Pls help me I'm going mad!!

[Argamemnon]

U dont have to answer this if u dont want to, but what are u diagnosed with? u seems to have extremely low self esteem brother why??

Clinical depression, but I know I have social anxiety too, and even generalized anxiety. Low self-esteem is a consequence in my opinion. Mental illness runs in my family.. my younger brother committed suicide in 2002 (he had schizophrenia). And in Turkey two sons of my mother's uncle had also committed suicide (and another one is mentally ill as well).

 

[maryam87]

Clinical depression, but I know I have social anxiety too, and even generalized anxiety. Low self-esteem is a consequence in my opinion. Mental illness runs in my family.. my younger brother committed suicide in 2002 (he had schizophrenia). And in Turkey two sons of my mother's uncle had also committed suicide (and another one is mentally ill as well).

:exhaustedimsad
sorry to hear

 

[S_87]

Ok maybe i dont understand anything cause ive never have fallen in love before and got my heart crashed but i dont seem to understand why people go depressed ova things that were haram to begin with!!!!!
I mean whats more depressing leaving u or going to hell cause of ur sins that u committed to gain couple of days of pleasure??????????
I cant seem to comprehend this plz dont get offended but there is much more important things u should be thinking about then a guy who doesnt deserve u.
Ur only cure is to listen to lectures about what happens when u die, the rememberence of death should refreshen ur heart and make u realise u need to spend more time asking Allah (swt) to forgive u rather than still thinking bout a worthless guy!!!!!!!!

what you say is true sis but check this thread out :hiding:

http://www.islamicboard.com/family-society/134274340-easy-lovers.html#post1046973

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Clinical depression, but I know I have social anxiety too, and even generalized anxiety. Low self-esteem is a consequence in my opinion. Mental illness runs in my family.. my younger brother committed suicide in 2002 (he had schizophrenia). And in Turkey two sons of my mother's uncle had also committed suicide (and another one is mentally ill as well).

I'm so sorry to hear that.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

If it makes you feel any better; I've been feeling severely depressed since 2001. I suffer so much, that despite being a strong believer, I have been contemplating suicide since 2006. It is very wrong for a Muslim to think like this, but every night I go to sleep I hope I never wake up..

The only thing that keeps me from killing myself is the fear of punishment in the Hereafter. Because of my chronic depression and anxiety, I will probably never experience love and marriage in my life. Moreover, I don't have friends or people I can talk to either (except my parents). I fear living in social isolation for the rest of my life, and dying as a very sad and lonely man.

Please don't get me wrong, I have no doubt that you are suffering, but as you can see there are people who are much worse off.. I hope that you will overcome this terrible sadness or depression. Unfortunately, I know very well how awful mental suffering is...

Sorry to here the state your in, and know it doesn't make me feel better.

What is it that makes you depressed?

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Thank you all for replying. I know you will think I'm going round in circles here, but it's so hard to take the advice when all my common sense is gone out of the window, my brain is not working and I am have no self control.

I'm trying to get up and go to work in the mornings but I have no strength and courage to even get up and face life, when I get to work I am like a living dead girl. I am empty and my whole body is knumb with, anger, emotion, treacherous pain, anxiety and depression.

All i can think if is getting him back for cheating on me. Yes, I know revenge is forbidden in Islam and I should forgive him, but I cannot do that I just can't!

Yesterday i thought I would never find out who the other girl was, but you know what, Alhumdulillah, I have got her phone number (to make a long story short) I knew someone in the same area as him and the girl he's seeing lives there too, she's 19/20 very young where as I am in my late twenties and he is early twenties.

I can't live like this, I can't live with the fact that he has destroyed me and walked away unscathed. Now that I have got that girls details, I will meet her and tell her that he's been seeing the both of us for the same amount of time and he has been lying to us.

I know for a fact he loves her and your probably thinking why am I bothering doing this to them, but I am not putting up with him ruining my life and I'm so hurt by all this. I can't forget this until she knows, yes she might even take him back, but at least she won't trust him.

I'm going mental and burning inside every day and night thinking they are together and I am suffering so much. I have no one, but he had her to fall back on, I am destroyed while they are living happily in love. :enough!:

 

[AnonymousPoster]

By the way, a random question - what does it mean exactly when people say "and be in Sajdah (prostration), during which you are closest to Allah." while making Dua.

Does this mean during the namaz? Or after when u have finished can u go into sujood and do your dua? or does it have to be in the middle of the namaz as ud normally go down into sujood, because I thought u have to only concentrate on your namaz while praying and do dua at the end?

 

[Snowflake]

My thoughts are with you dear whoever you maybe..
There are probably 101 things a person can do to recover from what you're going through, but the best and quickest of all i find is reciting/listening to al-Quran, getting on your hands and knees (sujood) and crying your heart out to Allah to help you get over it.

It's simply a matter of making that effort to do it. InshaAllah it won't fail.

 

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender;

I'm going mental and burning inside every day and night thinking they are together and I am suffering so much.

