Question: abuse of wife from husband- should she stay?

[Ansariyah]

If it was somebody else I'd tell her to get the Hell out of there. I would hate to see a sister suffering.

I know its hypocritical but I myself would stay in the marriage, well that's what I think now. Why? Because knowing myself better than anybody, I know I'd be living in the past and hoping for a tomorrow that was as bright as the first year of marriage.

Why wud u? That's truly sad. Abuse is not OK..it doesn't matter who does it..even if its ur lovely husband.

Why be a slave to another living creature? Allah is the only God that deserves to be worshiped.

Any man who hits a woman is a coward n deserves no respect, n shud be beaten up!!

I am not very forgiving towards any abuse...! Period.

Children are no excuse, Children will suffer, n why keep them around a man whos such bad influence, n hits their mother? It's better to be alone, then to stay in an abuse marriage.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

^agreed! and also sis amat, i dont see why you cant get that lovey doveyness lol from someone else

 

[TabTabiun]

should a wife, if being physically/mentally/emotionally abused by her husband (god forbid) stay in the marriage, for the sake of her children...?

your views?

No if someone is in a abusive relationship they should not stay in the marriage, because that is oppression.

 

[Intisar]

You should never use your children as an ''excuse'', for lack of better word, to stay in an abusive marriage. You're actually harming your children because you're making them live and be surrounded by an unsafe environment. The wife isn't the only one who's going to suffer from the abuse, your children will be victims too. Who's to say he won't abuse the children either? People like that are mentally disturbed subhanAllaah, sometimes wives have nowhere to run to and their family won't believe them. imsad I've known some women who've stayed with my family because no one would take them in and they're husbands would beat them up so badly that their faces looked so bruised up. My Daddy was so mad one day that he went to a man's house and told him to stay away from his now ex-wife. He was ready to beat him up, but he knew that wouldn't solve anything. She has a restraining order against him now, she still blames herself for it. Her kids are precious though, I consider them my little brothers and sisters, even though I don't have any. Alhamdulilah it doesn't seem to have affected them, many women end up resenting men as a result of what they've experienced (deadbeat dad who's a wife beater).

 

[Muslim Knight]

Abuse is not right but you can always go to the Qadi or proper authorities to make a complaint. Muslimahs all, know your rights.

 

[Dua_e_Sehar]

Hmm...a tough question...Indeed a sad situation....Such things look easy to answer or say advice...as no one can understand what a perosn goes through........but the person who is going through only can make this decision....Kids will suffer in either case...:s...Indeed Islam teaches us first to try our best in any relation before giving up.....as divorce is the most disliked act.....I 'm sure there is a reason why she is suffering.....if she can change her husband or herself for a better marriage and kids, it wud be good....BUt if there is no happiness, no way, no good outcome, no scope of the husband changing himself...then the women can have her say as its the matter of her self-respect also.....she only has the right to make a decision best for herself and kids....she has to be strong and seek Allah's help(make dua)....May Allah(swt) guide her towards the best !!