Brothers and Sisters,
Well basicly i was just wondering what islam says about critics and criticism because in every day life of a teen you find out that your best friend has been saying things behind your back or either they just say it in front of you, and others just laugh with them... Well basicly i mean what does islam say about two faced backstabbered? Or critics?
Can anyone help me?
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Asalaamu Alaikum, jazakallahu khayr for your question. One of the most important things we must do, which sadly a lot of us neglect, is that we should totallu avoid bad company. We should avoid taking as friends those who speak too freely, who miss Salah, who do not dress modestly, who backbite, slander and especially those who are two faced as you have described. Those are the people who when they are in front of you they talk about others and when you are not infront of them they talk about you.
From my experience in life so far i can tell you that bad company will never be of any benefit to you in this life or the next but will actually cause more harm than good. The company of such people is poison; just even sitting and talking with them will lead one to commit sins. Just as a person who sits for a long time with a perfume seller begins to smell nice, and a person who sits by a gutter cleaner begins to smell awful, similarly a person who spends time in the company of the wicked eventually gets affected badly by them.
Rather, we should seek out pious friends who fear Allah taala and who have the qualities of humility, charity, compassion, modesty and knowledge. If we sit with them we will always benefit and they will be a means for us to get closer to Allah taala!
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) said, “The case of the good companion and the bad companion is like that of the seller of musk and the blower of the bellows (iron-smith).
As for the seller of musk, he will either give you some of the musk, or you will purchase some from him, or at least you will come away having experienced its good smell. Whereas the blower of the bellows will either burn your clothing, or at least you will come away having experienced its repugnant smell.” [Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim].
So what you must do is to disregard such people and do not keep them as company or as friends for they are not your true friends. The true friend is he who will benefit you in this world and the next.
So seek out true friends from those who fear Allah and practise and pray and strive to get closer to Allah. Seek out those with good characters and piety. Keep close contact with the Masjid and attend Islamic courses etc and keep company those people who are doing the same.
Ask of Allah to give you true friends as company and those who will benefit you in this world and the next and help you to get closer to Allah and fear him.
Never keep bad friends because
Remember: “All friends will be enemies of one another on that Day (Day of Judgment) except those of the virtuous.” (al-Qur’an 43:67)
May Allah give us all good and pious company who will help and benefit us in this world and the next. Ameen
And Allah knows best in all matters
