Needed some advice for this newly converted brother in marriage

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I haven't read all the thread but I'm amazed to see brother Markislam asked for advice on a specific matter, but some folks, instead of offering advice think it's ok to interrogate him about other aspects of his private life. Please be more sensitive inshaAllah.
 
i do agree , i came here for some advice, not intterogation :embarrass


Scents of Jannah said:
I haven't read all the thread but I'm amazed to see brother Markislam asked for advice on a specific matter, but some folks, instead of offering advice think it's ok to interrogate him about other aspects of his private life. Please be more sensitive inshaAllah.
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akhee... i think you should talk to your wife first about your feelings towards her. Do someting about it and try to rectify the problem first before you keep saying that you are not attracted to her. Probably she can do 'something' and helps to restore again the attraction. It needs alot of hard work and you can't just ignore this. To have a happy marriage is not easy mark...it doesn't fall down on your lap just like that. To find another it won't mean you'll be happier.

Just don't be like one of those people who 'feels' the need to change spouse but never have to time to solve the root of the problem.

And remember this...

Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is divorce.
 
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Perhaps this thread could be cleaned up a bit by the mods.
It has turned into much debating, rather than advice.

Mark, I still think your actual decision is about whether you want to be married to your wife or not, and whether you love her enough to spend the rest of your life with her.

How she takes to your conversion and whether she will still want to live with you, is a different question altogether, and one you need to ask her once you have made up your own mind.

Correct me if I am wrong, but it seems to me like a) you aren't happy in your marriage; b) you are looking for a reason to separate and c) your conversion to Islam may just be what makes your wife choose to divorce.
(Forgive me is I am wrong and I am speaking out of turn. Please feel free to correct me. Like you said you are the one who knows your circumstances better than any of us)

Please be honest with your wife.
If you don't want to live with her anymore as husband and wife, then tell her!
Your conversion to Islam doesn't seem to be the reason for your problems. The problems were there long before!

Any discussions around whether you can or cannot be married Islamically to your Christian wife are pointless, if actually you simply don't want to be married to her!

Be a man and tell her the truth!
I would hate it if my husband deceived me is such a way.
If you still love her - as you say you do - then show her that love and respect by being honest with her.
 
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@ thread starter, i honestly advice you to take your inquiries to a learned scholar. i think he will be able to advice you according to your situation.
 
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I am going to talk to my wife very soon about us and see what she has to say. As i said before there are so many issues with us. the problem with both of us is we just dont talk and keep things on the inside, on the other side my brother in law and sister in law fight over every silly thing, in our case it is totally opposite.
 
markislam said:
I am going to talk to my wife very soon about us and see what she has to say. As i said before there are so many issues with us. the problem with both of us is we just dont talk and keep things on the inside, on the other side my brother in law and sister in law fight over every silly thing, in our case it is totally opposite.
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do it
 
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahamtu Allahi wa barakatoh

Are you afraid of someone else and not just your wife?

If not then tell her the truth. Be a man :)

I'm glad you've accepted Islam. Now the shaytan will try his best to lower your iman, you are in a great battle with a shaytan now. In a little while you'll experience the peace of Islam. Once you get to know your Lord of the Alemin you won't need anything else.

May Allah strenghten you. Ameen
 
Rasema said:
WaSalam
LOLLL
probably a positive one :nervous:

She won't let him go then.:p
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Why is that funny?
Being at peace with oneself, with God and with others is certainly something which should be noticable to others ... and yes, in a positive way! :)
 

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