Pls help me I'm going mad!!

[suffiyan007]

say ayatul kursi...and make du'a read some ayat yasin...zikr.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

This is not getting easier for me, I'm going mental I really I am :enough!: I seriously think there is something wrong with me. :-\ :enough!:

Is it gunnah if I went to see someone for help? As in an Alim or someone practising who might be able to tell me what the problem is and why i keep going through this torture over guys and not having any self-control. I know we are not supposed to, and we are only supposed to trust, depend and seek help from Allah (swt) but I don;t know what to do, I can't even get these wild tortureous thoughts out of my head during namaz.

Pls someone advise me.

 

[Cabdullahi]

Sister every1 goes thru this...the devil has one aim and it that aim is to make you have a tendency to do bad things and to protect yourself against this attack is simple because islam is the antidote.....if you read the qura'an everyday even if its ten minutes ,also watching lectures and praying salat all this will help you recover....

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Please give me some affective Dua’s which will help me move on from someone, to get over someone. To not have them in my thoughts every second of everyday, to not think about them in someone else’s arms, to not want them and need them desperately, to not have them haunting my thoughts while I’m praying. :exhausted :enough!: :exhausted :enough!:

ouch!
Ta'awudh as much you can especially when praying.

 

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender; I am so sorry to hear about your heartache,

Coping with life is probably ten percent about the events that happen in your life that you have no control over. Leaving ninety percent as to how you react and cope with these problems afterwards.

Your ex, has not made you a victim, you have given him permission to make yourself a victim, it is in your hands to take control over your own heart and life.

Being a victim stops you getting out of bed in the morning and doing the day to day stuff of life, you loose the will and purpose to continue. No one should have that power over you.

Bereavement is coping with a loss, and however much time you spent with your ex on a daily basis; you have to fill that time with something else worthwhile. Pray, do voluntary work, help someone else with a need, take your mind of your own problems by taking on the problems of another individual.

Only time heals and you need to cope with life always one day at a time, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a great mystery. Lord grant me the peace and serenity to get through today.

Do not hold anger in your heart towards yourself or your ex, learn to forgive and you will find peace.

In the spirit of praying for a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Eric

 

[Tanya Khan]

Just pray InshahAllah evrything will be fine.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Allahumma la sahla illa ma ja'altahu sahlan wa Anta taj'alul hazna idha shi'ta sahlan.(Oh Allah there is no ease other than what You make easy, If You please you make even despondency easy.)
Ibn hibban no 2427, An Nawawi, kitab-ul-Adhkar-pg 106.

Allahumma inni a'udhu bika minal hammi wal hazani, wal 'ajzi, wal kasali, wal bukhli wal jubni, wa dala'id daini wa ghalabatir rijaal.
Oh Allah i seek refuge in you from despondency and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardice, from perversion of faith and from the domination of others.( bukhari 7/158)

Allahumma Rahmataka arju fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata 'ainin, wa aslih li sha'ni kullahu, la ilaha illa Anta.
Oh Allah, i hope for your mercy. Do not tire me of me even for a moment. place all my affair in order. there is no God but you.(Abu dawud 4/324)

Thank you.

Can I read this off paper or do I need to memorise them? Will it be the same effect? I can't memorise nothing right now because my mind is so occupied with mentaly disturbing thoughts. So I an only read them off paper.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender; I am so sorry to hear about your heartache,

Coping with life is probably ten percent about the events that happen in your life that you have no control over. Leaving ninety percent as to how you react and cope with these problems afterwards.

Your ex, has not made you a victim, you have given him permission to make yourself a victim, it is in your hands to take control over your own heart and life.

Being a victim stops you getting out of bed in the morning and doing the day to day stuff of life, you loose the will and purpose to continue. No one should have that power over you.
Bereavement is coping with a loss, and however much time you spent with your ex on a daily basis; you have to fill that time with something else worthwhile. Pray, do voluntary work, help someone else with a need, take your mind of your own problems by taking on the problems of another individual.

Only time heals and you need to cope with life always one day at a time, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a great mystery. Lord grant me the peace and serenity to get through today.

Do not hold anger in your heart towards yourself or your ex, learn to forgive and you will find peace.

In the spirit of praying for a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Eric

Thank you for replying.

