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Men Greeting Women

Hadith - Malik's Muwatta Book 53, Number 53.1.2
Yahya related to me from Malik from Wahb ibn Kaysan that Muhammad ibn Amr ibn Ata said,

"I was sitting with Abdullah ibn Abbas when a Yemeni man came in.

He said,
'Peace be upon you, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing'
(as-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu),
and then he added something more to that.

Ibn Abbas said (and at that time his eyesight had gone),
'Who is this?'

People said,
'This is a Yemeni who has come to see you,' and they introduced him.

Ibn Abbas said, 'The greeting ends with the word blessing.' "

Yahya said that Malik was asked, "Does one greet a woman?"

He said, "As for an old woman, I do not disapprove of it.
As for a young woman, I do not like it."
 
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Greeting Jews and Christians

Hadith - Sahih Bukhari Book 25, Number 5389,
Narrated AbuHurayrah that Allah's Messenger said:
Do not greet the Jews and the Christians before they greet you
and when you meet any one of them on the roads
force him to go to the narrowest part of it.

Hadith - Malik's Muwatta Book 53, Number 53.2.3
that related to me from Malik from Abdullah ibn Dinar that Abdullah ibn Umar said
that the Messenger of Allah said,
"When a jew greets you, and says 'Death to you' (as-samu alaykum)
say, 'And to you.' "

Yahya said, "Malik was asked whether a person who greeted a jew or christian,
should apologise for it.

He said, 'No'."

From Jaabir Ibn Abdullaah who said:
"Men from amongst the Jews greeted the messenger of Allaah .
So they said: 'As-Saam Alay Kum (May death be upon you) o Aba-al-Qaasim.'
So he said, 'And unto you' (Wa Alay Kum).
So Aa'ishah(r) became angry,

and she said, 'Did you not hear what they said!?!'
So he said, 'Indeed, and I returned it on them,
and verily we answer them, and they don't answer us.'"
[Saheeh Muslim 5/7 of the Arabic. Shaykh Al Albaanee cites it in Mukhtasar Saheeh Muslim no. 1433, p. 672.]

It is worthy to note that scholars such as Imaam Muslim considered this reply to be general, and not to be specific to the situation mentioned.
 
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Sitting in a Circle to Join the Believers

Hadith - Malik's Muwatta Book 53, Number 53.3.4
Yahya related to me from Malik
from Ishaq ibn Abdullah ibn Abi Talha from Abu Murra,
the mawla of Aqil ibn Abi Talib from Abu Waqid al-Laythi that

the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
was sitting in the mosque with some people when three people came in.

Two came toward the Messenger of Allah and one went away.

When the two stopped at the assembly of the Messenger of Allah,
they gave the greeting.

One of them saw a gap in the circle and sat in it.

The other sat down behind the circle.

The third turned away and left.

When the Messenger of Allah finished, he said,
"Shall I tell you about three people?
One of them sought shelter with Allah, so Allah gave him shelter.
The other was shy, so Allah was shy to him.
The other turned away, so Allah turned away from him."
 
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Shaking hands

Hadith - Muwatta 55.2
Malik related to me from Muhammad ibn al-Munkadir
that Umayma bint Ruqayqa said,

"I went to the Messenger of Allah with the women who took an oath of allegiance with him in Islam.

They said,
'Messenger of Allah!
We take a pledge with you not to associate anything with Allah,
not to steal, not to commit adultery, not to kill our children,
nor to produce any lie that we have devised between our hands and feet,
and not to disobey you in what is known.'

The Messenger of Allah said, 'In what you can do and are able.' "

Umayma continued,

"They said,
'Allah and His Messenger are more merciful to us than ourselves.
Come, let us give our hands to you, Messenger of Allah!'

The Messenger of Allah said,
'I do not shake hands with women.
My word to a hundred women is like my word to one woman.' "

Hadith - Abu Dawood, Narrated Al-Bara' ibn Azib that
the Prophet said:
If two Muslims meet, shake hands, praise Allah,
and ask Him for forgiveness, they will be forgiven.
 
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Not Replying to Salaams

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 41,
Narrated Uthman ibn Affan that When the Prophet died,
some of his companions were so much aggrieved (at his death)
that they were disposed to doubts.

Uthman said: I was one of them.

While I was sitting there happened to pass by me Umar
and he offered me salutation which I did not notice.

Umar made a complaint of that to AbuBakr.
Then both of them came and offered me salutation and AbuBakr said:

What prompted you to ignore the salutation of your brother, Umar.

I said: I never did that.

Umar said: By Allah, of course you did that.

