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I was taught just the same.I think my thing is like another poster said, I deduce from facial expressions a persons state of mind at that moment. I usually do like to talk to a person face to face (no pun intended) and make eye contact as I was always taught that it is rude to do otherwise. I can talk to a sister in just in hijab and relate just fine. A niqaubi I could not tell what her facial expressions and are and you have some women God bless them who are so devout that they even cover one or both eyes.
However, different cultures teach differently.
A friend of mine is married to a Zimbabwean. In his culture it is considered rude for a young person to look at an elder when being spoken to or speaking. Instead you are supposed to cast your yes downwards.
It is okay to briefly glance up once in a while ... but any longer eye contact would be perceived as staring (and, I guess, also a challenge).
My friend finds it very difficult to ge used to that difference in social rule and custom. Perhaps it will never feel quite natural to her ...