I don't understand how I've given him the permission to make myself a victim? Did I know this was going to happen? imsad

I am so deeply depressed that i can't cope even at work, I can't even take time off because I'm scared of being on my own at home, I'll go even crazier. I can't stop these thoughts, I'm going mad. I feel like I am going to collapse. :exhausted

 

['Abdul Rahmaan]

It happens with everyone. I mean, we can't fight with thoughts, can we? The best we can do is try to ignore them at all. You'll feel it difficult to ignore such thoughts in the beginning but with some practice you'll be able to get control over them God willing.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Sister every1 goes thru this...the devil has one aim and it that aim is to make you have a tendency to do bad things and to protect yourself against this attack is simple because islam is the antidote.....if you read the qura'an everyday even if its ten minutes ,also watching lectures and praying salat all this will help you recover....

Thank you for replying.

I know what your saying that readin Qur'an will make me feel better, but need these thoughts of him to go away, far far away from me. :enough!:

I'm not patient at all, how can I be when I am burning inside, it is eating me up that he has left me for someone else.

This is gunnah that i was with him and not even married to him, but you can't help things in this day and age. I want to ask for forgiveness for what I have done, but when I pray it doesn't come from my heart when I say dua, I feel so weak that this man that I am crazy about never had any feelings for me and lead me up his path of betrayal. How does someone ever move on from that? How?

 

[AnonymousPoster]

It happens with everyone. I mean, we can't fight with thoughts, can we? The best we can do is try to ignore them at all. You'll feel it difficult to ignore such thoughts in the beginning but with some practice you'll be able to get control over them God willing.

But I am so impatient, how do I wait for help? This is so so bad that not one of you on this forum will understand the pain, grief and sadness that I'm going through. My chaest feels heavy, My body looks like a stick because I can't eat anything, i've tried believe me, but I feel sick, whatever I eat, it feels like I'm eating rocks!!! I need patience, but I haven't got it.

 

['Abdul Rahmaan]

But I am so impatient

Being impatient isn't a solution, is it?

how do I wait for help?

You don't have another option, have you?

This is so so bad that not one of you on this forum will understand the pain, grief and sadness that I'm going through.

We can't feel the same pain, grief and sadness but we can understand to some extant that how much paint, grief and sadness you're going through as you've explained it quite clearly.

My chaest feels heavy, My body looks like a stick because I can't eat anything, i've tried believe me, but I feel sick, whatever I eat, it feels like I'm eating rocks!!!

Nothing's wrong with you. Problem is that you are thinking negatively. There's always a solution of every problem. All we have to do is to get committed to ourselves to find it.

I need patience, but I haven't got it.

Look sister, just be strong OK!. I mean, don't talk like this continuously. Every time you talk like this, your though gets stronger that you can't deal with the situation. You can.

YOU DO HAVE PATIENCE. JUST LEARN TO BE PATIENT. :thumbs_up

Don't be dis-heart OK! Once I got such depressed and I discussed it with someone. I was told that:

ALLAH TAA'ALA DOES NOT PUT A BURDEN ON SOMEONE BEYOND THEIR CAPACITY TO BEAR IT.

SO YOU CAN BEAR THE PAIN, GRIEF AND SADNESS COZ ALLAH TAA'ALA DOES NOT TELL A LIE.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

But I am so impatient, how do I wait for help? This is so so bad that not one of you on this forum will understand the pain, grief and sadness that I'm going through. My chaest feels heavy, My body looks like a stick because I can't eat anything, i've tried believe me, but I feel sick, whatever I eat, it feels like I'm eating rocks!!! I need patience, but I haven't got it.

Believe it or not there are others going through the same, though everyone handles things differently the heavy chest and loss of apetite thing will go away, though personally that made me happy because i lost loads without dieting! Though maybe too much but Alhumdulillah
And you do have patience even if you dont know it. Its whats getting you up in the morning even though you probably feel even thats not worth it. the pain itself may take a long time to go away, though you'll be half your normal self again soon Insha Allah

May Allah make your affairs easy for you. And never underestimate the power of Dua.

 

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender;

But I am so impatient, how do I wait for help?

You won’t learn about patience today, or tomorrow, or next month, but in two or three years time you may start to learn a little about patience.

This is so so bad that not one of you on this forum will understand the pain, grief and sadness that I'm going through.

Sadly you are the only one who will experience grief from this broken relationship. Although I experienced something very much the same as you about thirty five years ago, it took a long time for me to learn patience.

You can get over this and become a kinder and stronger person, the solution is always about finding the strength to get through today, tomorrow will take care of itself.

