our gaze. This isn't just not staring at a person of the opposite sex, it's should define our whole interaction. Be friendly,but not overly friendly. Talk about the work in a businesslike manner, but don't chat idly about this, that and everything. Make sure your clothes are modest. If you wear all black, maybe that will scare the men off :)
 

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