Polygamy

Here pops up sometimes these discussions about polygamy. I would like to ask, if it´s not too personal, have those brothers already any kind of experience about polygamy or the marriage life in general?

Anyways, no need to answer if my question was too meddlesome but I would like to recommend to those ones whose are still single, to gain some personal experience about marriage life first. Something about 10 years with one wife sounds enough exercise. After that you can start to consider the next one.
 
?????? too funny but true
 
sister herb said:
Here pops up sometimes these discussions about polygamy. I would like to ask, if it´s not too personal, have those brothers already any kind of experience about polygamy or the marriage life in general?

Anyways, no need to answer if my question was too meddlesome but I would like to recommend to those ones whose are still single, to gain some personal experience about marriage life first. Something about 10 years with one wife sounds enough exercise. After that you can start to consider the next one.
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Salaam sister herb

Yip I totally agree

I am married for 9 yrs though, 3 beautiful kids, love my family dearly, but hey we man, there's something about this subject that's built into us. We cant help it, lol
 
It may surprise a few of you to see me write this, but I have absolutely no issue with Poligamy. I also have no issue with polyandry. The problems arise when the marriages are forced or culturally pressured, as we have seen in some of the Mormon cases.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:


:wasalamex

How many of you lower your gaze in the street? That should answer your question!
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Best way to lower the gaze is if you wear glasses and remove the glasses so that you don't see anyone's faces. Hahahaha

I do this. [emoji39]

But then my friends wave and I accidentally ignore.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:


:wasalamex

How many of you lower your gaze in the street? That should answer your question!
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Lol, what has that got to do with having a first or second wife ???

Oh yes it does, coz u know y, a sahabi r.a. Had a problem with gazes.

Nabi (saw) advised him to take a second wife, and problem still occurred so Nabi (saw) advised him to take a third wife and this helped him with his gazes.

So what's UR advice, u have better advice than Nabi (saw) ???????

Please u don't have to answer, might be detrimental to ur imaan !!! Seeing that u are anti polygamous
 
abumuslim82 said:
Lol, what has that got to do with having a first or second wife ???

Oh yes it does, coz u know y, a sahabi r.a. Had a problem with gazes.

Nabi (saw) advised him to take a second wife, and problem still occurred so Nabi (saw) advised him to take a third wife and this helped him with his gazes.

So what's UR advice, u have better advice than Nabi (saw) ???????

Please u don't have to answer, might be detrimental to ur imaan !!! Seeing that u are anti polygamous
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Alhamdulillaah my Imaan is secure, which is more than I can say for yours. You men can't even give 1 woman her rights, what makes you think you can give 2 women her rights?! JOKE.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:
Alhamdulillaah my Imaan is secure, which is more than I can say for yours. You men can't even give 1 woman her rights, what makes you think you can give 2 women her rights?! JOKE.
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...Ayesha r.a. said a person who thinks they a good person is actually a bad person, and vice versa........ I bet u know wats playing today on ur dajjal box (TV)
 
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Bhabha said:
Best way to lower the gaze is if you wear glasses and remove the glasses so that you don't see anyone's faces. Hahahaha

I do this. [emoji39]

But then my friends wave and I accidentally ignore.
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good one sister, lol
 
Pygoscelis said:
It may surprise a few of you to see me write this, but I have absolutely no issue with Poligamy. I also have no issue with polyandry. The problems arise when the marriages are forced or culturally pressured, as we have seen in some of the Mormon cases.
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Dude, u intelligent in dunya, be wise and become a muslim, u will be our brother and intelligent for both worlds.

the Prophet (saw) wrote a letter to Khalid bin Waleed r.a ( before he accepted Islam ), asking him to accept Islam, reading sumfin to the effect, " Khalid u are so intelligent, y haven't u accepted Islam as yet?" This was in the 8 year after hijrah.

after this specific letter, Khaleed r.a. prepared asap and set off for Madina where he accepted Islam. and through his Courage and valour he is known till today as Saifullah ( sword of ALLAH)
 
No need for personal attacks, lol. Such topics are always so controversial. :skeleton:

Islam greatly restricted polygamy to only four wives, this mainly serves the function of protecting vulnerable women and is governed by many conditions according to Shariah, and if a man cannot treat them all justly and with fairness (which very few can these days tbh) then it is better he only marries ONE. If any of his wives have any justified complaints against their husband, he will be accountable.