In the spirit of praying for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding

Eric

 

[F0z14]

AsalaamAlakyum brother/sister. hope u are in good wealth and eeman. im so sorry to hear about your pain, and understand that i do know how u feel. i pray that Allah swt relieves u from all the heartache u are feeling.

u are letting this affect u, by not taking control of urself. from past experiences i have learnt that people can offer u kind words, which help but only for a little while. the only one that can relieve u from this pain and heartache is Allah swt alone. believe me when i say this. i remember myself a few months ago seeking help from any1 who would listen, dont get me wrong we are all here 4 u, but only Allah can grant u ease. u know what, thank Allah swt for saving u from so much haraam. Alhamdulilah. i knw heartache hurts so much, but if you jus accept this pain as a blessing in disguise u will really benefit from it. trust me. ive been there. and u know what, now i am fully practicising and i have the opportunity to repent to Allah for all my previous sins. alhamdulilah. lifes too short and precious to worry about things, things that are haraam and not in our control.
no1 in this world is worth ur Hereafter, so dont let any1 affect you. if u ever need to talk everybody here is here 4 u, but the most practical advice i can give u is ti trully let go. i know how hard it can be, but jus pray to Allah to make it easy for you, and inshAllah He will help you.

please take care of urself, your worth more than this. plz dont let any1 make u feel this low, no1 is worth the pain

a beautiful sis once told me, Allah swt takes away from you, what takes u away from Him...

 

[F0z14]

sorry sis i jus read ur previous posts. u can PM me anytime. sis hes not worth it, Allah swt saved u from further pain!

 

[Argamemnon]

This is so so bad that not one of you on this forum will understand the pain, grief and sadness that I'm going through.

If it makes you feel any better; I've been feeling severely depressed since 2001. I suffer so much, that despite being a strong believer, I have been contemplating suicide since 2006. It is very wrong for a Muslim to think like this, but every night I go to sleep I hope I never wake up..

The only thing that keeps me from killing myself is the fear of punishment in the Hereafter. Because of my chronic depression and anxiety, I will probably never experience love and marriage in my life. Moreover, I don't have friends or people I can talk to either (except my parents). I fear living in social isolation for the rest of my life, and dying as a very sad and lonely man.

Please don't get me wrong, I have no doubt that you are suffering, but as you can see there are people who are much worse off.. I hope that you will overcome this terrible sadness or depression. Unfortunately, I know very well how awful mental suffering is...

 

[maryam87]

Ok maybe i dont understand anything cause ive never have fallen in love before and got my heart crashed but i dont seem to understand why people go depressed ova things that were haram to begin with!!!!!
I mean whats more depressing leaving u or going to hell cause of ur sins that u committed to gain couple of days of pleasure??????????
I cant seem to comprehend this plz dont get offended but there is much more important things u should be thinking about then a guy who doesnt deserve u.
Ur only cure is to listen to lectures about what happens when u die, the rememberence of death should refreshen ur heart and make u realise u need to spend more time asking Allah (swt) to forgive u rather than still thinking bout a worthless guy!!!!!!!!

 

[Argamemnon]

I totally agree with Maryam. Most of our problems arise from our weak imaan! Even I myself, despite suffering mentally, remember feeling jealous of some of my relatives who have beautiful wives (for example).

I had to deal with harmful thoughts like; "Allah, what have I ever done to you that I live this pathetic life, while other men have wives and enjoy life at its fullest". Thoughts like these are a result of having a weak imaan, no doubt.

 

[maryam87]

If it makes you feel any better; I've been feeling severely depressed since 2001. I suffer so much, that despite being a strong believer, I have been contemplating suicide since 2006. It is very wrong for a Muslim to think like this, but every night I go to sleep I hope I never wake up..

The only thing that keeps me from killing myself is the fear of punishment in the Hereafter. Because of my chronic depression and anxiety, I will probably never experience love and marriage in my life. Moreover, I don't have friends or people I can talk to either (except my parents). I fear living in social isolation for the rest of my life, and dying as a very sad and lonely man.

Please don't get me wrong, I have no doubt that you are suffering, but as you can see there are people who are much worse off.. I hope that you will overcome this terrible sadness or depression. Unfortunately, I know very well how awful mental suffering is...

U dont have to answer this if u dont want to, but what are u diagnosed with? u seems to have extremely low self esteem brother why??