need guidance on how to walthrough of my situation, its really bad

[anonymous]

Assalamualaikum,

Im 23 years old and Im a male, I was going through my fathers phone with good intention just browsing around looking at old photos, then something came in the feed Astagfirullah, its him doing bad things with other guy. he is cheating on our family, that too with some guy. Im broke litterally shattered, I lost my mind it was extreme, I suddenly felt like how can I live with his blood running on my body... and many past dots connected to this situation... there was many scenarios. But I never doubted him for a milli second. I thought he is the best guy, but all of sudden everythhing shattered. Im litterally broke. please guide me what should I do here. my mom litterally very fragile hearted, like for example if something happened to any one of our family she will be the first person to get admitted to hospital. she cant handle anything. I dont know how can she handle this once she knows.

I need guidance on what should I do, Im not able to speak to him, I tried but couldnt, I couldnt even look at his face. but please guied me islamically what should I do at this situation. how to handle this. please pray for our family.

 

[Alpha Dude]

I'm sorry to read of your situation. May Allah make things easy for you and your family and may Allah guide your father and forgive him. Aameen.It's natural to want to distance yourself from him, but he's still your kin. We should wish guidance upon those who are away from deen or deviated. Continue to make dua for his forgiveness and guidance. Prophet Ibrahim's alaihe salam father was an idolator - indulging in shirk, which is one of the worst of sins (worse than what you saw of your father), yet he still tried to guide him. The people of Lut alaihe salam were also indulging in the sin of homosexuality, yet rather than being sent to shun them, the Prophet Lut was sent as a warner and guider, yet his own wife was astray. I say these examples to make you feel like you're not alone in this kind of scenario - the best were tested with it family members who were not on the right way.Allah does not close the door to forgiveness, so we should be balanced in our judgement.As to the impact on your family, it might be wise to ask a mufti in your area for guidance on whether you should tell your mother. Depending on your relationship with your father and how comfortable you feel, you could bring the topic up and directly discuss the matter - perhaps highlighting how disappointed it made you - this kind of convo might make him feel guilty enough to stop.