I said: By Allah I did not perceive that you passed by me and paid salutation.

AbuBakr said: Uthman is speaking the truth
and something must have absorbed your mind
(that you did not take notice of this matter).

I said: Yes it is so.

He said: What is that?

I said: Allah has taken away His Prophet SAAWS before we asked him
how we could free ourselves from the snares of the world and the devil.

AbuBakr said: I did ask about that.

So I got near to him and said to him:
May my father and mother be taken as ransom for you
and you were the worthiest to ask.

Thereupon AbuBakr said:
I said to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him),
how one could free oneself from the snares of the world and devil.

Thereupon Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said:
He who accepted from me the word that I presented to my uncle
which he rejected is the freedom (from them)
(Affirmation of the oneness of Allah and the Apostlehood of Muhammad).
[Transmitted by Ahmad]

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 4249,
Narrated Anas ibn Malik that Anas or someone else told that
Allah's Messenger asked permission to enter the house of Sa'd ibn Ubadah saying,
"Peace and Allah's mercy be upon you."

Sa'd replied, "And upon you be peace and Allah's mercy,"
but did not speak loud enough for the Prophet to hear.

He gave the salutation three times and Sa'd responded three times,
but did not speak loud enough for him to hear,

so the Prophet (peace be upon him) went away.

Sa'd went after him and said,

"Messenger of Allah, for whom I would give my father and mother as ransom,
you did not give a salutation without my hearing it and responding to you,
but I did not speak loud enough for you to hear
because I wanted to receive many of your salutations and so receive great blessing."

They then entered the house
and he offered him raisins which Allah's Messenger ate. T
hen when he finished he said,

"May the righteous eat your food,
may the angels invoke blessings on you,
and may those who have been fasting break their fast with you!".
It is transmitted in Sharh as-Sunnah.
 
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End a Three Day Dispute with Salaams

Hadith - Sunan of Abu Dawood 4894,
Narrated Abu Hurayrah that tThe Prophet said:
It is not allowable for a believer to keep from a believer for more than three days.
If three days pass, he should meet him and give him a salutation,
and if he replies to it they will both have shared in the reward;
but if he does not reply he will bear his sin (according to Ahmad's version)
and the one who gives the salutation will have come forth from the sin of keeping apart.
 
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Greeting All in a Muslim Region

Hadith - Malik's Muwatta Book 53, Number 53.3.6
Yahya related to me from Malik from Ishaq ibn Abdullah ibn Abi Talha that at-Tufayl ibn Ubayy ibn Kab told him that

he visited Abdullah ibn Umar one morning and went out with him to the market,
and when they were out,
Abdullah ibn Umar did not pass by anyone selling poor merchandise
or selling commodities or a needy person or anyone but that he greeted them.

At-Tufayl said,
"I came to Abdullah ibn Umar one day and he asked me to follow him to the market.

I said to him,
'What will you do in the market if you will not stop to sell nor seek any goods
or barter with them or sit in any of the assemblies or market?'

Abdullah ibn Umar said that we should sit down and talk, and then he explained,

'Abu Batni, (lit. father of the belly, at-Tufayl had a prominent stomach),
we go out in the morning only for the sake of the greeting.
We greet whomever we meet.' "
 
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Greeting During a Khutba (Friday Sermon)

One should not speak during the khutbah.

Hadith - Al-Muwatta 5.8
Yahya related to me from Malik from Abu'n Nadr,
the mawla of Umar ibn Ubaydullah,
from Malik ibn Abi Amir that Uthman ibn Affan used to say in khutbas,
and he would seldom omit it if he was giving the khutba,

"When the imam stands delivering the khutba on the day of jumua,
listen and pay attention,
for there is the same portion for someone who pays attention
but cannot hear as for someone who pays attention and hears.

And when the iqama of the prayer is called,
straighten your rows and make your shoulders adjacent to each other,
because the straightening of the rows is part of the completion of the prayer."

Then he would not say the takbir until some men who had been entrusted with straightening the rows came and told him that they were straight.
Then he would say the takbir.
 
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The Miser

Hadith - Bukhari's Book of Manners #1046
Abu Huraira, r.a., said,
"The most miserly of all people is one who is miserly with greetings.
The weakest of all people is a person who is weak in [making] du'a (supplication prayer).".
 
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Greeting during Eid*

It is permissible for Muslims to greet each other on the day of Eid with specific greetings that have been reported from the sahabah (ra).
Responding to a question in this regard,

Ibn Taymiyyah (r) said:
"As for people greeting each other after the eid prayer by,
'Taqaballahu minna wa mimkum' (may Allah accept from us and you) - it is reported that some of the shahabah practiced it, and the scholars permitted it.

