Problem concerning engagement

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yh i no sis, but b4 i started to become a 'proper' muslim (may allah help me with this) i had contact with that girl, and had known her for some time. So that's why
 
that is a whole new kind off nastiness... not only is he gonna kill the poor brother but he is gonna make a slush puppy out of him, that is REALLY nasty.

Bro, not that it is a deal breaker but do you know the translation of the dua for salaat ul istikhara? if you did then maybe it would make things seem to make sense for you more.

assalaamu alaykum,
Abu Abdullah
 
teen-omar said:
she already told her mum about it, but i am still waiting a while, because today i got fone calls and threatening text messages from her brother, who is telling me 2 leave her alone and not get in contact with her
i mean, what am i supposed 2 do?
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First you have to show the message to her to see if the phone number belong to her brother.
 
Sallam Tania, i already know that this number belongs to him, because she sent me a txt later on stating that i shudnt text her on her numba, becasue her brother has got her fone. And not only that, he broke the fone the next day.....
so wat now??
wassalam
 
Greetings
Your parents what did they say concerning your intentions :?
 
my parents won't mind me getting married as soon as possible, since in islam it's a godd thing to get married when you're young.
so they are fully accepting this step of mine
 
^^^ akhee...i think the first thing is to proof your ikhlaas (sincerity) to the family.

It may takes time. But if you persistent and sabr InshaAllah you can marry her.

And the first thing to show ur sincerity is to not having contact with the girl. It'll be a good thing too if you be brave enough to contact the brother and apologize for the whole thing...but at the end bravely telling him...I'll need your approval to marry your sister and InshaAllah i'll try my best to win your heart.

Just show your courage and determination in the best manners...that you can.

If you really want her...just have patience and try your best.

But at the end you have to remember, its up to Allah subhanahuwata'ala to decide.

wassallam
 
Why are you not sending your parents to her parents to propose her and see what is their really position on the issue :?
 
:salamext:

You might not have noticed sis Tania but:

today i got fone calls and threatening text messages from her brother, who is telling me 2 leave her alone and not get in contact with her
i mean, what am i supposed 2 do?
the guy doesn't even know me, and yet he is making prejudice on me
In 1 of his texts he is saying: "I swear by allah if u get near my sister or are in contact with her i will slush ur throat. ur kafar and mortad for ur action"
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:-\
 
nothing islamic in the following advice, but have you asked yourself do you really want to be part of this family??? a brother-in-law who threatened to slash your throat?
personally, i would run in the other direction.
 
Muj4h1d4 said:
:salamext:

You might not have noticed sis Tania but:



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I read that but i thought may be her brother is the "bad apple" of the family. Reading what sis Snakelegs wrote i realise even if he is the "bad apple" her family will never can protect him enough so its better to stay out.
 
sallam aleikum
i have been doing istikhara for a week or so now, and this morning i woke up knowing that i had a dream concerning the engagement (^^)
i dont know if it's a positive or negative dream,since i cant interpret dreams like some people can.
i just wanted to know which step should i take now after i have finally received a 'sign'?
wassalam
 
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Let your parents worry about that. All you need to do is play nintendo. And finish your A-levels/Uni degree.

It is not that hard.

Jokes aside; take snakelegs' advice, as your potential spouse's brother wants to kill you! (if he wants to do that NOW, what will he do when you're married?! - that thought alone scares the pants off of me). I strongly suggest that you do NOT marry her. Don't be some fool who lets his emotions cloud his judgement - especially in the case of marriage.

Secondly, please talk to your parents about this - if you do anything after reading this post, let it be that you speak with your parents about this situation. Marriage is a serious matter and you really, really should tell your parent about the whole situation - including what you've written on here in regards to the 'engagement'.
 
if a girls brother texts me saying that, i would leave it there and then.

Clearly the family isnt interested in giving the daughter to you... why pursue it?!


brother, theres plenty of great sisters out there, make dua' to Allaah to guide you to one who will lead you to jannaah.


Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullaah
 
u think so??
but couldnt it be possible that her brother is just being 'over-protective' towards his sista, because he finks that i'm not serious about the engagement thing? but the thing is that i'm serious, and i might be able to prove it to him. do u think i should do this or not?
 
teen-omar said:
u think so??
but couldnt it be possible that her brother is just being 'over-protective' towards his sista, because he finks that i'm not serious about the engagement thing? but the thing is that i'm serious, and i might be able to prove it to him. do u think i should do this or not?
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is her brother practising?! mature?! sane?! capable of being a wali?!

Ok, if you want you can take it to the father, lol may Allaah help you.


Be as kind and careful as you can in your approach, do it in the most lawful manner.

To be honest, if i approached a girl in a haram way and realised my mistake later on, i would leave that girl and hope for barakah in a 150% halal marriage.

Thats my opinion, wa Allaahu a'lam


Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullaah
 
IbnAbdulHakim said:
if a girls brother texts me saying that, i would leave it there and then.

Clearly the family isnt interested in giving the daughter to you... why pursue it?!


brother, theres plenty of great sisters out there, make dua' to Allaah to guide you to one who will lead you to jannaah.


Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullaah
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:salamext:

It's not easy to let go of someone you love.
 
Muj4h1d4 said:
:salamext:

It's not easy to let go of someone you love.
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people also say its not easy to let go of dunya, but those who strive for the sake of Allaah can attain unimaginable rewards inshaAllaah.


Assalamu Alaikum
 

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