Re propose to a guy?

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I saw him for the first time I was 18 years.... I told him that I liked him when I was 21 he rejected me then I asked him again when I was 23 he rejected me and blocked me on social media site. That felt like a punch in the chest imsad Then I stopped going to that same Masjid,deleted my social media for 2 years and focused my on career. But I can't get over him and now I am 27 years old. I feel like asking him ONE more time. This time I am not going to asking him but tell my parents to give it a shot?

Idk if I should tell my parents that he has rejected me in the past before? I think if I tell them the truth they are going to say "Are you crazy" if that guy doesn't like you. You are going to make us go there to beg them? But I know they are allowing me to marry one of my choice. Or I should say just that I like someone and tell them who he is???

 
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I dont think the person is interested and the best thing would be for your parents to find you someone else. You'll hopefully be able to move on. Unrequited love hurts but sadly its part of life. A lot of people have to deal with living life with a broken heart and the best way is to move on with a person that will like you back and not to focus on the person who does not.

peace.
 
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Sister, have you performed Istikharah? Instead of asking us, ask Allaah, who KNOWS what is good/bad for you...
 
I agree, I think istikhara is the best thing to do now.
Maybe if you told your family that you had asked them before they would lead you in some direction that They see is best for you.

Allah knows all that we do not
 
No need to perform istikhara because it's has been clear that he is not interested to marry you. So you should not humiliate yourself for the third time through trying to get him again.

What you should do now is realize the reality that he is not the only man in the world. There are many other men in the world, and In Shaa Allah, one or few of them interested to marry you. If you are still obsessed to get him, actually you are also closing your chance to meet another man who interested to marry you. What you will feel if few years later you see him lives happily with his wife while you are still alone?.

Bury your obsession to get him, and open your heart to accept someone else. Then perform salah tahajud and continue with dua, wish Allah connect you with another man who interested to marry you.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:
Any time you are stuck with ANY decision, it is recommended to perform Istikhara. After all, it will do NO harm.
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No need to perform salah istikhara for something that has been clear. Clearly, that guy is not interested to marry her. So she doesn't need to decide will she try to get him again or not. The salah that she must perform now is salah tahajjud that continued with dua, wish Allah give her another man.
 
I remember I did istikhaara when I was 27 years old. I had a dream on the day of Arafat. I had this dream I saw iman wearing green color color. In the dream I was wearing baby pink wedding lehenga. I saw the masjid where I was. Then after that my mom walked me to his car,I saw him and his mom. His mom touched my face and smiled like if she is happy. (It felt so real like her hand touching me.) I have never met his mom in person. I woke up I felt this dream wasn't a dream like it's real.Once I went outside to my car I got wet because it was raining my clothes got wet.

[FONT=arial, helvetica, sans-serif]My mom talked to him before about 7 years back. She asked him about his parents what do they do for living. He said they own a convenience store. My mom got upset at me when she found that their profession is so looked down upon. Before he blocked me on social media he said he was too low for me...... Now its been 7 years I never mention him to my parents. I am a MD half way through residency. My cousin sister is also a MD is married to another MD. I like the other guy he is in business profession.


[/FONT]I think I've lost :hmm:
 
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I remember I did istikhaara when I was 27 years old. I had a dream on the day of Arafat. I had this dream I saw iman wearing green color color. In the dream I was wearing baby pink wedding lehenga. I saw the masjid where I was. Then after that my mom walked me to his car,I saw him and his mom. His mom touched my face and smiled like if she is happy. (It felt so real like her hand touching me.) I have never met his mom in person. I woke up I felt this dream wasn't a dream like it's real.Once I went outside to my car I got wet because it was raining my clothes got wet.

My mom talked to him before about 7 years back. She asked him about his parents what do they do for living. He said they own a convenience store. My mom got upset at me when she found that their profession is so looked down upon. Before he blocked me on social media he said he was too low for me...... Now its been 7 years I never mention him to my parents. I am a MD half way through residency. My cousin sister is also a MD is married to another MD. I like the other guy he is in business profession.


I think I've lost :hmm:
 
:salamext:

Do Istikharah again now, and see what the outcome is and how you feel after it
 
May Allah help you..Just make dua that Allah helps you to have a happy marriage. Maybe there will be another man whom you will love more.
 
HappyMuslimaa said:
I agree, I think istikhara is the best thing to do now.
Maybe if you told your family that you had asked them before they would lead you in some direction that They see is best for you.

Allah knows all that we do not
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Do you think its a good idea to tell my parents about who I like. I mean suppose my mom calls on my behalf and talks to his mom. His mom asks him and he tells his answer by phone. That would be embarrassment of my parents. Also if he knows me he wouldn't want arrange meeting with my family but his parents dont me.
 
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At the end of the day, maybe the guy wasn't ready before and you feel contented after Istikharah now because he is ready?

You won't find a definite answer unless you ask your wali to speak to his dad...
 

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