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[Sahabiyaat]

my dear sister polgamy was alowed becouse allah the most high knows men more then you so he alowed men to marry up to 4 to do it halal way inshallah

ok

go for it.

You must be **** rich and good looking for you to have even contemplated this idea.


4 houses
4 cars
4 washing machines
4 tv's
...etc..

Lets see you do it. Good luck,,..youll be needing it.

 

[yusuf18]

ok

go for it.

You must be **** rich and good looking for you to have even contemplated this idea.


4 house
4 car
4 washing machine
4 tv's
...etc.. ill keep them in a big shack all of them

Lets see you do it. Good luck,,..youll be needing it.

ermm yes to the good looking part but the money is not mine its my dad so inshallah ill get it passed over and no i would go back home and take them their cost of liveing cheaper and how about

1houses
1 car
1 washing machine
1 tv
...etc..

 

[ragdollcat1982]

somehow i doubt this. like i said, i wouldnt marry my daughter or sister to someone who wanted more than 1 wife.

You seem like a real mature gentleman. I think God will send you a mate in his own time.

 

[- Qatada -]

:salamext:


Bro, remember that you have to be fair and just with all of them. Otherwise there is a threat of punishment for the husband whose unjust to his wives.


Since you've never been married before (it seems this is the case) - then if you don't know how to treat one fairly, then to treat four will be extremely hard.

I remember reading an example of someone who brought watermelon for his two wives, so he cut it exactly in half, and then he tasted abit of each side to see if they were both the same level of sweetness etc.

 

[convert]

But if you decided to take another wife and it bothered your first wife would you still go ahead and do it or would you choose not to do it as not to cause her anguish?

thats just it, i wouldnt consider it unless it was extenuating circumstances, in other words: i had the means, the sister was widowed with children, AND my wife accompanied me during the whole process (i.e. she would have to be with me at all the meetings with the sister)

i can remember a couple girlfriends i had before i converted and dealing with them one was like slamming my head against a brick wall sometimes.

 

[ragdollcat1982]

thats just it, i wouldnt consider it unless it was extenuating circumstances, in other words: i had the means, the sister was widowed with children, AND my wife accompanied me during the whole process (i.e. she would have to be with me at all the meetings with the sister)

i can remember a couple girlfriends i had before i converted and dealing with them one was like slamming my head against a brick wall sometimes.

That is good that you take this issue seriously. I just could not bare the thought of sharing my husband with another wife. I however could maybe do it if it was a widow, but not if he just wanted a younger wife.

 

[convert]

the money is not mine its my dad

so, what youre saying is that you cannot support even 1 wife at the moment and you are waiting on your father to pass away (astaughfirullah) to get the means to do so?

 

[glo]

i would never marry more women if the first one doesnt want

Well, that's a start! (Although in your first post you sounded pretty determined to marry 4 wives!)

... and who knows maybe the first is so good i dont need to marry allah knows best

So good?
So good at what??

You think that you need more than one wife to compensate for the things one wife alone may be lacking in?
Do you think the point of wives is to meet your every need and fulfill your evey desire?

Ask yourself, will you be able to meet the needs and desires of your wife - let alone four?? :?

Forgive me, brother, but you sound very immature! I hope that you will give yourself some time before entering into any marriage arrangements.

Peace

 

[Muezzin]

i just wanted to see responces on this i plan on have 4 wives who are virgins is this wrong mindset i know i got permishion from allah has given green light but i just want to see what you think how would you feel if you had a family member with this mindset

Are you, like, loaded?

Seriously speaking, for 99.9% of men, one wife is more than enough.

 

[Intisar]

Well Allaah did permit it, I don't understand why people are making such a fuss over it. If his intention is pure, Allaah only knows, then we should be making du'a for him that Allaah SWT makes it easy on him to carry such a heavy load (but at the same time, a blessing).

 

[convert]

permissible and advisable are two different things.

i mean, didn't the prophet (saw) forbid ali to take another wife while he was married to fatima?

 

[glo]

As the saying so nicely goes "What is permissible isn't necessarily beneficial" ...

