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Okay I will keep you updated! The phonelines open up at 12pm my time in about 2 1/2 hours
 
Thank you I really want this and to find my way I have so much faith everything will work out
 
Findingmyway247 said:
Nobody ever answered the phone no word yet
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What a shame, don't lose hope, keep trying! Maybe turn up on the door at sunset time so you know there are people in there praying and somebody could possibly meet you then or arrange an appointment !

Friday Prayers is between 12:30 and 1:30pm so maybe try then, but it may be really busy, so if you got time to wait around then maybe then, personally I think the other prayers will be slightly quiter

Here are the timings:

Dhuhr Prayer 1:30pm
Asr Prayer 4:55pm
Maghreb (Sunset Prayer) : 7:45pm
Isha Prayer : 9:15pm
 
Hello and welcome :)

What he did was wrong. As a partner and as a Muslim he should have focused on teaching you the basics of Islam and not nitpicking things that could have been dealt with much much later. So he is to blame in driving you away from Islam. This is the difference between cultural and religious Muslims. I"m sorry to hear you went through all that and felt Islam was too difficult to follow because of that experience.

Islam is very easy to follow when we are ready to submit to the Lord. I"m glad to know you are seeking to return to Islam again despite given a bad experience. I would encourage you to learn Islam this time so that not only would you know what Islam is and implement it n your life but also so that you would know your rights in Islam as well. I would suggest gong through this website : http://www.newmuslims.com/ and afterwards you can read this book as well : http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/en_AguideforthenewMuslim.pdf

Regarding your marriage situation. It is true that once a person leaves Islam, their marriage becomes annulled as a Muslim is allowed to marry a believer only. Regarding getting back together with the same guy again. Have you talked to him since then? are you in touch with him? do you know if he feels the same if you were to convert to Islam? If he is also willing to give it another try then you could talk to your local imam and explain the situation to him. He can advise the guy on proper way to handle a marriage to a convert and set some ground rules for a smoother transition. Regardless of being in touch or not, I would talk to the local imam first and explain your situation and see what he would advise you in getting back together or not. If the imam seems inexperienced then you can call another imam at another mosque and ask him. An imam that has many converts in his community and deals with them will have more experience in dealing with these kind of convert issues.
 
respecta said:
What a shame, don't lose hope, keep trying! Maybe turn up on the door at sunset time so you know there are people in there praying and somebody could possibly meet you then or arrange an appointment !

Friday Prayers is between 12:30 and 1:30pm so maybe try then, but it may be really busy, so if you got time to wait around then maybe then, personally I think the other prayers will be slightly quiter

Here are the timings:

Dhuhr Prayer 1:30pm
Asr Prayer 4:55pm
Maghreb (Sunset Prayer) : 7:45pm
Isha Prayer : 9:15pm
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A Muslim man is ALLOWED to marry a Muslim or a non Muslim but a Muslim woman IS NOT allowed to marry a non Muslim so I don't think that her marriage is anulled .
Maybe I'm wrong Allahu a'Alam. I'm wrong?
 
Muslimah inshal said:
A Muslim man is ALLOWED to marry a Muslim or a non Muslim but a Muslim woman IS NOT allowed to marry a non Muslim so I don't think that her marriage is anulled .
Maybe I'm wrong Allahu a'Alam. I'm wrong?
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I think on this matter the sister needs a clear fatwa from a scholar as this is a specific matter.
 
Thank You for the links to the websites I will read them at this point I am going to learn for myself Its to much to go back to him he told me he does not think we will ever be able to get along and i said i had faith we would and he said how am i going to come back and marry him i never answered he is in touch as little as possible and vice versa this past couple days we have text a bit more than usual but the more we chat the more i become distant although I am pregnant with his child I refuse to be taught the wrong way it only confuses me I only seek the truth this whole marriage is questionable to me a person can just sever ties because I told him im going back to Christianity its not rite Im 30 weeks pregnant with so many complications from pregnancy and I still work very hard because I can not afford to quit I have to drive a far distance for my weekly appointments if i quit I dont get there because I wont have the gas I asked him for assistance last month and all he said was if Allah wills it but he works when we were together he would help now he does not and i will not make the mistake to ask twice he wants me to give him his name which i have no problem with but im confused how he wants me to name him after him but with the babys first name then his whole name behind it the more I talk about it makes me feel upset because this is not what Islam is about I feel like he did wrong by me every thing i did i felt like i was going to the hell fire he says most women are in the hell fire for not obeying their husbands i appreciate your reply but this is a journey I will go on without him I dont know enough to dispute any Things he says so ill continue to pray and seek guidance from Allah to guide me and put me in touch with the rite people to help mentor me along the way im not giving up on Islam im still very open minded :)
 
