clearly i have offended every one of you and i'd like to apologise. Please accept it and hear my explenation.
Not offended. Just sad that people can be so misguided. What you are saying is about the equivalent of people saying that "muslims are terrorists". It is not necesarily malevolent. It is just misguided and ill informed.
this society of sex, drugs and rock and roll
Right here is part of your misconception. You see sex and rock and roll as sinful/bad. I don't. I see some but not all drugs as destructive. I have no moral qualms with moderate alcohol or marijuana use, though I don't personally partake in either.
So yes, I may engage in behaviour you would find sinful, but that doesn't mean I will engage in rape, murder, theft, dishonesty, etc. Because I too see those things as wrong. Your religious background is causing you to lump all "sinful" things into one category and you seem to be assuming that because people outside your background engage in some things you see as sinful they will engage in other thngs you see as sinful. This simply isn't so.
living with a materialistic mindset (house/wife/car possession/pride etc etc)
I suppose I am somewhat materialistic. I don't acquire things for the sake of acquiring them and I don't earn money to be rich. But I do like to have enough stuff to make me comfortable and entertained. Nothing wrong with that.
Therefore when you dont have faith or God to help you to really fight your innerself and restrain yourself from sinning how is it that we can believe that your being honest?
As I noted above, you are going to have to define sinning. I don't need a God to stop me from killing people, stealing, aggravating, abusing or generally making people feel bad. Empathy is enough.
Empathy is seeing yourself in others and feeling their pain. The part of your brain that feels pain is the same part that is activated when you see anoher in pain. So you are motivated not to cause others trouble/pain and to help them out of it when they are in it.
There is no need for God in this. God just complicates things.
most without direction/guidance will do as they please... or am i being unfair?
Most without direction/guidance WILL do as they please. I agree. But direction/guidance need not be religious, and "what people please" isn't often so bad. And being able to do it is what we call Freedom.