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So great is the importance of salat in keeping the Muslim strong and steadfast in Islam that it is an obligation under all circumstances, even when one is ill, traveling, or in battle. However, certain concessions have been made for such situations. Thus, one who is ill and cannot perform salat in the usual manner may pray sitting in a chair or lying in bed, moving his hands (or if this is not possible only his eyes) to indicate the various motions. When one is traveling, he can shorten his salat and combine the second and third, and the fourth and fifth, prayers of the day so that he prays three times a day instead of five; he can, if necessary, pray while seated in his vehicle or mount, and similar concessions are made for soldiers in battle. If salat is not performed at the proper time for any reason, it is to be made up as soon as possible thereafter; it may not be missed altogether. The sole exception to this is women during menstruation and up to forty days following childbirth; these are excused from salat entirely for the duration of their condition for the reason that cleanliness (that is, the absence of bodily discharges) is a requisite for the performance of salat.


Salat is preceded by an ablution known as wudu during which the exposed parts of the body are washed; this brief preparation of the mind and body for the act of prayer is an essential requirement. If water is not available (during travel or under other unusual conditions) or if its use is likely to injure the worshipper (as in the case of serious illness or wounds), he may instead make a symbolic cleansing called tayammum without the use of water. The ablution may be maintained from one prayer to another if it is not broken by any bodily discharge, such as urination or defecation, passing gas, seminal discharge, vomiting, bleeding, etc. A full bath by means of running water (ghusl) is required after marital relations, seminal emission, and the termination of menstruation or post-partum bleeding.
 
:sl: sister.
this is my sugesstion on how to wash your feet, or just to do wodoo in genrral. carry around a drink bottle and do wodoo over a toilet bowl, so that tjhe water that u use for wodoo out of the drink bottle, spills into the toilet bowl. i know that sounds weird, but its better than nothing. just clean up the spills that get onto the floor with the toilet paper there.
:sl:

When Kuala Lumpur had water shortages somewhere in 1997, I bought mineral water (which is more expensive than petrol) and took ablution.
 
you know what...you can also pray at your desk...

if you can't pray while standing...you can pray while sitting...

but if i'm wrong...can anyone please correct me...

I am not physically able to do much of the physical aspects of praying, so I have to pray in a chair. I wonder if somebody could offer the poster some assurance that if we can not pray in the proper manner we are permitted to pray in the best manner we can.

I can not say for certain, but I think this may also apply not just to physical limitations but also to limitations caused by surroundings. I do not want to lead the poster astray, so could some knowledgable person elaborate a bit on this?
 
I am not physically able to do much of the physical aspects of praying, so I have to pray in a chair. I wonder if somebody could offer the poster some assurance that if we can not pray in the proper manner we are permitted to pray in the best manner we can.

I can not say for certain, but I think this may also apply not just to physical limitations but also to limitations caused by surroundings. I do not want to lead the poster astray, so could some knowledgable person elaborate a bit on this?


Yes that would be a big help too since when my Lupus is in a flare up my body aches and it is difficult to do all of the motions.

Also, are knee pads ok to use? My knees are junk after the last two days since I have hardwood floors in my home and although I do have my prayer rug it doesn't give much help whatsoever. I have huge bruises on my knees now.:cry:
 
Asalaamu 'alykum warahmatulaahi wabarakaatuh.


Try this link insha'Allah, it may be of some help regarding the sitting in your prayer:

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=36738&ln=eng&txt=sit down



When is it permissible for a person to pray sitting in obligatory prayers?
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=67934&ln=eng&txt=salaah

Rulings and issues about praying on a chair

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=50684&ln=eng&txt=salaah


She feels anxious – what should she do?
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=21515&ln=eng&txt=salaah

His boss doesn’t let him pray
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=38106&ln=eng&txt=salaah


I want to be a devoted slave of Allaah … ten pointers

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=34306&ln=eng&txt=salaah


She wants to be a good Muslim

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=8424&ln=eng&txt=salaah


It is difficult for him to pray because his work is hard

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=9561&ln=eng&txt=salaah



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Yes that would be a big help too since when my Lupus is in a flare up my body aches and it is difficult to do all of the motions.

Also, are knee pads ok to use? My knees are junk after the last two days since I have hardwood floors in my home and although I do have my prayer rug it doesn't give much help whatsoever. I have huge bruises on my knees now.:cry:

No problems with knee pads. Once u wear the correct clothing for praying u can wear ure knee pads. Our masjids has carpets with sponge underneth...so its quite soft to kneel on.

With regards to praying while sitting:

Sahih Bukhari Volume 2:218
Narrated Imran bin Husain
had piles, so I asked the Prophet about the prayer. He
said, "Pray while standing and if you can't, pray
while sitting and if you cannot do even that, then
pray lying on your side."
 
I kind of knew that I shouldn't do it in there so I didn't. I did two when I got home. It's been a very stressful day to say the least. The honeymoon is over I guess. :cry:

I had to explain to my children what I was doing and they were totally freaked out. They interrupted my second prayer twice so I had to start over again. Then I explained it to them. Should have done that from the start but "oh well". They kept saying "well I"m not doing that!!!".

I told them that they don't have to but it is what i want to do to get closer to G-d.

I'm so beat and I have to to two more prayers because since I did two once we got home, then I cooked dinner, made lunches, cleaned up and got them ready for their first day at school tomorrow I had already missed the fourth prayer. I'm not used to waking up so early in the morning either.

Top that off with my sister emailing me telling me not to go to Egypt because it's a "Muslim country" and I'll surely be captured and made a slave and to watch "Not Without My Daughter" and well let us just say it has been a day of testing.

