New Muslim

[NewMuslima]

Hi all,
I converted to Islam before Ramadan and completed ramadan! I am from USA, married with children. I am concerned because my husband is not Muslim. At first, he did not want to accept the fact that I converted. But in time, he accepted and supported me. The problem is that he refuses to accept and convert. He tells me that will never happen. I want to follow islam and to the right thing but it is very difficult because he doesn’t believe in heaven or hell, nor the religion. We are two totally opposite people. He drinks occasionally and a non believer. I am struggling so hard because I want my children to learn about Islam but he argues with me about this. Plus, he does not want to convert. I am anxious to know what I should do. Thank you

 

[Muslim Woman]

:wa:

sis , Welcome to Islam . May Allah guides your husband to the truth . Pl. talk to your local Mufti about how long you are allowed to stay with your non Muslim husband .

may Allah grants what is best for you .

 

[NewMuslima]

:wa:

sis , Welcome to Islam . May Allah guides your husband to the truth . Pl. talk to your local Mufti about how long you are allowed to stay with your non Muslim husband .

may Allah grants what is best for you .

Thank you so much

 

[mslm]

Hi Sister! Congratulations on this step of becoming a Muslim -- that's the most significant thing in your life thus far, as you know. I'll be totally honest with you upfront about this: it is not in Islam for a Muslim woman to be married to a non-Muslim man. I know you reverted (I say revert vs convert because you were a Muslim at birth by definition), so you aren't to blame whatsoever, and may Allah guide you from hereon, so I'd recommend you have a serious conversation with your husband about this. In the meanwhile, actively read the Qur'an, as these times are tough, and only Allah's words, which often come as consolation, can help you get through them emotionally. Make your wishes actively and with power -- Allah listens if you're absolutely serious about what you want.

And if you need help locally, approach sisters in a local Mosque, and share your situation there, too. I'll be honest -- the sisters of our Ummah are very open and kind, especially to revert sisters, who especially need their kindness in these hard times.

 

[Ummshareef]

Assalamu alaikum,

Alhamdulillah! It is always amazing to hear when a sister embraces Islam. It really was a great decision, one that you will never regret in sha'Allah.

But yes, you are in a testing situation just at the moment. For good reason Islamic law requires Muslimahs to have a Muslim husband. Our husbands are our protectors and maintainers and it is to them that we look for guidance in our daily lives, to help us to be better Muslimahs and to live closer to the obedience of Allah. So if your husband rejects Islam then he will not be able to fulfill this role and in the long term sadly this would be harmful for you and your children. It is great that you are trying you best to convince him to change, but sad that he is rejecting Islam so far subhanallah. If he doesn't believe in Heaven and the Hellfire and has no knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah, then he will not be able to provide the guidance the family needs. And yes, it would be heartbreaking for any Muslim mum to accept anything other than an Islamic upbringing for her children.

This situation may change soon in sha'Allah but cannot go on indefinitely. So yes, ask your Imam for his advice, but above all make abundant dua for Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa to help you in this situation. Dua is our best tool in these situations. Be aware that Allah always hears our duas, and will always answer them when and how is best for us, even though we may not even realise it at the time.