 

[ardianto]

If you want to have four wives, at first you must become a very good Muslim, then you must have a big income. If you are not a very good Muslim and you have no enough income, you better forget your plan.
Have more than one wive need a big responsibility. That's why my wive is only one and I think one wive is enough.

ermm yes to the good looking part but the money is not mine its my dad so inshallah ill get it passed over and no i would go back home and take them their cost of liveing cheaper and how about

What...???. The money is not yours..???.
You want to marry four women and you want your dad pay everything...???.
If I am your dad, I will hang you on tomato tree !

 

[Güven]

Well Allaah did permit it, I don't understand why people are making such a fuss over it. If his intention is pure, Allaah only knows, then we should be making du'a for him that Allaah SWT makes it easy on him to carry such a heavy load (but at the same time, a blessing).

The Qu'ran does not encourage it though.

Allah swt only Permitted under such and such circumstances.

Like widows, orphans or women who needed protectors etc.

and not for own personal desires.

Im wondering how this young man would handle all 4 EQUALLY and also remember the children,

A father with four women, in this time and place, How would that child be treated?

 

[Sahabiyaat]

ermm yes to the good looking part but the money is not mine its my dad so inshallah ill get it passed over and no i would go back home and take them their cost of liveing cheaper and how about

1houses
1 car
1 washing machine
1 tv
...etc..

i dont think there gna like sharing their things just like they wont like sharing there ...er..oh so handsome husband. :X

you might wna add some hair dye to that list, ...you know...cuz of the white hairs you get from stress.

I see...do u mean u plan to marry all 4 from back home? ...that would be possible..people are despearte to get their daughters married because of poverty, so i guess you would have no trouble.But you gt something else coming to you if u think u can do that with girls here.were a bit more aware of our rights you see

 

[The Ruler]

i just wanted to see responces on this i plan on have 4 wives who are virgins is this wrong mindset i know i got permishion from allah has given green light but i just want to see what you think how would you feel if you had a family member with this mindset

No.

If I had a family member with such a mindset, I would think he was sexually frustrated, simply put.

 

[S_87]

i just wanted to see responces on this i plan on have 4 wives who are virgins is this wrong mindset i know i got permishion from allah has given green light but i just want to see what you think how would you feel if you had a family member with this mindset

i would say to them- you are very young so it is easy to say that- marry one woman first and see how much responsibility you are taking on, if you feel you are capable financially, emotionally and physically plus give them their rights as ordained by Allah then go ahead and suit yourself. and id say why is virginity so important?

 

[yusuf18]

Well, that's a start! (Although in your first post you sounded pretty determined to marry 4 wives!)


So good?
So good at what??

You think that you need more than one wife to compensate for the things one wife alone may be lacking in?
Do you think the point of wives is to meet your every need and fulfill your evey desire?

Ask yourself, will you be able to meet the needs and desires of your wife - let alone four?? :?

Forgive me, brother, but you sound very immature! I hope that you will give yourself some time before entering into any marriage arrangements.

Peace

even tho i dont need her concent to marry again

 

[yusuf18]

i dont think there gna like sharing their things just like they wont like sharing there ...er..oh so handsome husband. :X

you might wna add some hair dye to that list, ...you know...cuz of the white hairs you get from stress.

I see...do u mean u plan to marry all 4 from back home? ...that would be possible..people are despearte to get their daughters married because of poverty, so i guess you would have no trouble.But you gt something else coming to you if u think u can do that with girls here.were a bit more aware of our rights you see

my plan is to marry one over here and trap her and marry the rest back home

 

[yusuf18]

The Qu'ran does not encourage it though.

Allah swt only Permitted under such and such circumstances.

Like widows, orphans or women who needed protectors etc.

and not for own personal desires.

Im wondering how this young man would handle all 4 EQUALLY and also remember the children,

A father with four women, in this time and place, How would that child be treated?

brother dont you see the point of it allah alowed it becouse of many reason one being to save men from commiting zina so he made halal way simple as