BeTheChange
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Honestly sister if you’re scared about how society will react don't be. I know sometimes our Asian community, in particular have inquisitive minds and maybe your situation will be discussed for the first couple of weeks/months (maybe) but after that, something else will happen and this will entertain the inquisitive minds and people.
I guess what am trying to say is you'll probably feel the heat of people's tongue's for the first couple of weeks or first month or so and then the questions and voices will go away. You are here for Allah swa and you’re not here to please and be accepted by your peers or society. Don't be stuck in a miserable situation to please 'people'. Put yourself and your children at the heart of every decision you make and not people.
If it makes you feel better there's a saying which goes something like this; don’t be looking at other people (for approval/acceptance) when they are buried in their own sins and problems. Instead of supporting and really caring about you, this group of people your scared of will be nosy and will want the gossip so just let tongues talk sis - honestly, i can't stress enough do what's best for you and your kids.
Allah is with you and what more can we ask for - pray to Allah swa - He will listen and respond to you MORE than any human being can. Trust me sister, it does work. Don't go to mankind with your problems - go to Allah swa and you will succeed more than you can imagine (in sha Allah).
I guess what am trying to say is you'll probably feel the heat of people's tongue's for the first couple of weeks or first month or so and then the questions and voices will go away. You are here for Allah swa and you’re not here to please and be accepted by your peers or society. Don't be stuck in a miserable situation to please 'people'. Put yourself and your children at the heart of every decision you make and not people.
If it makes you feel better there's a saying which goes something like this; don’t be looking at other people (for approval/acceptance) when they are buried in their own sins and problems. Instead of supporting and really caring about you, this group of people your scared of will be nosy and will want the gossip so just let tongues talk sis - honestly, i can't stress enough do what's best for you and your kids.
Allah is with you and what more can we ask for - pray to Allah swa - He will listen and respond to you MORE than any human being can. Trust me sister, it does work. Don't go to mankind with your problems - go to Allah swa and you will succeed more than you can imagine (in sha Allah).