(4:3) If you fear that you might not treat the orphans justly, then marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four.[SUP]4[/SUP] If you fear that you will not be able to treat them justly, then marry (only) one.
 
:salam: abumuslim82

afaik, the purpose of polygamy is to lower the gaze, but also to protect women. I doubt many can be just to more than 1 wife nowadays.

I've nothing against polygamy, as expected. but yeah. Polygamy, only if you can be just.

And Allah knows best.
 
Salaam All

The wives of our beloved Rasulullah (SAW),

Ummuhatul mumineen, our mothers.

1. SAYYIDAH KHADIJAH (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)

2. SAYYIDAH SA'UDA (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


3. SAYYADAH AISHA SIDDIQUE (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


4. SAYYADAH HAFSA (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


5. SAYYADAH ZAYNAB (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


6. SAYYADAH UMME SALMAH (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


7. SAYYADAH ZAINAB (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


8. SAYYADAH JUWAIRIYAH (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)

9. SAYYADAH UMME HABIBAH (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)

10. SAYYADAH SAFIYAH (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)

11. SAYYADAH MAYMUNA (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)


12. SAYYADAH MARIA QIBTIYA (RADI ALLAHU ANHA)

oh ALLAH, please give us the qualities of the Sahabah radiallahu anhum, ameen ameen ameen
 
noraina said:
No need for personal attacks, lol. Such topics are always so controversial. :skeleton:

Islam greatly restricted polygamy to only four wives, this mainly serves the function of protecting vulnerable women and is governed by many conditions according to Shariah, and if a man cannot treat them all justly and with fairness (which very few can these days tbh) then it is better he only marries ONE. If any of his wives have any justified complaints against their husband, he will be accountable.

(4:3) If you fear that you might not treat the orphans justly, then marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four.[SUP]4[/SUP] If you fear that you will not be able to treat them justly, then marry (only) one.
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the Quraan ayah is true, their are so many scared men and woman in todays times, for the sahabah r.a. polygamy was kind of a norm.

so ladies, beware, if ur husbands or future husbands don't wana be polygamous, they mite put up this brave front and say how much they love u, but in actual fact they just scaredy cats
 
abumuslim82 said:
so ladies, beware, if ur husbands or future husbands don't wana be polygamous, they mite put up this brave front and say how much they love u, but in actual fact they just scaredy cats
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Or then they have understood that having more than one wife isn´t compulsory in Islam. You better stop name calling (scaredy cats?) of other people whose don´t think alike you. It´s a bad habit and against the Islamic manners.
 
abumuslim82 said:
As salaamu alaykum my muslim brothers and sisters.

I don't understand why this subject has become such an issue today,

lots of muslims say they accept polygamy but just not for themselves. is this not a contradiction, coz we supposed to love for our muslim brother / sister what we love for ourselves.

So many sisters, due to male female ratio will not get married, if we don't start promoting and acting on this.
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If you can treat each wife equally, go ahead. But prepare for double the headaches :)
 
sister herb said:
Here pops up sometimes these discussions about polygamy. I would like to ask, if it´s not too personal, have those brothers already any kind of experience about polygamy or the marriage life in general?

Anyways, no need to answer if my question was too meddlesome but I would like to recommend to those ones whose are still single, to gain some personal experience about marriage life first. Something about 10 years with one wife sounds enough exercise. After that you can start to consider the next one.
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I agree with half of what you mention, basically polygamy begins with monogamy, worry about monogamy first, then polygamy.

Don't have too wait 10 yrs though, lol. I'm married for almost nine yrs, I wana polygamise, just have to build up sum courage, make dua me me n ummah please, that our RABB gives us what's best for our imaan.
 
sister herb said:
Or then they have understood that having more than one wife isn´t compulsory in Islam. You better stop name calling (scaredy cats?) of other people whose don´t think alike you. It´s a bad habit and against the Islamic manners.
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??? Lol, oh k
 
Few of my friends commit polygamy. But before they commit polygamy, no one of them who rant "I want polygamy! .... I want polygamy!".

Different than my wife relative who ranted "I want polygamy!". But until his wife passed away more than 15 years later he still in monogamy because ...... no woman was willing to be his second wife.

;D
 

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