However, Ahmad said,
'I do not initiate saying it to anyone; but if one says it to me, I answer him.
This is because responding to a greeting is obligatory,
but to initiate the greeting is not a required sunnah, neither is it prohibited:
whoever does it it would have an example (from the salaf)
and whoever does not would have a predecessor as well."
(Al Fatawi 24:253)

Jabyr ibn Nufayr said:
'When the companions of Allah's Messenger (saaws) met on the day of eid,
they would say to each other,
'Taqaballahu minna wa mink (may Allah accept from us and you)."
[Al Mahamiliyyat; hasan isnad; see Fath ul Bari 2:446]

And Muhammad ibn Ziyad said:
I was with Abu Umamah al Bahili (ra)
and some other companions of the Prophet (saws).
When they returned from the eid,
they said to each other, 'Taqabbalallahu minna wa mink."

*taken from "Celebrations in Islam", compiled by Muhammad al Jibali.
 
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If it is not known whether a person is a Muslim or a kaafir,
can we say salaam to him?

Action Items for the uttaqun:
When someone asks something to the effect of, "How are you?"
you should reply "Alhamdulilah".

It is discouraged that a man should greet a non-mahram woman
If entering the room or leaving it, be the first to give the salaams.

In all cases, it is recommended to try to be first to give the salaams.

In a muslim region,
it is recommended (within reason) for men
to initiate the salaams to all of the men
(unless having a reasonable reason to believe the person is not a muslim)

Do not be the first to greet a jew or a christian
Give salaams when greeting or departing from animals,
such as before mounting a horse, and even to pigs.

Do not wave your hands with palms facing the person,
which has historically been and still is the way Christians greet with gestures.
Likewise do not use your fingers as the Jews do.

If a jew greets you with that which sounds like "as sala'amu alaikum",
reply "wa laik" if it is one jew; "wa laikum" if it is more than one.

Do not shake hands with someone of the opposite sex who is non-mahram.

You may, upon greeting of a muslim of the same sex, shake hands,
as long as you do not make a tradition out of doing so,
such as making a tradition out of doing salah with believers
and then immediately shaking hands afterwards,
giving salaams.

Give salaams to foster love between believers.
 
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Assalamu'Alaykum

Whoa subhanallah, many people and my friends say when they give Salaam to certain people they don’t respond....

Alhamdulillaah i have to say i never to my knowledge have gotten shot down, Whenever i gave Salaam 99.9 (1 % because maybe there was a time that i did but cant remember) They respond back to me. I guess because i am soo cheerful and smiley face people cant help but to reply... they better! :mad:

But seriously, if i say Salaam and i dont hear they reply... i blame myself because i wasn’t loud enough... so i repeat myself and the second time they will reply.... 100 % they will respond. what i think maybe is that they are too caught up in thinking about other things, they dont know whats happening around them.

Alhamdulillaah i haven’t experienced the feeling of not getting reply back... Allah knows my heart is too weak to handle such rejection, for that, I think if i was ignored i would :'(

When a Muslim sister is walking and i am coming she sees me smiling even though i don’t know her that doesn’t stop me in my heart i am thinking.... I’m going to say Salaam first its like a race for me so when they make eye contact with me and they see me smiling they know what’s coming next :D .
 
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Asalamu Alaikum

Ummuafeera, a very big thank you for your contribution.

Insha Allah let's try remind each other if a person forgets to greet before typing out their post. Let's make it all our duties from now on.
 
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Thanks for the information.
Walakam Salaam.
 
Re: Plz say Salam

Salam - The Islamic greeting

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[Adil Salahi]
03/01/2003



Muslims all over the world use the Islamic form of greeting, "Assalamu alaikum", which means peace be to you.
The very wording helps generate a friendly and relaxed atmosphere. It is also common in its shorter and longer forms to all Muslim communities wherever they happen to be. Thus, when two Muslims meet who are total strangers to each other, the moment they use this greeting, they immediately feel that they have common grounds, even when they do not speak each other's languages.