Thank You very much i was not able to go today by the time I got off from work eveything was shut down I found another mosque hoping to hear back from them asap I wont give up thank you 4 the encouragment
 
:bism: (In the Name of God, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful)

Findingmyway247 said:
This is what he told me and what i researched
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Sister, I hope you're doing well. And I also hope this message finds you in good health and good spirits. I read briefly your earlier post, and I'm sorry to inform you that it seems your husband has been emotionally and mentally abusive under the guise of guiding you spiritually, and this is one of the main reasons you felt compelled to leave Islam. Frankly, I'll honestly tell you that what he did with you in terms of words and behavior I'd liken to spiritual rape of your soul, because he was constantly pressuring you to conformity and dictating you in a manner that is and has never been envisioned in Islam. Unfortunately, what some persons do is under the guise of religion promote a rigid understanding of Islam that turns the significant other off, and that is what happened to you. Sister, try to get your life on track without him and learn your deen (faith) so that no person can use their own intolerance as a vehicle to make you distrust Islam. I myself used to be an atheist, and I chose the path of Islam. I love Islam. But I'm not blind to how some people use the front of Islam for their own agendas, and it is too unfortunate that your husband turned out to be from one of them. Please, sister, keep hope and trust in Allah. And always know your rights and privileges and etiquette of spousal behavior in Islam so that no one is ever again able to pull the wool over your eyes and treat you badly under the guise of religion. InshaAllah (God-willing), dearest sister, I will keep you in my prayers so that you have a safe pregnancy and a healthy child.

Please take care of yourself and your unborn child and do not stress yourself. Life always has a way of working out, and bad things can lead to eventual good outcomes. Keep faith.

Best Wishes and Sincerest Regards,
 
Thank You so very much I really appreciate you taking the time to write me this message I thought it was me but I really truly know it was not I will keep on the rite track and get to know Allah for myself so I know my rights I am so very happy that you found Allah wow that is amazing thank you again☺☺☺
 
Findingmyway247 said:
Thank You for the links to the websites I will read them at this point I am going to learn for myself Its to much to go back to him he told me he does not think we will ever be able to get along and i said i had faith we would and he said how am i going to come back and marry him i never answered he is in touch as little as possible and vice versa this past couple days we have text a bit more than usual but the more we chat the more i become distant although I am pregnant with his child I refuse to be taught the wrong way it only confuses me I only seek the truth this whole marriage is questionable to me a person can just sever ties because I told him im going back to Christianity its not rite Im 30 weeks pregnant with so many complications from pregnancy and I still work very hard because I can not afford to quit I have to drive a far distance for my weekly appointments if i quit I dont get there because I wont have the gas I asked him for assistance last month and all he said was if Allah wills it but he works when we were together he would help now he does not and i will not make the mistake to ask twice he wants me to give him his name which i have no problem with but im confused how he wants me to name him after him but with the babys first name then his whole name behind it the more I talk about it makes me feel upset because this is not what Islam is about I feel like he did wrong by me every thing i did i felt like i was going to the hell fire he says most women are in the hell fire for not obeying their husbands i appreciate your reply but this is a journey I will go on without him I dont know enough to dispute any Things he says so ill continue to pray and seek guidance from Allah to guide me and put me in touch with the rite people to help mentor me along the way im not giving up on Islam im still very open minded :)
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I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. I think you should discover and learn islam on your own for now, and then make the proper judgement whether or not your husband is the right person for you. You married him from a different perspective/circumstance, so when you become a Muslim and learn more about Islam, you'll be able to get a better understanding of the type of partner that is preferred.

HOnestly, I think your husband is lacking in some religious knowledge as well. He can't really pick and choose what he wants both of you to follow. It's better to try to work it out because you will have a child together, but you both have to be on the same page for it to work out in the long run. A good husband will remind, advise, and try to teach you at your own pace, not at his. He should be respectful and patient, especially for someone who is completely new to the religion. Maybe having a 3rd party (like an islamic scholar/counselor) speak to him about his treatment towards you will be helpful.
 
Yes thank you I hope to be on the same page with him but it seems as if we are in two different worlds I am seeking Islam for myself and so far it is really going well i really realise the just of my situation i felt kind of taken advantage of by my lack of knowledge but im very greatful im seeking the truth the best thing that came of it is i am getting closer to Allah at my own pace with a clear peaculful mind and I love it:) thank you very much. I truly believe he is lacking as well and maybe someone taught him wrong but he has to be willing to learn and im afraid he is to stuck in his way to change his thought process
 
THat's good you got hold off another mosque, I hope it goes well. you've done well so far mashaAllah just a little further
 
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