asianmuslim
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As salaam alaikum
I am a married woman from India. I have a few problems with my in laws and I seem to be stuck. My inlaws have bought a
house which is close to where their married daughters stay. The daughters have issues of their own with the elder sister in
law having her sister in law and kids coming to her house continuously. As a result my father in law who is very dominating
brings his daughters to our house every weekend. I am then supposed to cook, clean and take care of her kids. I am a
working woman and this situation became unbearable. I used to cry nights together and pray. Initially my husband said that
she has issues and will continue to come. The sisters are very interfering. They used to call my husband at 11:30 at night
and sometimes even 2 am at night when they have fights with their in laws. Eventually my husband understood that the
situation was not right and moved us away to a place close to our office and away from his sisters. Still, these girls
would invariably fight with their in laws and then come stay at our place for days together. Finally my husband got an
onsite opportunity and we shifted abroad for a year. Now I am here. But my father in law continues to bring the daughters
to our house in India every weekend. My mother in law keeps saying that we bought the house close to where my daughters are
so that we could see them and their kids frequently.All this greatly upsets me. I also contribute to paying the loan
payments of the house but have no say in what my in laws do there. I keep stressing that when we go back my father in law
will force us to stay in that house and keep calling his daughters and force me to serve them.
My husband and I are trying to coneive for a year, but I had ovulation issues which the doctor corrected and husband has
low sperm motility.He does not take any medicines for it. I keep worrying about all these things and at the back of my mind
dont have peace. We are supposed to take care of old parents and that is what I want to do, but their behaviour and
ineterfernce of their daughters makes me want to run away from them. That is what we are doing now.We did try confronting
them once but my father in law blew it and sister in law also paid no heed to what we had to say. I am really messed up and
not sure what to do. I dont want to fight and argue. Please advise
I am a married woman from India. I have a few problems with my in laws and I seem to be stuck. My inlaws have bought a
house which is close to where their married daughters stay. The daughters have issues of their own with the elder sister in
law having her sister in law and kids coming to her house continuously. As a result my father in law who is very dominating
brings his daughters to our house every weekend. I am then supposed to cook, clean and take care of her kids. I am a
working woman and this situation became unbearable. I used to cry nights together and pray. Initially my husband said that
she has issues and will continue to come. The sisters are very interfering. They used to call my husband at 11:30 at night
and sometimes even 2 am at night when they have fights with their in laws. Eventually my husband understood that the
situation was not right and moved us away to a place close to our office and away from his sisters. Still, these girls
would invariably fight with their in laws and then come stay at our place for days together. Finally my husband got an
onsite opportunity and we shifted abroad for a year. Now I am here. But my father in law continues to bring the daughters
to our house in India every weekend. My mother in law keeps saying that we bought the house close to where my daughters are
so that we could see them and their kids frequently.All this greatly upsets me. I also contribute to paying the loan
payments of the house but have no say in what my in laws do there. I keep stressing that when we go back my father in law
will force us to stay in that house and keep calling his daughters and force me to serve them.
My husband and I are trying to coneive for a year, but I had ovulation issues which the doctor corrected and husband has
low sperm motility.He does not take any medicines for it. I keep worrying about all these things and at the back of my mind
dont have peace. We are supposed to take care of old parents and that is what I want to do, but their behaviour and
ineterfernce of their daughters makes me want to run away from them. That is what we are doing now.We did try confronting
them once but my father in law blew it and sister in law also paid no heed to what we had to say. I am really messed up and
not sure what to do. I dont want to fight and argue. Please advise
help you and your family and rectify all of your affairs, Aameen.