The Islamic greeting has different versions, the shortest of which is the one we have already mentioned. The rule in Islam is that when we are offered a greeting, we return it with a better one, or with its equal at least. God orders in the Qur'an:
"When a greeting is offered you, answer it with an even better greeting, or (at least) with its like. God keeps count of all things."
[Surah an-Nur; 4: 86]


The better greeting and reply are illustrated in the following Hadith. Umar (radiAllahu anhu) reports that he was riding with Abu Bakr (radiAllahu anhu) on one mount. When they passed by people, Abu Bakr (radiAllahu anhu) greeted them saying: 'Assalamu alaikum' and they replied: 'Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatu Allah.' Or he may greet them saying: 'Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allah,' for which their reply was: 'Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh.'
Abu Bakr (radiAllahu anhu) commented: "Today, people have gained much more than us."
[Sahih al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]


We note that every time Abu Bakr (radiAllahu anhu) offered a greeting, its reply was the same with an addition. The first one was the short form of the greeting of peace. The reply stated: 'Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatu Allah.' This means: 'And to you be peace together with God's mercy.' Thus, the reply adds a prayer that the person who offered us a greeting should be blessed with God's mercy, both in this life and in the life to come.
When the person who starts the greeting includes in it this same prayer for mercy to the one being accosted, the latter replies with yet another addition, 'wa barakatuh,' which adds a wish for Allah's blessing to the one who took advantage and offered us a friendly greeting. Abu Bakr (radiAllahu anhu's) comment at the end of the Hadith shows that he was pleased with the fact that people always replied to his greeting with a better one.


These are the normal form of greetings mostly used in Muslim communities. Rarely does a greeting go beyond these. It is reported that a man from the Yemen visited Abdullah ibn Abbas (radiAllahu anhu) and greeted him with the full greeting 'Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh,' but added something extra. Ibn Abbas told him: 'A greeting of peace ends with the wish for God's blessings.' This means that Ibn Abbas thought that such addition is unnecessary.
However, Kharijah ibn Zaid, a scholar of very high standing who belonged to the generation that followed the Prophet's companions, i.e. the tabieen, used to write when he addressed the caliph: 'Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh wa maghfiratuh wa tayyib salawatih.'


The added last phrases express a prayer that the addressee will also have Allah's forgiveness and special blessings. Kharijah would not have added these phrases if he had the slightest doubt about such addition being appropriate. His father was distinguished among the Prophet's companions for his scholarship. When we have two reputable scholars expressing opposite views, we say that one of them was aware of something the other did not know. Perhaps Kharijah was aware that when addressing a person of eminence, the use of additional phrases would be in order.


Another Hadith that speaks of the importance of the wording of the Islamic greeting quotes the Prophet as saying:
'The Jews do not envy you for anything more than they do for the greeting of peace and saying Aameen.' This Hadith stresses the special distinction given to the Islamic greeting.


The Jews the Prophet refers to here are the ones with profound knowledge, such as the well- versed rabbis. They are the ones to appreciate the significance of the Islamic greeting, assalamu alaikum.
Aameen is a word which we say when someone addresses a prayer to God. It signifies a request made to God to answer his prayer. This makes the prayer a collective one, with all those who are present joining their fellow Muslim in an appeal to God on behalf of the one who is saying that prayer. But why would the Jews be envious of our greeting?


The word 'Salam', which means peace, is also a name of Allah. Using it in our greeting is a constant reminder of the special relation between a believer and Allah.


We have already mentioned that the Prophet has encouraged us to use the Islamic greeting often, and with all people. But how important is it to greet others?
To answer this question we mention a Hadith reported by Abu Hurairah (radiAllahu anhu) who quotes the Prophet as saying: 'A Muslim has a right against his fellow Muslim in six ways.' Asked what were these, the Prophet said:
'(1)When you meet him, greet him;
(2) if he invites you, accept his invitation;
(3) if he seeks your advice, give him an honest and sincere advice;
(4) if he sneezes and praises God, bless him;
(5) if he falls ill, visit him; and
(6) if he dies, attend his funeral.'
[Sahih al-Bukhari and Muslim]


The Hadith is clear in making it a duty of a Muslim to offer a greeting to his fellow-Muslim when they meet. The one who takes the initiative is in a better position. Although offering a greeting is a sunnah, which means that it is highly recommended, returning a greeting is obligatory. The other five aspects also help to cement relations within the Muslim community. All of them fall within the category of Sunnah, except for giving an honest advice, which is obligatory. A person who is asked for advice commits a sin if he deliberately and knowingly gives the wrong advice. To do so is dishonest, and dishonesty is forbidden in Islam.
 
Re: Plz say Salam

Asalamu Alaikum

jazak allah khieran ekhi

i have noticed the same too, may Allah keep us in reminder of him so that we may please him inshallah :)

The love, the strength, the power in saying salam is so great, that the Prophet Muhammad (saw), said - narrated by Abu Hurayrah (ra): "If anyone of you greets me, Allah (swt) returns my soul to me and I respond to the greeting." Subhanallah.

subhanallah!

fi aman Allah
w'salaam
 

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