relationship problems...pls help

[vpb]

sorry brother, you have to clarfiy that further. i didn't fully understand it.

many people tend to say that "ohh it's allright , I'll do it, it will not make do haram, I have a strong eman", or "what's wrong with having a girlfriend/boyfriend, I will not have sexual intercourse, I will never do it", so this is what I was talking about that you may think that you are strong enough to have a relationship outside marriage with someone and not have sexual relationship, but you never know, the nafs can dig a ditch for you, and you can fall on it anytime. so that's why Allah az. tells us to stay away from zina, why? bc Allah knows that we tempted, and it's possible that we may commit zina even we think our iman is strong. so that's why we have to "runnnnn" from something which might lead us to a sinful act.
We should avoid those paths that lead to sinful act rather than being brave and saying "i can have a girlfriend, but I will never do zina, I have a strong eman". u never know.

Allah knows best.

 

[youngsister]

actually nowdays I think marrying muslim sister is much harder than non-muslim. cuz many of them just require everything.

When you marry a non muslim the relationship is most of the times 50/50, the same could be with a muslimah but your duty is to provide from clothes to food to knowledge basically everything

 

[irfan alam]

Its Allah who controls the hearts, so turn to him in obedience and Dua, he will respond.
Anyone can get married, but what people desire is Happieness, comfort.
because you plan to spend the rest of your life together. Allah says in the quran that verily in the remembrance of allah do the hearts find rest. so follow the way of life allah has sent down to the best of your ability, and Allah will soon join you with someone who will help u in that. Together u will live, then die, then meet again in Jannah where u will abide therein forever, with Allah of course. Look for someone who obeys and is trustworthy to his lord allah. That way u know he will be trustworthy and true to u. if someone does not appreciate the blessings, Allah has given him, then I doubt very much he will appreciate u as a person, instead his main goal will be to satisfy his desires.