Ramadhan as a non-muslim.........

[tomtomsmom]

My dear, you are much more kind and patient than I! I would have either become very angry... or cried. I take things too personally.

It makes me so sad to see that people think they are better than others, superior and can do and say whatever they want. In the meantime, they are only demeaning themselves and God will deal with them as he sees fit when the time comes.

Don't feel bad, as those who talk in peoples' backs only do it because they themselves are so insecure that they feel the need to make others feel worse than they do. Only then can they feel good about themselves.

Thank you. You give me more credit than I deserve. I was angry and I did cry (blame pregnancy hormones!) but I am much too proud to show it to anyone but my husband. I am too stubborn to give them the satisfaction of seeing me upset over their ignorance.

 

[mariam.]

As many of you may know, I am a non-muslim woman married to a muslim man. This is the first Ramadhan that I have been invited to any family dinners to break the fast. Well, Saturday I went to one and it was........disappointing to say the least. My husbands family was wonderful! It was other guests that ruined the night for me. Some of the women were blatantly talking about me in arabic and saw nothing wrong with it. They laughed in my face at the way I pronounce the very few arabic words that I know. I was told that I should not pay attention to them and not let it get to me. They said that a lot of arabic women act this way. Sorry if I offend anyone, but this is simply NOT RIGHT!


I am not telling you all of this because I want a pity party. I am telling my story to serve as a simple reminder. This is a holy month that even I, as a non-muslim, can appreciate. Please remember that as you go throughout your days. You may feel that you are better because you are muslim and the person beside you is not. But there is no need to let that person know you feel that way. Consider how you make people feel in the way you act around them. Just because I may not understand the words, the intent is very clear. And if I know the intent, so does God.

And he is always watching.

peace be upon you tomtomsmom:

sister, please accept my apology and don't bother with what those women did .. they missed out the prophet way and forget that God has conferred a favor upon them that He has guided them to the faith.

and I ask God who knows every thing .. to Show you and me the straight way, The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace .. Ameen

God said in his holy book: " O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): nor let some women laugh at others: it may be that the (latter are better than the (former): nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: and those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong. "

the prophet mohammad peace be upon him said:" Where there are three of you in a company ,two should not hold confidential talks together till the number increases,lest the third man might fell annoyed. "

peace .. see you in makkah insha'allah (God willing)

 

[Ommuslim]

I am Muslim and Arabic, I assure you, it isn't common, advised nor normal to backbite or deride, even for two parties to engage in conversation and exclude the third...

peace!

I have nothing to say more
blessed Ramadan everyone