You have described anger very much like this Buddhist saying.

Anger is like picking up a burning coal with the intention of throwing it at the person you are angry with.

The person who gets burned the most is the one picking up the coal, the longer you hold onto your anger the hotter the coal becomes in your hand.

You stay awake at night plotting and getting more angry inside at the injustice, and it eats away at you, it makes you more bitter and twisted. All the time you hold this anger in your mind, the other person controls you, they control what is going on in your head, and you can’t do a thing about it.

The worst thing about anger is that the person you are angry with is probably oblivious of the harm they are causing you.

Forgiveness is not for the benefit of the other person, firstly it is to take away all the feelings of injustice and anger that burn away in your mind. It is a way of letting go, you do not have to pick up this coal to burn yourself.

You do not have to be angry, it is your choice

If you really must tell his current girlfriend that he has been going out with both of you at the same time, then do not do it when you are feeling angry. Like the prophet pbuh said if you are angry standing then sit down, if you are angry sitting then lay down. Do not go round to this woman for a showdown be as kind to her as you can, do not shout and accuse.

If you click on the following link there are many stories of people forgiving, murder, torture, rape, war crimes etc. The more stories you read the more you come to understand the power behind forgiveness. Spend an hour reading, it will be the best way you can spend an hour in your present state of mind.

http://www.theforgivenessproject.com/stories/eric-lomax

in the spirit of praying for the power to forgive.

Eric

 

[Argamemnon]

Sorry to here the state your in, and know it doesn't make me feel better.

What is it that makes you depressed?

If only I knew, but I know exactly how you feel when you say that you are a "living dead girl". I've been feeling like that for years, I feel your pain. It is impossible to explain to people who haven't felt like that before.

 

[Ansariyah]

If it makes you feel any better; I've been feeling severely depressed since 2001. I suffer so much, that despite being a strong believer, I have been contemplating suicide since 2006. It is very wrong for a Muslim to think like this, but every night I go to sleep I hope I never wake up..

The only thing that keeps me from killing myself is the fear of punishment in the Hereafter. Because of my chronic depression and anxiety, I will probably never experience love and marriage in my life. Moreover, I don't have friends or people I can talk to either (except my parents). I fear living in social isolation for the rest of my life, and dying as a very sad and lonely man.

Please don't get me wrong, I have no doubt that you are suffering, but as you can see there are people who are much worse off.. I hope that you will overcome this terrible sadness or depression. Unfortunately, I know very well how awful mental suffering is...

Brother pls don't kill yourself. May Allah grant you happiness ameen. Don't give up hoping for a better tomorrow. Allah can change your fate, pls read the story of Prophet ayub (as), how everything was taken away from him but soon after Allah restored it.

 

[Saimah Ali]

Thank you all for replying. I know you will think I'm going round in circles here, but it's so hard to take the advice when all my common sense is gone out of the window, my brain is not working and I am have no self control.

I'm trying to get up and go to work in the mornings but I have no strength and courage to even get up and face life, when I get to work I am like a living dead girl. I am empty and my whole body is knumb with, anger, emotion, treacherous pain, anxiety and depression.

All i can think if is getting him back for cheating on me. Yes, I know revenge is forbidden in Islam and I should forgive him, but I cannot do that I just can't!

Yesterday i thought I would never find out who the other girl was, but you know what, Alhumdulillah, I have got her phone number (to make a long story short) I knew someone in the same area as him and the girl he's seeing lives there too, she's 19/20 very young where as I am in my late twenties and he is early twenties.

I can't live like this, I can't live with the fact that he has destroyed me and walked away unscathed. Now that I have got that girls details, I will meet her and tell her that he's been seeing the both of us for the same amount of time and he has been lying to us.

I know for a fact he loves her and your probably thinking why am I bothering doing this to them, but I am not putting up with him ruining my life and I'm so hurt by all this. I can't forget this until she knows, yes she might even take him back, but at least she won't trust him.

I'm going mental and burning inside every day and night thinking they are together and I am suffering so much. I have no one, but he had her to fall back on, I am destroyed while they are living happily in love. :enough!:

Sis, only you can help yourself... Heartbreak does not finish that easily...

 

[Zahida]

I have just taken sometime to read this thread and its replies. This situation makes me soo sad, that one human being is relying on another human being so much to the point of self destruction........imsad very sad.

I would like to ask the thread poster a question. Please forgive my brashness, but what would you do if tomorrow he died? (may Allah forgive me)........

 

[Tanya Khan]

How you feeling now> Any different?

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Well, I would have to forcefully move on, but that's not the point, he is here in this world and I'm still dealing with the pain of his betrayal. imsad

 

[zaahid]

Dear Brothers! It is of the law of Allah to test his servants with different kinds of tribulations. The Almighty says:

“And certainly We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to the patient ones. Who when afflicted with calamity say: Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return. They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e. blessings, e.t.c.) (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones.” (Al-Baqarah 2:155-157).