Oh did I mention I have Lupus? Well I"m now in the midst of a flare-up to top it all off and I just feel like giving up.

:cry:


Salaams, please dont give up sis. May Allah give you strenght and make it easy for u to practice ure islam ameen. Insha Allah ure childeren will follow u in the future and u would be able to show ure sister that muslims are not terroists/ slave drivers or bad ppl insha Alah.
 
Sister Doodlebug, lol, nice name by the way...

Anyways, your story saddens me, especially what most the women have to go through here in the U.S. About not being able to wear hijab at the workplace, finding a place for prayer without interruption, then dealing with your kids and everything all at the same time.

Before you can even pray at your workplace, you must have permission from boss or whatever to do your prayers there.
Also, it would be best to have a talk with them, because they will probably help you find a good place where you can do your salat in peace.

And if you do have to do it in front of everyone, don't be imbarrassed or afraid, I would be more afraid of Allah if I didn't do it.

As far as doing Wudhu in the bathroom, ya, it might seem weird at first, but then people will get used to it. I have had people come in and be like "what the heck are you doing?" haha, and i would tell them straight out that "I'm gettin ready for prayer, duh" or something like that... If you make a joke or something, it will be easier for others to ask you about it and you can explain why you do what you do.

I have even had people walk into the private office while i was praying, and kept with my prayers and paid them no mind and after i was done they were like "what are you doing in there?" and I would tell them i was praying and that i have to do this 5 times a day, and they usually are like "that's so cool"

Keep your deen strong sis, things will work out Inshallah. And if your physically able to do the prayer, then you should do it the right way and not at your desk or car. If you have to, ask a friend that has an office if they don't mind you praying in the corner of their office, it might be weird at first, even just to ask, but always remember that your doing it for Allah.

About the kids and stuff, i dont really know how to deal with that since i don't have any, lol.. but the office, i can help with since i pray here all the time. Take care,

Kidman
 
I kind of knew that I shouldn't do it in there so I didn't. I did two when I got home. It's been a very stressful day to say the least. The honeymoon is over I guess. :cry:

I had to explain to my children what I was doing and they were totally freaked out. They interrupted my second prayer twice so I had to start over again. Then I explained it to them. Should have done that from the start but "oh well". They kept saying "well I"m not doing that!!!".

I told them that they don't have to but it is what i want to do to get closer to G-d.

I'm so beat and I have to to two more prayers because since I did two once we got home, then I cooked dinner, made lunches, cleaned up and got them ready for their first day at school tomorrow I had already missed the fourth prayer. I'm not used to waking up so early in the morning either.

Top that off with my sister emailing me telling me not to go to Egypt because it's a "Muslim country" and I'll surely be captured and made a slave and to watch "Not Without My Daughter" and well let us just say it has been a day of testing.

Oh did I mention I have Lupus? Well I"m now in the midst of a flare-up to top it all off and I just feel like giving up.

:cry:

Do your children know the man you are marrying and do they want to come to Egypt with you?
 
hmmm i didnt realised that she was marrying and moving to egypt....


i'm not moving to egypt! lol

Yes my kids have talked to him a bit each night and they know him and joke with him and stuff. I am not moving to Egypt though and I will not be taking my children with me on my visits, etc.

he would love for me to move there and so would I but my children have to come first and their relationship with their dad is super important so we will live here in the US until they are done with school and then insha Allah we will live in Alexandria and I will no longer have problems practicing my religion, insha Allah! :)
 
Inshallah everything works out for you, and I wish the best for your children.

Kidman
 
i'm not moving to egypt! lol

Yes my kids have talked to him a bit each night and they know him and joke with him and stuff. I am not moving to Egypt though and I will not be taking my children with me on my visits, etc.

he would love for me to move there and so would I but my children have to come first and their relationship with their dad is super important so we will live here in the US until they are done with school and then insha Allah we will live in Alexandria and I will no longer have problems practicing my religion, insha Allah! :)

oh i understand... so they get along well... that is good...

Anyway i was thinking (and i do not have children yet) that maybe they are giving you a hard time because this is a lot of change for them that they have no control over... like their mother just changed religions and is getting married to somebody from a totally different culture, and their parents are divorced... its just a lot... maybe if you talked to them about it a little bit and found out about their personal fears or concerns about the future it could make them see things in a different perspective?
 
oh i understand... so they get along well... that is good...

Anyway i was thinking (and i do not have children yet) that maybe they are giving you a hard time because this is a lot of change for them that they have no control over... like their mother just changed religions and is getting married to somebody from a totally different culture, and their parents are divorced... its just a lot... maybe if you talked to them about it a little bit and found out about their personal fears or concerns about the future it could make them see things in a different perspective?


I know it is a lot. The divorce though happened long ago. they don't remember their dad living with us. They were one and two when he left me for the woman he is married to now.

The hard part is that they have lived in a house where it is just girls for sooooo long. It's just been the three muskateers for a very long time so that will be hard to adjust to.
 
Asalaamu 'alykum warahmatulaahi wabarakaatuh.


Check this link insha'Allaah:

http://wudumate.co.uk


hmmmm...not sure how to word this but.............the wudu that I learned was to :

wash hands 3x starting with right hand
wash mouth 3x
wash nose 3x (in and out with the water)
wash face 1x
rub wet hands over head 1x
wash ears 1x
wash up to elbows 3x starting with right arm
wash feet 3x starting with right foot.



so............what's up with the "intimate" washing?:?
 

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